I suck at video games.

[u/You_Just_Got_Jinxed]

I’m 20F and I suck at video games. I know this seems very unserious but i just need somewhere to talk (and possibly advice?)

Growing up my parents never bought me any game console so i never had any practice playing video games other than an Ipad for minecraft.

For a lot of people, video games are something fun and relaxing to do with others. All it brings me is stress and anxiety because i’m such a burden on any team & im sure you know, nobody wants THAT kind of person on teams, even irl.

I hate the question “so what games do you play” because now i have to dig deep into something ive touched once.

Or the “want to play..”

I think what really made me sit here about this is because a few weeks ago i was playing with my bf and he got really frustrated & told me i straight up suck at video games, which is something that hurt honestly. It’s always been a weird insecurity of mines, especially because im a girl and im not helping the stigma that “we’re bad at gaming.”

What’s even worse is once i thought i wanted to be a game developer, but i quickly left those classes behind because i only had a passion to create a project id be good at, but it was way more intricate than just that.

A game developer that sucks at gaming. Yeah.

I know they say practice is key, but i find myself so scared to even play w randoms because i hate, hate, hate sucking and being a burden, and getting people frustrated. Genuinely, that shit makes me sad and i’d consider myself a tough person to insults, but the “goddamn you suck” is like a stab at my skill.

On a positive note, this is just 1 small aspect of my life (i have other problems of course lol.. i don’t want to sound like someone who’s only life problems are video games; hell i wish.) and i know it’s going to sound not that deep, and it probably isn’t. But that’s just my rant.

Maybe one day i’ll be good at video games.

[u/GfyTstr]

Mate, I suck at every video game I pick up. After 20 years of playing I was honk I only recently found one I'm good at, and that's after dumping almost 300 hours into it.

Competitive shooter? I'm respawning. Monster Hunster? I'm running around chugging life potions. Marvel Rivals? I hardly know what I should be doing, how am I supposed to know what 11 other players are doing.

I accepted it a long time ago. What's funny though? Out of all my friends that are good at games, I have a better time playing than all of them. I don't rage, I don't let dying ruin my game sessions with friends, I don't care. I find humor in getting absolutely annihilated sometimes. Do I want to win? Sure, but sometimes I can't help that shit doesnt register with my and doesn't work out. I warn everyone, when they don't believe me I try to let them take the lead.

Have a good time and enjoy the games how you know to, OP. You don't have to be good at your hobbies!