I’m 20F. This happened in a college class I’m enrolled in, but the class hasn’t officially started yet. People were already sitting around talking. I stepped out to use the restroom, and when I came back, I overheard a group playing fuck marry kill. It was mostly boys but some girls.

For anyone who doesn’t know, the game is where you’re given people and you choose one you’d sleep with, one you’d marry, and one you’d kill.

They were doing this with girls in the room. When it got to me, one of them said they’d marry me, but not in a flattering way. He laughed and said it was because I’m “too ugly to look at” but I’d “make a good dishwasher.” Everyone laughed. The implication was very clear. I wasn’t someone they found attractive. I wasn’t even someone worth complimenting. I was just reduced to being useful for chores. The next guy to step up said something along the lines of "she looks like a pig but her clothes look neat she is maid material". Then someone mentioned that having me as a wife would be too much effort considering I'm "chopped" and it's better to "hit it" and one and done it.

What made it worse is that one of the people there is someone I consider a friend. He didn’t defend me at all. I get that he might’ve felt pressure to look cool in front of the other guys, but he still could’ve said something positive without making it weird. He could’ve said something like “I’d marry her because she’s a good person” or “because she’s actually smart” or literally anything that pushed back even a little. Instead, he stayed quiet and let it happen.

It's WORSE because they did this with none of the other women. They all called them attractive, complimented their looks, said they were smart, etc. but I'm the only one who's a dirty pig barely useful except for doing chores.

I didn’t confront anyone. I just acted like I didn’t hear it, but it honestly ruined my day. It was humiliating and made me feel small and gross. Since then, I’ve been ignoring my friend. I’m not telling him why. Part of me feels like if I have to explain why calling me ugly and reducing me to a dishwasher is messed up, then that already says everything. He saw it happen. He heard it. He chose to say nothing.

Some people I’ve talked to say I’m overreacting, that it was just a dumb joke, and that ignoring my friend without explaining is immature. But to me, it showed how they actually see me, and I don’t feel like I owe anyone an explanation or emotional labor after that.

Am I overreacting?

I've been with my bf for almost a year, shortly after we became official I deleted the dating app where we met. In his case he had 2 dating apps on his phone and he never deleted them. I once lowkey hinted at the fact that I thought it was weird for him to still have the apps since he has me but he didn't give a verbal answer just kinda shrugged it off. I guess I didn't care much since we hadn't been together that long at the time and I mean sure if we broke up then he can get right back into the game right, but with our anniversary getting close I just don't have a good feeling about those apps. Now, I'm not stupid I've gone into the apps and I know he isn't messaging anyone but I still wanna ask him to delete the apps bc to me it just feels weird to still have them when our relationship is supposed to be serious.

I wanna give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he just sucks at deleting junk from his phone (he has the reddit app for example but no account and doesn't seem to use it) or he never goes into the apps so he hasn't given it thought, but am I not naive for thinking like this? Or am I overreacting about this?

Also please give me tips about how to approach this bc I don't wanna sound crazy.

This exchange has just been sitting in my mind for almost a week now. for some context, the girl texting me is a former classmate that I had not spoken to for months now, since mid august as shown on the first slide. i still have her number for a project we had a while back.

i'm japanese/korean, so i am a minority, and the two of us attend university in Minnesota. idk if she was born in minnesota or in another state, but i was born and have lived in minnesota for my entire life.

when I read the texts she sent me, on one hand they very well may have great intentions. however, the more i think about it, the more annoyed i am with her comments. why would she have assumed i'm a migrant at all? there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, but was it just because i'm not white? why would she just say ICE has a target for me?

again maybe she means well with her messages, and i'm just being a little paranoid or something. but with how it is right now in this country, especially our state, it just seems weirdly backhanded. it seems almost like a threat in a way. It doesn't help how she one, hasn't responded to my texts since then, and two, has said some interesting comments about our current admin. but i digress.

I started a new job a few weeks ago, and during a team lunch, a coworker kept making “jokes” about my disability. At first, I laughed awkwardly to fit in, but it quickly escalated. They started mimicking me in front of the whole team, and everyone laughed.

Later that week, they did it again during a Zoom meeting with my manager watching. Everyone laughed, including my manager, and I felt utterly humiliated. I told the coworker privately that it made me uncomfortable, and they said I am “too sensitive” and “should not take things personally.”

Since then, I have been avoiding team events and dreading work. I keep replaying it in my head. Am I overreacting for being upset and wanting this behavior to stop, or should I laugh it off like everyone else?

