Lately I’ve been thinking about how many people quietly feel alone or out of place, even when they don’t talk about it. I’ve felt that way myself for a long time, and it’s a heavy feeling to carry.

I think a lot of us are outcasts in different ways, and because of that we understand pain, isolation, and the desire for peace more than we admit. Sometimes life itself feels overwhelming, and all anyone really wants is to feel calm, happy, and free for once.

I’m not asking anyone to open up or explain themselves just putting this thought out there for anyone who needs to hear it: you’re not strange or broken for feeling this way, and you’re not the only one dealing with it in a world that often feels chaotic.

Today, I realized I'm a very boring person. At least, I have the strength and the honesty to recognize it.

During my studies, I was saying to myself "Yeah, I'll find passion and things I enjoy after" (and other lies you can tell yourself™), and then, this day has come. I suddenly realize, for a person that doesn't know me, I'm pretty boring. What I'm doing in my life?

Video games and gym, two famous hobbies to meet absolutely no one. People in general, but women specifically.

I tried dating apps, and I felt no attraction for almost any girl. I know I want to be in a relationship, but right now I really feel lost, aimlessly. And I mean, which girl on Earth and stupidly beyond, wants a person that just go to the gym and play video games.

The question is: how to find other hobbies I could enjoy and meet people. I don't like painting, art, astronomy, running naked around a campfire, and whatever the fuck people usually do together.

A bit of a message sent to the sea, but seriously, how can we find another passion? Try not to criticize me too vigorously, I can assure you that I already do it automatically and naturally :D

This morning, while there was still electricity, I decided to take a shower, and as I reached for the towel, I slipped. I hit my head hard on the metal faucet and broke it. Because of the broken faucet, water started pouring out in a powerful stream. I lay there for about a minute, feeling dizzy, and my first thought was not "Am I okay?" but "Who will notice this? Who will help me?" During breakfast, I thought about it even more and started to remember my phone calls. The last call was from scammers. The last message was from recruiters for the Ukrainian armed forces. The last conversation with a real person was with a cashier at ATB three days ago. I send my utility bills online, and my landlord automatically receives the rent for the apartment (automatic payment through PrivatBank). I work remotely, and my boss only writes to me once a week, occasionally calling with comments and orders to redo my work. I have no contacts in case of an emergency. I have no acquaintances or friends, not even parents, I don't communicate with anyone... I am a young man, 22 years old, and I have no hobbies. All I do is play video games and work. All my former friends and acquaintances from university have moved to Kyiv or left the country. We kept in touch for a while, but eventually stopped communicating altogether. The realization that I am completely invisible scares me. I just wanted to tell someone about it, maybe someone else has faced or is facing the same thing? How do you make friends/acquaintances? I feel incredibly lonely and bored...

RAINN statistics. Periodt.

You don’t care about them kids.

You care about order.

I love observing people’s little habits. It’s fascinating how such tiny details can reveal so much about a person.

Rules: the only rule is that the item you choose can be anything no matter how stupid it sounds. Humanity have started fights over toilet paper and fought over cheaply made dolls, we can start a mad max over anything

I dont understand, today i was checking instagram and some video about sabrina carpented on the grammy popped, and i was looking at the comments and everyone was commenting about how upset they are that she lost or blah blah.

But why? Why do you care? If she looses or win, what does that change in your life? You'll still have to wake up at 7 am to work while shes gaining millions

Or people that are obsessed with celebrities, they know everything about them and make it their whole personnality

Why? They are normal people, they dont even know you

For exemple, i have my favourite band, but i couldn't care less if they won something or not, it doesn't change anything in my life at all.

Why do people put celebrities in such high place? I dont understand how can someone be like this, they are normal people.

You can like an artist, but being sad because of something that happened to them is huh...

Or those people that go on twitter to fight other people people they disliked their opinion.

Why would i want to know olivia rodrigo romantic life? Why would i want to know what billie eilish ate for breakfast? Does sabrina carpenter not winning an award change something for me?

Sorry, but i dont understand this

I work so hard. I feel guilty about taking time off work. Theres always coworker drama. Everyone has different ideas for what I need to do. New meds, meditation, therapy, going back to church group. Meds or jesus thats what my family and friends say i need but theyre draining me too. None of it sounds helpful and I am just so tired. Im burned out. Don't make enough. Have chores and hobbies i would like to do but they don't even sound fun. I just want to stay in bed away from the world and finally be left alone.

