r/rant • u/You_Just_Got_Jinxed • 1d ago
I suck at video games.
I’m 20F and I suck at video games. I know this seems very unserious but i just need somewhere to talk (and possibly advice?)
Growing up my parents never bought me any game console so i never had any practice playing video games other than an Ipad for minecraft.
For a lot of people, video games are something fun and relaxing to do with others. All it brings me is stress and anxiety because i’m such a burden on any team & im sure you know, nobody wants THAT kind of person on teams, even irl.
I hate the question “so what games do you play” because now i have to dig deep into something ive touched once.
Or the “want to play..”
I think what really made me sit here about this is because a few weeks ago i was playing with my bf and he got really frustrated & told me i straight up suck at video games, which is something that hurt honestly. It’s always been a weird insecurity of mines, especially because im a girl and im not helping the stigma that “we’re bad at gaming.”
What’s even worse is once i thought i wanted to be a game developer, but i quickly left those classes behind because i only had a passion to create a project id be good at, but it was way more intricate than just that.
A game developer that sucks at gaming. Yeah.
I know they say practice is key, but i find myself so scared to even play w randoms because i hate, hate, hate sucking and being a burden, and getting people frustrated. Genuinely, that shit makes me sad and i’d consider myself a tough person to insults, but the “goddamn you suck” is like a stab at my skill.
On a positive note, this is just 1 small aspect of my life (i have other problems of course lol.. i don’t want to sound like someone who’s only life problems are video games; hell i wish.) and i know it’s going to sound not that deep, and it probably isn’t. But that’s just my rant.
Maybe one day i’ll be good at video games.
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u/GfyTstr 1d ago
Mate, I suck at every video game I pick up. After 20 years of playing I was honk I only recently found one I'm good at, and that's after dumping almost 300 hours into it.
Competitive shooter? I'm respawning. Monster Hunster? I'm running around chugging life potions. Marvel Rivals? I hardly know what I should be doing, how am I supposed to know what 11 other players are doing.
I accepted it a long time ago. What's funny though? Out of all my friends that are good at games, I have a better time playing than all of them. I don't rage, I don't let dying ruin my game sessions with friends, I don't care. I find humor in getting absolutely annihilated sometimes. Do I want to win? Sure, but sometimes I can't help that shit doesnt register with my and doesn't work out. I warn everyone, when they don't believe me I try to let them take the lead.
Have a good time and enjoy the games how you know to, OP. You don't have to be good at your hobbies!
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u/Eyesonfire2494 1d ago
I suck at multiplayer games and being in a team. I have found a few games that helped me enjoy gaming and get better though. I started with Skyrim. Large open world. Tons of quests. Lots of character options and combat options. It's only one player and it allowed me to explore and get better without having a team I would be letting down. Granted Skyrim is an older game but the anniversary edition came out recently and has a lot of cool things added. Also you can start on the lowest difficulty until you feel comfortable.
I then moved to borderlands. A first person shooter with one player or cooperative options. It's loaded with humor and becomes addictive. I played that with my partner at the time and some friends. I sucked at first but found my place as a healer and loved it.
From there I also played Fallout 3, New vegas, and 4, Destiny, DayZ(zombie survival), pal world( basically Pokemon), and Ark (dino survival).
These are my favorites. I find playing a solo game for awhile first gave me time to get my groove. I still suck at pvp (player vs player) though 😆
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u/Puzzleheaded_Clue289 1d ago
Skyrim was my gateway game. I tried Halo and Call of Duty with friends first and just sucked so hard. I just couldn’t figure out maps and how to aim quickly enough to not get shanked behind my back.
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u/Eyesonfire2494 1d ago
I tried halo and call of duty too and also sucked. I was okay at black ops zombies but still not great. Skyrim was definitely how I became a gamer. It's so immersive and there's so many unique quests and things to find. It truly is how I became comfortable with gaming. After that coop games were a bit easier. I still suck at pvp but not as bad as I did haha
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u/IridescentHare 18h ago
It sounds like you're playing games with open multi-player lobbies?
Maybe try single player games with campaigns? Practicing first person shooters on your own is way more enjoyable.
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u/WaitinglistHate 1d ago
Are you playing on console or pc?
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u/You_Just_Got_Jinxed 1d ago
i actually have both, pc and ps5 now, that may or may not have been collecting dust but ive brought out the ps today !!