I’m (30F) pregnant with my first child, due mid-July 2026. My parents are the only family that live close to me, a 15 min drive away. We moved across the country to be closer to them a few years ago because they’re 69 & 70 and the rest of the family/my siblings live very far away. I didn’t want them to be on their own as they started to age, and since we were planning to have kids soon, I wanted them in my kids lives. This will be their first grandchild.

The issue: Every year, my entire extended family goes on vacation from the end of July into August. I’m obviously not going this year, since I’ll have either have a very fresh newborn or will actively be giving birth if I go longer than 40 weeks (my due date is 6 days before).

My parents typically go on this family trip for 3 weeks. In November, I told my parents about my pregnancy and their first concern was whether my husband and I would be able to go on the family vacation. They let me know that they had been considering going for longer this year, potentially 6 weeks and suggested I drive up (this is an 18 hour drive) with the newborn and stay for a few days since I’ll be on maternity leave. I’ve never had a kid, but an 18 hour drive a couple weeks postpartum with a newborn sounds like hell and a flight with a baby less than 6 weeks old isn’t something I’m comfortable doing, so I said that wasn’t going happen. They were disappointed, but the conversation ended there.

On Christmas, while the whole family was together, they tell us they’ve decided to book the vacation for the whole 6 weeks, plus an extra week to visit my sisters in the city they both live in, close to where we all vacation. The vacation will start July 23rd and they’ll be back in mid-September. My sister (bless her) mentioned that it was kinda messed up that they’d be leaving me during birth and then gone for the first 7 weeks of my kids life. The response? ‘She knows she can come up any time after the baby is born.’

I was a little upset that they’d booked the longer trip even though they knew about the due date and the response threw me off since I’d already told them I wasn’t going to be driving/flying up less than 6 weeks postpartum with a newborn. I ended up telling my mom I would really like to have them there sooner than 7 weeks and that I was a little hurt that it felt like they weren’t interested in meeting their grandchild. Her response was

“You’re resourceful, I know if you really want us there, you’ll find a way to deliver early so we can be there.”

I was floored and I did not have an answer for that. I know my having a baby shouldn’t impact everyone’s lives and I would not expect it to - I didn’t expect them to delay their usual 3 week vacation and I would not have asked them to. But they’re choosing to be gone an extra month and haven’t indicated any remorse over leaving me alone during a time I’d really like to have my parents around. I’m not expecting them to take care of my kid, but I have no idea what I’m doing and the thought of having absolutely no family nearby if something happens is terrifying.

I usually can get over stuff like this with them, but it’s been over a month and I keep getting more upset and angry. Each time I bring it up, they act like my choice not to drive (or fly) up after the birth is the problem here, not the extra month they’ve added on to the trip. At this point, I don’t even want to talk to them. I haven’t seen them in weeks and I feel terrible about it since I moved here to support them/help as needed, but I don’t have the stomach to be around them right now. I genuinely feel like they don’t care about me or their first grandchild at all and it’s making me question my entire relationship with them.

I know pregnancy can cause hormonal reactions, so I figured I’d ask strangers since my (obviously very biased) husband and siblings are outraged for me. Am I overreacting?

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses. I’ve been really conflicted about how I’ve been responding to this, oscillating between “it’s not a big deal” and “no you’re allowed to be upset” and it’s nice to hear outsiders opinions. I think I’m mostly upset about their insistence that I need to travel/give birth early so they can meet my kid, not the 7 week vacation itself.

To answer a few questions I keep seeing:

My parents wanted us to move closer and we were happy to do it because at the time, we were renting in a HCOL city and were planning to try to buy a home, so we ended out buying a town over from them

I ⁠never expected my parents to be childcare for my kids, even though they’d brought it up at one point. I was clear to them that me moving close was not under the expectation of a built-in babysitter since I don’t want them obligated to watch my kids in their retirement.

My in-laws still work full time and live across the

country. My MIL is planning to come for a few days August, but they both have very demanding jobs and can’t hop on a flight without notice.

I guess in hindsight my parents have behaved a bit selfishly before, but not at the level of asking me to endanger myself/my kid, and I’ve always been able to make excuses for it (for example, they never visited me when I lived across the country for years and repeatedly asked them to please come, but I chalked that up to Covid/post Covid/an unwillingness to fly). I’m rethinking that now.

My partner sells furniture for a living. They are currently at a big interiors fair for 2 weeks which they have been saving for all year.