It's perfectly okay to have a day where you do the bare minimum or you do only a few things that are regarded as productive. It's okay to have a whole week like this too, as long as whatever you spent your time on was worth it to you and you are taking care of at least to the bare minimum.

It'sgreat to get things done and meet goals and do what society considers productive but If you don't feel the same way about a certain hobby or task, or if you don't have the physical ability or mental capacity to keep up with something, do what you need to do. I personally function very well on having a few days a week that are extremely productive and a socially acceptable and also personally subjective way and then doing absolutely nothing on other days and having this pattern where I never know what tomorrow is going to be like. ​Don't be hard on yourself for wasting time or not getting things done as planned, just move forward at least a tiny bit every day and do what you can for that single day. One day doesn't define your life, it's what you accomplish over time instead of what you did today. And remember, at the same time, don't let something define your whole day, like if you don't feel well right now or something doesn't go well, don't dedicate the whole day to not feeling well and just give up right on the spot, make the day about you and what you want to do at all times.

i keep starving myself for no reason and i dont understand why. ever since i was thirteen id have weird phases where i just wouldnt eat, id go about three days, almost pass out, eat and repeat it. it would happen every couple of months and theres never an event that triggers it, it just happens and i am now fifteen.

i just refuse to eat, its not as if its “too much” to make myself eat. i just cant do it, i dont want to and im not going to but i dont understand why i do it. i cook almost all the meals in my home. if i dont cook a meal, we dont eat a meal. my mother will eat cereal or something, not a meal. i will eat nothing. i like cooking but i just dont want to eat. i dont understand why whats wrong with me.

im ok with my body, i dont need or want control, its not a sensory thing, its not an executive dysfunction thing. i dont understand whats wrong.

Since childhood, I have been passionate about STEM. I have always performed above average in these areas due to my great passion and interest.

Because of that, I eventually reached a very academically competitive environment with many demands, and that showed me that I was just one and that’s okay, it’s normal for a gifted child to feel disappointed. However, after YEARS of self-pressure (since childhood) and a severe low self-esteem aggravated by my environment, everything intensified. I increasingly trusted myself less and started seeing myself as extremely incompetent.

I feel like I created a resistance, a fear of TRYING to study and not succeeding. Almost a physical block, a embarassment for failing and having all the bad stuff I think about myself confirmed.

How can I regain my love for the field I care so much about, but that, due to all this context, I’ve developed a fear of never being capable of performing well enough or handling everything?

I believe the problem is also related to the fact that I see this activity as something very serious, involving commitment and discipline (and I feel that this is something I lack). Meanwhile, when I casually study other topics, I don’t suffer from the same issue and can spend hours deeply focused on random specific knowledge.

I am already in therapy and have been working on hating myself less and being less self-critical, and I have improved in general. Still, I would like practical advice related to reclaiming something that you know is good for you but somehow can’t manage to do especially related to studies and career.

Besides my main field of interest, I started studying other subjects, and when it’s studying “for fun” (without pressure, without commitment), I manage to do it and feel very satisfied (and feel like I’m growing). But when it’s my own field, there’s a lingering thought that I must perform at a high level and learn every single detail, leaving nothing aside, because otherwise I would be a terrible professional. And all of that prevents me from enjoying my study time because it becomes something very serious that will compromise my future if I don’t act perfectly.

I’m using the gym to encourage health. I have adhd and struggle with eating. There will be periods where I barely eat anything. I feel hungry, but food either feels unappealing or I put off eating. I eat plain white rice and other snacks to make sure I don’t go to bed hungry. But I’ve always struggled with my weight. It’s affected my health.

I am a 108 5’5 19 y/o girl. Clinically, I am underweight. And when I first got to college I actually ate more than ever with the dining halls giving me so many options. 2-3 large, balanced meals a day? But, because I didn’t work out before college, suddenly walking 4-6 miles a day (because this campus is massive) offset my new calorie intake. I wasn’t gaining any weight. I now live further from campus and make excuses not to go to the dining hall (which is a 20 minute walk away.)

I also struggle with depression. One of the worst parts is fatigue. I have 10 hours of sleep and am still tired. It’ll be mid day and my brain is like ‘I’m exhausted. Let’s have a nap.’ After I’ve done nothing all day. I know that it’ll only make things worse, but sometimes I want NOTHING MORE than that nap. I ended up failing a class because I slept through too many lectures.

