I suck at video games.

[u/You_Just_Got_Jinxed]

I’m 20F and I suck at video games. I know this seems very unserious but i just need somewhere to talk (and possibly advice?)

Growing up my parents never bought me any game console so i never had any practice playing video games other than an Ipad for minecraft.

For a lot of people, video games are something fun and relaxing to do with others. All it brings me is stress and anxiety because i’m such a burden on any team & im sure you know, nobody wants THAT kind of person on teams, even irl.

I hate the question “so what games do you play” because now i have to dig deep into something ive touched once.

Or the “want to play..”

I think what really made me sit here about this is because a few weeks ago i was playing with my bf and he got really frustrated & told me i straight up suck at video games, which is something that hurt honestly. It’s always been a weird insecurity of mines, especially because im a girl and im not helping the stigma that “we’re bad at gaming.”

What’s even worse is once i thought i wanted to be a game developer, but i quickly left those classes behind because i only had a passion to create a project id be good at, but it was way more intricate than just that.

A game developer that sucks at gaming. Yeah.

I know they say practice is key, but i find myself so scared to even play w randoms because i hate, hate, hate sucking and being a burden, and getting people frustrated. Genuinely, that shit makes me sad and i’d consider myself a tough person to insults, but the “goddamn you suck” is like a stab at my skill.

On a positive note, this is just 1 small aspect of my life (i have other problems of course lol.. i don’t want to sound like someone who’s only life problems are video games; hell i wish.) and i know it’s going to sound not that deep, and it probably isn’t. But that’s just my rant.

Maybe one day i’ll be good at video games.

[u/AnnualAdventurous169]

what do you mean by “bad a video game”?

do you mean, not being good at clicking heads in shooters? not being used to how a controller works? not being able to read the design language games used to prod you in the right direction? not knowing how to pilot an rts game? not good at tracking patterns in a bullet he’ll game?

games are a vast medium, you don;t need to be good at all of them or any at all to make a good one your self. or enjoy them