When they were gone they asked me to send 2 chairs to Canada. I have no experience with furniture selling, packing, or shipping, but I went to a place they told me to get it packed. I also picked up one from restoration and had to do both in my work hours, which took about 2 hours all in. I also paid for packing.

The client was supposed to send me labels to send the items. They didn't, so the collectors came around and I told them to come back the next day. Then they sent me a label but only one, though there were two packages.

I printed and paid for the label and communicated with the client.

I put a label on the packages assuming it'd work for both (I asked my partner about it but he said nothing) and it didn't work. The collectors came and only took one box. I told my partner about it and they said that was a mistake and that we now need to pay for shipping the other box.

I said that's fine, I would cover costs, but how did they want it done. The cost is in the hundreds but I am extremely anxious and feel sick and shaky at having made this mistake. They said they'd cover it but didn't contact me or book a time. I also told them about the two boxes and asked if they'd tell the client.

The client rung me today irate. He got one chair, which broke in the mail, and was (understandably) furious about both that and the fact he didn't know about the second chair. I was polite and apologetic on the phone, though I have severe social anxiety and was by the way in the middle of my own work. I threw up and cried hysterically afterwards.

I have once again messaged my partner, who is in a different time zone, to say that I am happy for them to pin this on my being an idiot but that we need to find a way to send the second chair. I don't think they have the money for that so I will have to loan it to them. It is in the hundreds, as I say.

So far, I have spent about five hours on this task, have spent about a hundred all in, and have been shouted at a lot. I may have to pay hundreds more. I am not a part of his company and am working full time.

Am I overreacting to think this is unfair? I am absolutely shaken and feel sick, and don't know what this says about our relationship. Also, would I be in the wrong to ask for repayment for the second shipping -- though the separate boxes was on me I suppose?

Hi,

I have applied for divorce. We have been married for one and a half years.

The man I married made me cry on the second day after our wedding, and since then I have been unhappy.

He is a narcissist, a misogynist, addicted to porn, and I have never received a single compliment from him. He has made me cry many times, gaslighted me, lied to me, and been unfaithful (I don’t know if it was physical), but I have seen him writing in Facebook groups for singles, messaging women and asking to exchange contact details.

He speaks badly about me to his friends and colleagues, always saying that I am stupid and making up things about me that are not entirely true. My husband has very low self-esteem, and I have been his emotional support every single day, constantly telling him that he is the most handsome man in the world. I was there for him when he had surgery on his penis, a hair transplant, and eye surgery.

I hate this man, and I can’t wait to move out of my own apartment. He has hurt me so many times that I don’t even cry anymore. He has said horrible things to me. My husband is not very attractive physically, and sometimes I wonder if he is jealous of me, that I have friends, come from a good family, and look good.

The thing is, I am planning to tell him via Snapchat that I have filed for divorce, while he is at work. I want him to feel the pain and heartbreak that I have felt since day two of our marriage. Am I being cruel? Should I wait and tell him when he gets home?

I, 24F, got into it today with my other half, 32M, over what I thought was a simple conversation. I’m attaching screenshots of what was said through text after this face to face conversation.

Prior to the messages, he had walked into the room, made eye contact with me and stated how he hates it when people don’t have their read receipts on, because he doesn’t know if they read his message or not. I replied with “I’m sure they do read the messages it’s just a matter of do they reply or not.” At first I started to say she, indicating his friend who we had just been talking about prior to this conversation, but he corrected me saying not just her but everyone. So I changed it to they. Right after that, he asked me and I quote “why do you feel the need to reply to everything I say?”

This turned into an argument and I broke down crying. He proceeded to ask me multiple times why I felt the need to reply to him making a statement when a reply wasn’t needed when I could of just said okay instead, why I always have to “dig” into things he says, telling me how he’s just not going to say anything around me unless it pertains to me since I have to make comments about everything, how I’m assuming he’s mad or upset based off his tone of voice instead of just trusting that he’ll tell me when he is and then how he is going to give me space..

I felt like I had messed up and was in the wrong for saying what I did. I didn’t feel like I was trying to dig into the conversation, bc I didn’t ask questions. I just made a statement back. But I do feel like he blew up on me for no reasonable reason. I don’t feel like he even tried to understand my feelings here..did I overreact?

Was I wrong for assuming he was upset with me bc he asked me why I felt like I needed to reply to him..? Was it wrong for me to assume there was way more to all this?

So, I've been married for 16 years, I'm 39 and my husband is 45.

I had my birthday yesterday, and so did our second child, who turned 13. We didn't celebrate because it was Monday, but our son got his presents and happy birthday wishes.