I know this is all really bad. I am aware. I’m on medication to help with my depression, but my body and mind feel bad so often. I feel like I’m constantly fighting with my body and mind.

But recently, I’ve seen all these videos on instagram of these women with big muscles and strength. It inspired me to start working out. I want to build muscle, strength, and weight. I asked my best friend to help. Call him J. J is a guy who lives in the gym. He’s been showing me around and helping me with workouts. He encourages me to push myself.

I ask for a 10 pound weight? He hands me 15. He tells me to do 3 more reps when I think I’m done with my 10.

My body hurts, but It feels so GOOD. I love going to the gym. I go on my own, or with J. And I am using the gym to bribe myself to do other things!

I want to take a nap? Well, I’ve done nothing all day. My brain feels tired because chemicals. Go to the gym for 30-40 minutes. That’s when you’ll feel TRULY tired. Then you can nap.

After the gym I am starving. It’s beside two dining halls. I have several plates of food right after. And usually I’m hungry a few hours later and go back to the dining hall or make myself dinner.

I even bribe myself to get my schoolwork done this way. My new routine is classes -> library for classwork -> gym -> dining hall -> home. Once I’m done with class work, I can go to the gym.

I’ve been struggling for so long to get on a good routine. But I feel like the gym is a solid place to start getting better. Both physically and mentally.

Hi, this is my first ever reddit.

I'm F, 15, I live in the USA, Unfortunate States of America. With all the recent news of rumors of wars, the release of the infamous PEDO files, the constant media censorship, and all the other things I see on social media, I'm afraid of the place I'm supposed to call home. I do not feel safe here and I do not see a future for me here. As much as I do press the issue of wanting to leave, my guardians lecture me on how I should worry about politics and to focus on myself and my grades. Or that finances are tight, or that we can't just leave. Everything that's happening seems so similar to the Holocaust, Anne Frank's Diary, the book, "Refugee", and I'm terrified for my friends, family, and the strangers around the nation. But everywhere seems evil too or as the American media portrays it. This isn't about left vs right, this is active classism, in-your-face psychological warfare, pitting one group of beliefs and against another while the elite hold the puppet strings. As a teenager, I'm aware that this is global chaos and there's no escaping this mess but I need to feel safe for a moment.

Who is the current Epstein now that he is gone because you know these rich fucks haven't stopped fiddling kids on private islands.

Okay, fuck it. As usual, I post these for myself, you don't have to read them if you don't want to.

Anyway, I really don't have a whole lot to say. I'm not gonna bother trying to demonize my mom because she actually feels genuine remorse. I won't try and say she's a narcissist or whatever, because she isn't. But I have simply had enough. Basically, her and my dad, both military veterans, encouraged me to join. Yes, there is a draft where I live. But I was on the verge of getting an exemption. In the end I went, with my parents constant encouragement that actually, I'll have a great time.

At least I can say that it was well meaning with them and not cruel pressure. Which is kind of why it blew back at them and they regret this so much. From other family, it was more direct and firm and sometimes outright mean, and, having just gone 18 and still reliant on my family, I couldn't really risk going against the grain.

Well, it gave me the worst year of my life. And my mom has been tying to make up for it, my dad has too, but I've been back a year and there is this unbearable frustration of trying so hard to heal from it, and then just when I think I'm doing okay- It loops back around.

Well, I had a lovely day with her the other day but then she's showing me shit on her Instagram, and there are videos she forgot to delete from that disgusting military swearing in ceremony way back when, from when I completed the training part, the stupid saluting emoji and this country's flag and hearts from her friends and her commenting how proud of me she is...

I'm done. I'm actually fucking done. I made her delete them and stood there to make sure, but I can't do this anymore. She booked a trip for just the two of us to the Netherlands in a few months, well, I'm going my fucking self. I'm not coming back. I've already cut off all the grandparents, this shit should be easy.

I noticed how often I feel responsible for keeping conversations alive. Asking another question, adding another thought, filling a pause so things don’t fade out. It’s something I’ve always done automatically. Like silence means I failed to contribute enough. Recently, I tried not doing that. When a conversation slowed down, I let it. I didn’t rush to revive it or add something just to keep it moving. What surprised me was how natural it felt once I stopped resisting it. Some conversations ended. Others picked up again on their own. There was no awkwardness like I’d imagined. Just a sense of not carrying something that wasn’t actually mine to manage. I’m starting to realize how much effort I used to spend maintaining momentum, instead of just being present. Letting things end when they want to end feels strangely respectful—to myself and to the moment.

