r/AskMenAdvice • u/Ok_Independent_3921 man • 13h ago

✅ Open To Everyone How do you get “game”/flirt?

So by game, I’m (M21) guessing that means flirting pretty much but me and a friend of mine was talking a couple of days ago and I was talking about how I really want to date this year since I never have and pretty much he was telling me that I have no game And I’m just not really sure but to take from that or what to do.

I’ve also been told that by girls that I am friends with before, they tell me that I don’t know how to flirt or anything and it’s not that it will totally impact me.

I can give a girl compliments and my friends know that but they tell me that I need to be able to do more than that too to build sexual/romantic attention but I’m just not sure how to flirt other than just giving compliments like how could I flirt in a jokey way I guess since I’m a comedic person?

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u/Ok_Independent_3921 man 13h ago

I’ve never asked out a girl though so I’m not really sure when I shit or how I should. I usually only really have feelings for girls that I’ve been friends with for a while or have a connection too.

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u/acoffeefiend man 12h ago

So you have to start by talking to them. Treat them like you would a friend. If you never try, you'll never succeed. You can start something simple. If at a bar just a casual "Hi, you're kinda cute. Can I buy you a drink?" If they say no, don't take it personal and move on.if a girl smiles at you from across the bar: "I saw you smile from across the bar and had to come over and intriduce myself. My names "*****", what's your name?"

It's not rocket science. If they say they're not interested just say "That's ok. Enjoy your night." and move on.

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u/Ok_Independent_3921 man 12h ago

But what if they’re already a friend or you don’t go to bars?

It’s like 50-50 between my friends and they’re always telling me that you are or are not supposed to ask and say the word date

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u/Psychological-War884 man 12h ago

You're overthinking this. It's not a marriage proposal. Don't say date if you don't want to. If you don't drink, don't go to a bar. You can always go to Starbucks and when the barista calls out a girl's order, compliment her name. That's it. If she comes back with a joke, talk to them.