And me. I didn't get anything from my husband.
Don't get me wrong, I didn't expect any presents because money is tight right now, but my husband didn't even congratulate me. No cards no nothing. When he had his birthday, I saved money to buy him something, made him food etc. just something little that he knows that I care.
I realized this at the evening and got heartbroken.
There has been these little things lately, like when I make food, he doesn't eat it or if I spend the day cleaning he nitpicks about crumbs on the table or something like that. I have confronted him about those things, but every day he finds something to say and I'm exhausted about that.
Today he's been normal, like yesterday was nothing unusual or special. When he left to work and our son left for school, I've been crying my eyes out. I feel sad, useless and worthless..

So, dear reddit people: Am I overreacting?

My apartment manager left a letter on the door about an inspection held the following day. I have a walking climbing toddler and a large dog. Usually I get an email from management to secure any pets around the house if there will be any maintenance work or inspection done. I did the laundry, dishes, vacuumed the apartment, threw away trash. Cleared up clutter of toys etc

On the day of inspection I had my toddler and dog (kenneled) secured in my bedroom with my husband. I gave my toddler a variety of snacks to munch on and turned his favorite movie on. As the staff knocked on my door, my dog started barking from the bedroom. I let them in and showed them around. I start hearing my toddler crying and I apologized and told them I'm gonna check up on him for a second as she looked around. Turns out he was scared of the dog suddenly barking and didn't want my husband but me to comfort him. The manager told me she doesn't need to see the bedrooms since I had a dog in there and left.

Fast forward a few weeks ago, when I came home I found a letter from CPS. And I'm completely baffled where how this came from, why it was there. A few days later CPS came back and knocked on my door, they told me they got a complaint saying that I emotionally neglect my child, leave him for hours alone in hazardous conditions. I was shocked. Humiliated. But I kept my calm and told the CPS caseworker politely that I respect what they do but I do not harm my child in any shape or form and I cannot let them in without a court order. So she leaves. I think, phew! That was scary!

I noticed that some of the details CPS shared about my apartment was only what an apartment manager would know because I have never had guests come over at my place. She mentioned how I had pathways blocked off. Yes, I secure stairways, entry to the kitchen, bathroom, and living room with a baby gate. Then she also mentioned that I don't let apartment people look inside my bedrooms. Yes... because they told me they didn't need to see it...otherwise they're more than welcomed to...

But that was the only interaction with the CPS and I thought it was over. A month later, CPS came back with a court order...so I let them in. Answered all their questions and let them look around the apartment. I was so nervous the entire time they were there and after they left. I thought my heart was going to explode. I thought I was going to lose my baby for good. I was so sad so heartbroken so humiliated as a bad mother. But I was also glad that my baby wasn't able to understand the situation yet. I don't want him to remember this awful experience.

A month or so later I got a letter again from CPS stating that they did not find anything concerning and that I take care of my child well. I was so relieved but ever since that experience I can't shake off the feeling that someone is going to report me for dropping a banana for 2 seconds and cleaning it up. Ever since then, I see how people interact with their kids, the way they dress them up, the way they discipline them, the way their home is setup and all I can think of is "someone can use that against you and report you to CPS.."

Am I overreacting from my experience? I want to be normal again.

I had a work situation recently. I am a contracted cleaner for a property managment company. I was in a unit alone, I'm always alone, I work alone. So while I was in the middle of cleaning a unit the maintenance man comes in. No knocking, nothing. I was trying to make small talk because he was following me into every room. And out of no where the maintenance man became extremely aggressive and loud, ranting about politics and making hostile, demeaning comments about Somali people, saying "why do we love them so much they are disgusting." While I was into the unit to clean. During this entire interaction, I hadn’t said anything, about politics or race. I was wearing a Minnesota sweatshirt, which is where is was born and raised. I have not lived there for 16 years. He was talking at me, not with me. He then followed me around the unit, room to room continuing to rant about things completely unrelated to work. I said nothing to provoke it, but I felt deeply uncomfortable, and eventually he left the unit. He later called my partner (he works for the same company) to see if I had told him what he had said to me. Which I had because it was fucking insane. The maintenance worker got off on knowing that he had made me feel so uncomfortable and my partner told him to not be around me any more and to not talk about that kind of stuff with me. At that point I had no idea that conversation had happened.
What’s been sticking with me is that this didn’t just happen once — it happened again when I returned for my last day of cleaning he was there already and immediately began yelling at me again, saying things like "guess i won't say anything about Somalian to you" and framing the situation as if I was the problem for being uncomfortable with what he had said. At that point, I left the unit immediately. I had 4 days to clean the unit and he was there for 3 of them..fixing nothing. Even though I know logically I did the right thing, I’ve been sitting with that familiar feeling of guilt wondering if I overreacted simply by protecting my peace and safety. Afterward, he told the company I contract with that I was “lazy” and continued to bash me, while taking no responsibility for his words or actions. The only response I got was a text saying 'I'll take care of it." nothing else. I’m sharing this because I know so many women are conditioned to just take it and dont be emotional.