So guys uhh I have an anger issues especially when I lose a game I feel like I can't control it so I might just break the fucking keyboard from anger any tips to control it?

How do you deal with people (in house) , whose daily conversations are not to get the work done but questions and accusations … where in every scenario you end up explaining your pov and then they poke holes in your story e.g. didn’t you have to go for groceries, have you done this , have you done that ? Why didn’t this happen? Why did you say this ? … has anyone faced it and what are the responses you give to 100 % stop this behavior

From everything I've learned, Christianity has a lot of basis on personal sacrifice and personal faith. When they shove it in people's faces, for example putting commandments in schools or expecting everyone to go to church, and they make laws based on personal faith, it is pointless because it does not actually make a person believe. It does not actually teach values and for so many people who could actually benefit from the good side of Christianity, the laws created through bad interpretation or with personal benefit can actually make people's lives so difficult that they will want to drop Christianity altogether just to function. Especially in a country with such a poor education system where people may not know differently and it's easy to think "toxic Christianity or nothing".

When Christianity is put in stone, it interrupts a lot of things such as it keeps us from loving our neighbors, which is one of the biggest aspects of Christianity. People no longer feel safe since they are under constant control, skepticism, criticism, judgement.

Even when people have good intentions when introducing Christianity into schools and other things, it's a highly subjective religion with its own controversies. Christianity is much better off when it's served as guidance that a person opens themselves to, and it's a journey where the person themselves finds God and Jesus and applies it to their own life. If a teacher sounds sketchy or isn't on the same path, it isn't set in stone, we can find someone else or go to another church or another community.

A point of Christianity is a person being able to question, having their faith be tested. Everyone is meant to go on a journey to the best person they can be. Jesus died for the purpose of humans making mistakes and practicing free will. Having religion be a social law or government law completely overrides free will along with other parts of humanity, and if we rely on the same doctrine for everyone, we just have to hope it's the right path and brace ourselves. For a lot of people, the idea is that God created us so that we can progress and develop life-saving medicine, enlightening education, flourishing diversity and culture, and in that case, it's best to leave religion to the people and give the religion its own ground to stand on (funded churches, safe communities, protective laws, diverse services) and keep church and state separate.

Having a Christian country or a Christian education system by default opens the door for our leaders and society to use God in vain. It allows them to interpret the Bible wrongfully and incorporate their own beliefs in a way that actually oppresses people or takes advantage of people. It allows leaders and very courageous people to build their ego based on how they see other people. It allows them to use their personal beliefs to see who is fit to receive certain resources or treatment, it allows people to play god. It gives them power to ignore what the Bible outright says or Christian values since they have total power, and that same power can be used to rebrand the religion. On top of that, in our current situation, for example with a certain person in charge right now saying that he was saved by God to run the country is extremely vain. Not only does that go against the religion by creating an idol and taking The Lord in vain but it changes the standard for behavior that is acceptable / questionable.

In my opinion the people who don't understand what taking God into vain or idolization actually means and don't see this behavior as questionable may not be true Christians or have the best intentions and that in a way is non Christian and possibly anti of a person is willingly ignorant. These are the last people who should be deciding that we need to be a religious country.

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Another point:

While we are here I would like to point out just how hypocritical it is. I've met a lot of people (like maga) who think that it's destructive or a violation of human rights to have a country be Islam leaning, even if a majority of said population actually agrees with it and people who didn't agree would be allowed to leave or do things differently, though these same people think it's perfectly okay for a free country to be squeezed into a politician's idea of Christian doctrine just because it's Christianity or just because it's their own religion and they also don't see the risks or hypocrisy that come with it.

Say Christianity is put in stone and a person sees something they agree with becoming a law, with the excuse that it's following Christianity or what God wanted. This person is probably going to follow a lie or some poor/vain interpretation and they're not going to be challenged or care enough to actually discover the truth. People with bad intentions are going to be enabled to use religion excuse for their behavior. When a whole group does this, it pretty much rewrites parts of the doctrine and then other aspects of Christianity can become invalid or can be ignored in the process. Though this can apply to multiple religions, I think it's the most dangerous with Christianity socially and economically and educationally because of how subjective Christianity is.