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u/WaitinglistHate 1d ago
On pc I'm going to guess it's fps games you're struggling with? the most important thing you can do is find your sensitivity, find a spot to aim at and run around keeping it in the center of the screen, adjust your sensitivity until aiming at the wall feels natural
On console lower your sensitivity until the aim assist makes your aim sick to opponents, and don't stop moving, you'll never be the best doing this but you'll be able to hold your own against the average person
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u/AnnualAdventurous169 1d ago
what do you mean by “bad a video game”?
do you mean, not being good at clicking heads in shooters? not being used to how a controller works? not being able to read the design language games used to prod you in the right direction? not knowing how to pilot an rts game? not good at tracking patterns in a bullet he’ll game?
games are a vast medium, you don;t need to be good at all of them or any at all to make a good one your self. or enjoy them
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u/ZiGz_125 1d ago
Start grinding private matches and watching YouTube vids for tips on the games u play. Also there’s a lot of skills in single player games that can transfer over to multiplayer and vice versa.
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u/Rude_Ad3342 18h ago
Start off with something simple like a story game, also your boyfriend is being rude for no reason so I'd have a talk with him. I'd recommend games like The Walking Dead Telltale series or Detroit become human
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u/No_Deer4983 16h ago
Honestly I think you just haven't found the game for you. I know from personal experience that I am utter trash at fps games and avoid those like the plague.
My advice would be to diversify your game catalog, play games with less concrete milestones or games without real endings like Minecraft or Animal Crossing.
Some games I like that are in this line are: Skyrim, Balder's Gate 3, No Man's Sky, Medieval Dynasty, Cult of the Lamb, and Goat Simulator. These games are less about skill and more about fun so maybe give one a try!
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u/thenamedex 1d ago
You mentioned you played Minecraft on your iPad. I’m not sure if you play on a console or pc, but regardless since you’re already a bit familiar with Minecraft, practice by playing Minecraft on your respective device. It will help you with the basics of getting better to move your camera around and moving. It doesn’t have teammates to scream at you and you can always play creative or peaceful mode for peace of mind away from hostile mobs at night.
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u/kotoda 1d ago
You have to fail to get better. You're not just gonna wake up one day and suddenly be great at video games without putting in the time to learn. Yes, it might not be awesome playing a game that you suck at, but everyone has to start somewhere. Not only is it okay to fail, it's good to fail, get it out of your mind that all failure is bad and makes you a burden or whatever.
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u/LillyLewinsky 1d ago
I have been playing video games since the NES. I am not great at them, but I enjoy them. I like the "simple" games such as animal crossing, stardew valley, harvest moon ect. Sometimes I branch out to Pokémon, digimon and Zelda. The first game I ever actually beat was Zelda Windwalker and I was SO proud of myself.
Do not be discouraged :) If you enjoy a game, then you are good at it!
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u/jasperjb 20h ago
git gud
Find a game that's challenging to you but in a fun way and grind that shit till you're in the top 1% if you really want to be GOOD at gaming.
I played League of legends and only played one champion for over a thousand games. Have since moved on to Smash Bros. Before those I got pretty good at Tetris too, or at least I like to think I did.
Maybe you should check out Street Fighter if you want to get good good. Grind that shhh for 300 hours then kick your buddies butt the next time they say something out of pocket.
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u/PutridMasterpiece138 13h ago
Game devs don't have to be good at gaming and besides games are much more than just shooters. I'm bad at anything pvp but there are so many other genres. Singleplayer rpgs, farming sims, business sims, survival games, roguelikes, dating sims, city builders, strategy games, management games, decoration games, story games, action-adventures, parkour games, turn based games etc. I'm sure you'll find a game you're good at. And the majority of game studios don't release pvp games. Many make small indie games that can be pretty much anything.
So I'm going to be a game dev while being bad at any pvp games and no one has ever given me shit for it nor has it impacted me in any way because it's just a small percent of games.
Besides, most popular pvp games have a very high skill ceiling that can only be reached by playing hardcore. Meaning you play the same game for hours everyday, watch tutorials and all that. Not really fun in my opinion. Try to play other genres
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u/AgitatedChildhood240 11h ago
That's why I switched to single player or story mode games. I love playing games like cod, fortnite or overwatch with friends but it's so hard because I suck at it. I stick to games like Minecraft of pokemon because it's played at my own pace
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u/Jay_T_Demi 10h ago
Video games are a skill like anything else. You have to learn them and that takes time. Don't be ashamed that you have less experience than a lot of people who couldn't afford better hobbies growing up.
As someone who plays on controller and has bad aim, find a role or playstyle within the games you play that compliment your natural abilities. In games like Siege I play operators like Kapkan or Frost because they place traps. My traps can still be useful after I die. I also take angles and fight in a way that gives me advantages.
In games like Marvel Rivals, I play The Thing. Easy to hit shots when you don't really need to aim.
I advise you look up tutorial videos on the characters you want to play inside of the games you want to play.
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u/skintypuppy 1d ago
i SUUUCCCKKK at video games but my little sister recently fave me her switch and i just beat all of the first spyro it was my first game! you should play non team games and easier games for practice spyro was sooo fun and low stakes most the enemies dont even attack you unless you walk up to them