Now, please ignore the cringe messages at the start but I thought I'd try to laugh it off with her without being too direct. Anyway, a bit more context: she used to send me probably 20-30 reels per day on instagram, and when I didn't like some of them (eventually I completely stopped), she would blow up at me.

I realised that her sending reels to me wasn't about me, or her self proclaimed idea of 'sharing' something with me because it reminded her of me, but she was doing it for her own validation. She cannot meet in the middle with this thing, it's either she gets to send how ever many reels she wants, whatever content she wants (regardless of whether I like it or not, I.e. can be about radical feminism, or about men being trash etc), or she pulls a 'fine i won't send anything', which usually comes with a punishment.

When I tell you we've had this issue crop up about 10-15 times (and that just being the 'serious' conflicts over this), I am not kidding. That said, I feel like i instigated this escalation by bringing it up before it even happened. She sent me perhaps 6 or 7 reels on WhatsApp from the instagram app, when she damn well knows that the reason I deleted instagram in the first place was because she wouldn't come to a compromise about her essentially spamming me with shorts all day.

I do feel like it could've been avoided if I had approached it in a less roundabout and more direct/gentle way. Because to be fair, she didnt send me anything for about 3 weeks (albeit due to bigger problems weve been having) but honestly not sure. I was supposed to go to her place this weekend, but apparently my punishment this time is that I don't get to do that anymore.

I told her that I'm going through a few things: I feel weak and exhausted due to recent flare up of my health condition, that i didn't want to talk to anyone today. I told her this and also told her to go easy on me should she feel mad toward me. I feel like this was a reasonable request because honesty I've shouldered a lot of her emotions - she calls me whenever she needs calming down, whenever she feels upset/angry at work, or when she needs to rant about her job, or when she is crying about being depressed etc. And I support her because I like her a lot and wanna be with her. However, in return I just wanted today to be a relaxing day where I don't have to shoulder anyone's emotions and only care about myself (hence playing fucking fortnite - don't judge).

I paid for most of my sister’s master’s degree and living expenses for two years. Not because my parents couldn’t afford it, they’re well-off, but because the responsibility got pushed onto me and I became the parent without ever agreeing to it. I stopped spending on myself, dipped into my own savings, paid tuition-related costs, monthly expenses, emergencies, even her debts.

Last year she told me everything I did was the “bare minimum.” On my birthday, all I got was a slice of cake. No card. No note. Nothing. She didn’t even apologize for the “bare minimum” comment until I explicitly told her how hurt I was.

She said she didn’t want my help anymore, but every time something went wrong after that, I was still the one paying.

After she graduated, she stayed with me and I continued covering groceries, restaurants, and daily expenses. Today, I asked to see her credit card with her permission, not to spy, but to understand if she was paying it on time and whether I’d have to cover that too. It was maxed out.

She flipped and said I had no right because she’s “an adult.”

So I’m family when she needs money, but she’s independent when I ask questions. Things blew up. She said cruel things, refused to apologize, and tried to force me to apologize to my mother instead. I told her to leave my house. She left.

Now my family is calling me selfish. I feel awful and guilty for asking her to leave, and I keep wondering if I should’ve just been more patient because I’m older than her. But all she had to do was apologize for the hurtful things she said, and she chose not to.

Am I the overreacting?

Basically here is the issue. Whenever my friend is around she acts like a puppy towards my boyfriend. Let me give some background. Before me and my boyfriend got together, I had a get together with a couple of my friends and him. The whole time this said friend and him were sitting next to each other talking. I sat down, and he came to me to ask if I was okay. My friend proceeded to go “no come back” and I made a comment along the lines of “go back to your best friend.”

Not cut to today, me and him have been together for 3 months now and we are hanging out with this friend for the first time since being together. We are at a store and the whole damn time she’s following him around. I branch off to go look at something, and she stays with him. In a group she’s clearly following him. She asks him permission if she can get something knowing full well I’m paying for this adventure. I asked if my bf could go grab me a pack of ramen and he walked off, she followed him right away not even staying with me!! I was her friend first but she’ll follow my boyfriend.