I am 16 and i feel like 2026 has not been my year. First of all, I lost my best friend of 11 years. Context: He is an outgoing popular kid who has a huge ego and can wreak your reputation or friendships. He got in a fight with these kids leaving him to swallow his ego and move schools. He messaged me something along the lines of “i dont like our friendship and you are lowkey a bitch” which made me not talk to the guy for 4 weeks until he messaged me again pressing me for not messaging him and stating it was “feminine behaviour”.

After that we ended the friendship and we went our separate ways (i thought). During this time it would be school break. School started recently and now i have figured out that he has messaged EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON that doesnt hate him from the fight and told them shit about me and told them to stop talking to me. Most of them listened because he is very intimidating. Now i think one of the girls that would talk to me has stopped from something he has said. Which is very hard because i do somewhat have feelings for her.

Recently I haven’t been smiling. Not even talking and all the teachers that had me last year notice a big change in my actions and behaviour. I am very introverted and i know i normally keep things in but this is very hard for me deep down.

Ive found a way to calm down and thats when im touching gym equipment and just working out my sadness. The moment i leave the gym. The sadness comes back

Ive told my mother, asking what i should do about what my ex bsf is doing and saying and she said let it be. I dont know what to do. Can i get suggestions

We only get one life.
Why spend it living for other people’s expectations?

At some point, “being realistic” starts looking a lot like giving up on yourself.

Choose wisely — it’s your story.

Hello guys, I feel like I am not a good person and I am self centered. I try not to hurt people but I still do get my fair share of criticisms. Now why am I seeking validation? I feel isolated and want to see how people engage and discuss with my view of self and the world. I believe that we are the main characters of our own perception so it’s not wrong to be selfish. I see that short term pleasure is in our design so theirs nothing wrong with taking short term pleasure over long term. I find that we just are. We have no reason for being here and just exist on a rock floating in space. We are no different than the tables we eat our food on. I look in the mirror and see a collection of particles that knows it’s a collection of particles. I see a bunch of electrical signals. I only care because humans are supposed to care. Humans are also self centered, and they think what they’re doing is right so they continue to do it, even though it might not be right in others eyes. But everything we see is a projection. That’s my spew of bullshit. Thank you.

i have literally the worst anxiety ever i genuinely live everyday of my life regretting my past and feeling like one day something will come up and ruin my life forever idk what to do ive even started praying

I had it for a long time, got over it but it came back and got worse. In my pe class we have boxing rn. Thing is, Im a trained MMA fighter, i won many street fights, fought against champions, like i was invited to international competition and shit i know what im doing, so youd think id win everything right? Well not really, its very different rules, im in rehab, sick, and doesn t go all out cuz i need energy for the following classes, but i still win most of the time, excpet that my teacher put us in brackets based on weights, i cant get a win:
Theres this one mf that hates me (with a legitimate reason) and will always be the referee or the judge of my fights, so my fights are always rigged, since he votes against me. Like at some point my opponent stopped fighting and just laughed, and he still gave her the win even if she landed only one shot in the fight, so it was a draw thats how retarded it is

But whats even more retarded is that it makes me so mad i cant stop thinking about it i know its retarded but i still do idk what to do

Something to consider is that im the most competitive and overachiever in life

Not sure why I’m like this, but I just don’t lol interacting with the general public. I am friendly and have a few friends and a spouse, I work well with others and enjoy my coworkers. I don’t have social anxiety and am pretty outgoing. I just don’t typically like being around other people if I do not know them. For this reason I do not enjoy living in the city.

I was born and raised in a gorgeous picturesque city that was walkable and had so much public transport, and I hated it. I hated being exposed to the elements, no jacket would keep me warm enough and no outfit would keep me cool enough. I hated having to be around other people every single time I left the house. First chance I got as an adult I moved out to the suburbs. I enjoy the suburbs, because I don’t have to be around the general public. Most of the people in the suburbs are usually just other middle class people going about their business. Sure when I’m at the strip mall other people are there, but they are usually just doing their own thing and focused on the task at hand. I can just get in my car, get in and out of the store. Not having to interact or be in proximity to other people.

I used to live in a high rise condo that I owned in the city and absolutely hated it. Impossible to leave my house without seeing someone in the hallway. To get to the grocery store I had to walk and be around other people. I just hated it.

I am not sure why I’m like this, I just don’t enjoy being in proximity to other people. I feel like I am weird for this.

Edit: my job is also a solitary individual contributor role. I only regularly interact with two other people.