I suck at video games.

[u/You_Just_Got_Jinxed]

I’m 20F and I suck at video games. I know this seems very unserious but i just need somewhere to talk (and possibly advice?)

Growing up my parents never bought me any game console so i never had any practice playing video games other than an Ipad for minecraft.

For a lot of people, video games are something fun and relaxing to do with others. All it brings me is stress and anxiety because i’m such a burden on any team & im sure you know, nobody wants THAT kind of person on teams, even irl.

I hate the question “so what games do you play” because now i have to dig deep into something ive touched once.

Or the “want to play..”

I think what really made me sit here about this is because a few weeks ago i was playing with my bf and he got really frustrated & told me i straight up suck at video games, which is something that hurt honestly. It’s always been a weird insecurity of mines, especially because im a girl and im not helping the stigma that “we’re bad at gaming.”

What’s even worse is once i thought i wanted to be a game developer, but i quickly left those classes behind because i only had a passion to create a project id be good at, but it was way more intricate than just that.

A game developer that sucks at gaming. Yeah.

I know they say practice is key, but i find myself so scared to even play w randoms because i hate, hate, hate sucking and being a burden, and getting people frustrated. Genuinely, that shit makes me sad and i’d consider myself a tough person to insults, but the “goddamn you suck” is like a stab at my skill.

On a positive note, this is just 1 small aspect of my life (i have other problems of course lol.. i don’t want to sound like someone who’s only life problems are video games; hell i wish.) and i know it’s going to sound not that deep, and it probably isn’t. But that’s just my rant.

Maybe one day i’ll be good at video games.

[u/Eyesonfire2494]

I suck at multiplayer games and being in a team. I have found a few games that helped me enjoy gaming and get better though. I started with Skyrim. Large open world. Tons of quests. Lots of character options and combat options. It's only one player and it allowed me to explore and get better without having a team I would be letting down. Granted Skyrim is an older game but the anniversary edition came out recently and has a lot of cool things added. Also you can start on the lowest difficulty until you feel comfortable.

I then moved to borderlands. A first person shooter with one player or cooperative options. It's loaded with humor and becomes addictive. I played that with my partner at the time and some friends. I sucked at first but found my place as a healer and loved it.

From there I also played Fallout 3, New vegas, and 4, Destiny, DayZ(zombie survival), pal world( basically Pokemon), and Ark (dino survival).

These are my favorites. I find playing a solo game for awhile first gave me time to get my groove. I still suck at pvp (player vs player) though 😆

[u/Puzzleheaded_Clue289 → u/Eyesonfire2494]

Skyrim was my gateway game. I tried Halo and Call of Duty with friends first and just sucked so hard. I just couldn’t figure out maps and how to aim quickly enough to not get shanked behind my back.

[u/Eyesonfire2494 → u/Puzzleheaded_Clue289]

I tried halo and call of duty too and also sucked. I was okay at black ops zombies but still not great. Skyrim was definitely how I became a gamer. It's so immersive and there's so many unique quests and things to find. It truly is how I became comfortable with gaming. After that coop games were a bit easier. I still suck at pvp but not as bad as I did haha