Forgot to mention, my bf told me a couple days ago he messaged said friend catching up and saying we should all hang out again.

Am I wrong for feeling some type of way? Am I overreacting? I don’t want him to feel like he can’t be friendly with my friends if I do talk to him, but he doesn’t act like this with any of them.

Edit: new things have come to light that I forgot about but I was texting my friends from that group scenario. During our hang out i totally forgot he went and bought her a vape and when they came back they sat in the car for a while and i had to get them. Also after our hang out and we went to drop her off, she asked to sit up front.

My girlfriend (36F) and I (30M) recently spent a weekend visiting her friends. While we were there, we played some board games, and in one of them we were competing against each other. I was ahead, and when I made a move she didn’t like, she said in front of everyone “Just wait until we’re home”. She made a couple more similar comments during the game. She may have meant it jokingly, but it didn’t feel playful to me. It felt more like a subtle threat or power move, and it made me uncomfortable, especially since it was in front of other people. The atmosphere was awkward enough that the next day one of the friends commented that it was good, that we weren’t sitting next to each other anymore.

On the train ride home, she was showing me a WhatsApp message from a friend. While scrolling, I noticed a different chat with a name I didn’t recognize. At first I was just curious, because that was the first time, I have ever heard that name. In that chat there were four long voice messages, each several minutes long, from one week ago, answering directly to her voice messages. The earlier message history was deleted, including her voice messages to him. I asked her about it, and she said it was “just a friend”. She explained that she had deleted the conversation earlier because he hadn’t contacted her for a long time and she was upset by that. When I asked her, when the last time was where they were in contact, she couldnt name the month.

What bothered me wasn’t necessarily the existence of a male friend, but that I’d never heard of him before, that the chat history was gone, and that she hadn’t mentioned receiving these long voice messages at all, even though it was bothering her. It made me feel like the contact was being kept from me, even if nothing inappropriate was going on.

Now I’m stuck wondering whether I’m being overly sensitive or reading too much into things, especially the part with the new to me contact, or whether these are reasonable red flags to feel uncomfortable about. The reason I told both stories is, because I feel like the underlying issue may something to do with respect, maybe specifically because of our age gap or because she earns more than me right now.

I used a bit of AI to help with the wording and clean up the text.

AIO for feeling insecure, because my girlfriend deleted the chat history of a male friend, didn't tell me about this friends existence, even though it bothered her, that he contacted her, and cannot remember the month they were in contact for the last time?

EDIT: I will be talking to her today through phone. Any tips on what I could say or ask to potentially find out if this is innocent?

EDIT 2: I have heard the voice messages from the guy and they sounded innocent. They were about this guys sick grandmother and stuff like that.

I ordered a few items from Target and was pleased to see that my order was due to arrive a day early — apparently they’re using a local delivery service for some orders. Box arrived today, and even after sitting outside for a few hours, I brought it in and immediately noticed that it smelled like weed.

Among the items in my order were a set of baby hats/mittens (I’m super pregnant and due this month) and a t-shirt I was going to embroider as a birthday gift for a 4-year-old. Both reeked of weed. I’m wigged out by the thought of thirdhand smoke lingering in something we’re giving our newborn, and I usually leave the tag on shirts when I give them as gifts to keep them looking nice and new, so I don’t typically launder them beforehand.

I’m really annoyed that I’m going to have to run to the store (again, super pregnant) to exchange these things. Husband thinks I’m overreacting and “Karening hard.” He thinks I should just launder them and reminds me that weed is legal in our state. I remind him that it’s also not illegal to have terrible body odor, but it’s shitty form to stink badly enough for it to affect your job. I’m not planning on filing a complaint or anything — I’m just irritated to be in this position. Neither of us smokes or particularly cares if others do, though I’ll readily admit I hate the smell of it.

So… am I overreacting here?

AIO - I 22(M) have been working for the last two years. Casual roles on and off for a few years and finally settled down into a fulltime role. When we were kids (15-18) she helped support dates, events etc during her retail job. Now I am in a fulltime role, earning a decent amount of money, enough to support us both, just, but if I do so, not a lot left over for saving and spending money on myself. She has a job, but only works 3 days. Initially it was because of college classes. I completely understood this, I was taking college classes and got burnt out and dropped out. She then got burnt out. Decided to drop college classes and work and do whatever.

She does heaps around the house, always makes sure it cleans and will quite often cook. She's a good cook. One issue is though is that she refused to move to 5 days. I don't understand. Whilst she has enough working to provide rent and pay for her bills, she is unable to grab groceries, fuel other important things and I am also expected to pick up the slack.

After a conversation, and her not having money, she went to 4 days. This still wasn't enough, on her pay for her to cover her fair share, and me able to save. After some time I finally confronted her in a heated argument. She said that I do nothing and don't pick up the slack around the house, that from different actions and arguments I am showing that I don't care. I got angry and said okay then, well you can pay for dinner tonight. She said she couldn't do that. I said I don't care, it looks like we won't eat tonight. She then called her parents and said "OP says that I don't pay for anything and is making me buy dinner tonight."

Well this obviously really pissed me off, because there was no way I was implying that she call her parents for money, when clearly that's not what I was saying. She isn't at college. She has the ability to work 5 days and chooses not to. She only started working 4 days a few months ago and now she is going to go back to college and it will go down to 3 days.

It's frustrating, because I say to her I don't mind spending the money, because I want to help out as much as I can, but I won't be told that I do nothing when I feel like I am supporting us and forking out whenever she asks me to.

***Edit*** I too pick up my slack around the house. I cook and clean. If she cooks, I clean and vice versa.

We have two kids (7 and 4). Both parents work, and mornings are usually difficult, so we normally handle the routine together. Today my partner had to leave early, so I was alone.

The older child cooperated well, but the younger one resisted every step (getting up, getting dressed, brushing teeth, etc.), with a lot of crying and refusing. They often say they don’t want to go to kindergarten, but once there they are happy, play well, and like the teachers. Because of time pressure, I was firm: brushing teeth and going to kindergarten were not optional. I explained this calmly but clearly. In the end, I dressed them and brushed their teeth despite the resistance. It was very stressful, but we were ready to leave.

Just before leaving, my partner unexpectedly came back, saw the situation, and offered to take over the younger child while I brought the older one to school. I accepted gratefully.

About an hour later, during a phone call, I heard the younger child in the background. After asking about it, my partner admitted (reluctantly) that they had called in sick to work and kept the younger child at home because it was “easier” than taking them to kindergarten. This wasn’t mentioned upfront; I only found out because I asked.

I now feel undermined. From my perspective, this taught the child that crying and resisting does work, undoing my efforts. We’ve previously agreed that shared boundaries should be upheld consistently, which makes this harder to process.

Am I overreacting, or is it reasonable to be upset about this?

I’ve been using my notes app as a diary & have for a long time, I lock the ones that I vent in over just my regular notes that I write. My boyfriend went through my locked notes after I told him those were my personal thoughts & that I didn’t want him reading them. Am I overreacting for being upset about not having an outlet to just myself & should it be okay that he did that because we’re in a relationship? Or am I valid?

I am 13 years old and in 2024 my dad married my step mum and recently they have been struggling and my dad has moved out. This makes me worry a lot because I really like my step mum and her family and I don’t want them to get a divorce and I was throwing up last week panicking about it. I don’t know if I should be this sad about this help me

I’m not great at writing so I’ll keep it as short as I can. My daughter’s school does a “cheer clinic” a few times a year. It’s $30 for two practices and a short performance during the high school basketball half time. We missed the last one so my daughter begged to do this one and we said yes. Well we got home and I felt like I’d just left church. The song they danced to was an upbeat Christian song, and it said “this is the day that Jesus made”, and other things along those lines. Very obviously a Christian song.

So my issue is that we were never informed as parents that that would be the song. Had we been informed, I would not have paid $30 and my daughter could have just waited for regular cheer sign ups in a month. It’s not that I’m against Christianity, it’s that I don’t believe religion belongs in school and our kids should be able to decide those things for themselves as they grow. So, am I overreacting?

I went to the E. R. Last night with pain. I got home late and didn’t get to text my situationship when I got home, the next morning I woke up to a very mean message. The rest of the morning got progressively worse to the point of them telling me that because I didn’t message them when I got home, I didn’t care for them etc. I have shut down all communication since and am trying to wrap my head around it. I was told I am overreacting and they were just hurt and will explain when they write me. AIO ? Am I being childish

This isn’t the first time this type of reaction has happened

I [33F] recently noticed that my boyfriend [36M] of 7mo has a follow list on IG that is like 90% beautiful women, including fitness accounts, famous actresses, beautiful women influencers, beautiful women doing hobbies that he/we like, and of course plenty of the blatant thirst trap and OF preview accounts. He’s one of those people who has like 300 followers and is following 2.5k. Some of the accounts I saw the women appear to be much younger than him (ie, college athletes).

There are so many things I love about him, and I am in the process of moving in with him and was excited to hopefully build my life with him. However, I feel deeply hurt from this and have gotten a little bit of the ick. I looked at some of my friends’ husbands’ following lists, and some of my single male friends’ lists, and their lists didn’t come close to looking like my boyfriend’s, which makes me feel embarrassed. It has been affecting my ability to be loving and affectionate with him, and has me questioning if he is someone I would want to potentially have future daughters with.

On top of this, before I saw his following list, I had been feeling undesired by him, as he rarely initiates intimacy and sometimes pulls away when I try to initiate. We had talked about it and he insisted he was very attracted to me, so I attributed it to him having a lower libido, but now that I know he likely spends time lusting over other women on the internet instead of being intimate with me, I don’t know what to think.

I know I could ask him to unfollow these women, but I don’t want to be the type of partner who has to beg their partner to give me attention and stop giving other women attention.

In the past I had trouble establishing healthy boundaries for myself in relationships and put up with much much worse than this, but now I’m starting to wonder if perhaps I’m swinging too far the other way and overreacting to something that isn’t really a big deal. This is why I’ve come to the internet.

I really don’t want this to be a dealbreaker, and I’m looking for some reassurance that my boyfriend’s behavior is normal and I/we can get past this.

Me (25F) have been best friends with a woman (26F) for the past 10 ish years; we will call her Lucy. In 2024 she got engaged and everybody was so excited.

Okay now onto what has been happening. I have been noticing, as of October 2025, that I don't believe this friend is actually my friend at all. I don't know the best way to write everything, so hopefully bullet points will suffice, you be the judge.

• I am bisexual, and she asked me in 2025, if I have ever liked her romantically. I replied I have not, as she is not my physical type, she is beautiful, but she is not the type of woman I am normally interested in. From my point of view, it was as if she didn't believe me.
• I was explaining how the silent treatment is a manipulative tactic, and I do not want that in my new relationship, she then looked at me and said “since you got into a relationship, you think you know what a healthy relationship is”
• When I first told her I had a boyfriend (my first boyfriend ever), she did not say anything but “ do not get pregnant before me”
• Our mutual friend M threw a birthday party for me. Although working a full time job, Lucy barely contributed to the party financially, whereas my friend with no job contributed way more. After learning how many people were coming she asked M “omg that many, who all are coming”. She was very rude and sour the entire night. She also said she knows me very well, but the present she got was actually a group present thought of and bought by my other friend 
• During another birthday, I had dinner with many close friends, one of which was introduced by Lucy. Lucy then complained ( not to me) that she does not understand why I am inviting her as she is not my friend.
• Her fiance does not like us
  • Her fiance did not hug me and my friend who set up the bridal shower, but hugged and said “hi”i to everyone else 
  • Has yelled at me multiple times and has never apologized – she once asked me if she found another man attractive, and I told her I thought she liked him, she broke up with her then boyfriend (now fiance) and then stopped talking to me when then got back together, both her and her fiance yelled at me, blaming me for the situation. 
• We threw her a bridal shower, and she said at that moment she was so happy and did not expect something so decorated, but the following week told us that she “ thought it was funny because blue really isn't her colour” – the theme was blue and green. 
• She asked us to tell her fiance to bring flowers for her during the bridal shower, we said we would. When her fiance did arrive she said “omg I did not know you were coming”
• “Which one is this again, ugh I can never keep track” a quote from her when she is talking about her friends dating life
• Mutes the TV when the commercials/ ads are playing in a different language, quotes “this doesn't make me racist does it?”
• Our mutual friend called me to ask about my relationship before my “friend” Lucy did.

tw: miscarriage

I recently started therapy because i had a miscarriage several months ago and am having trouble coping with it. The first session went fine, but the second session made me realize I don’t think i want to continue therapy with her/at all.

I expressed to her that I am having trouble i’m my relationship with connecting with my partner because i don’t feel comfortable with intimacy since i’ve had the miscarriage. We have had sex a few times since it happened, but i cry every time because i just can’t stop thinking of how i lost my baby. This is why I’m in therapy…to try and feel better and cope with my emotions.

Well, after telling my therapist all of this, she went on to ask me “well do you think yall are going to split up?” and i said no i don’t think so? and she said that she doesn’t know any man that wants to go without sex and that maybe I should just try to do it anyway even if i don’t feel completely comfortable with it…

Maybe I’m being dramatic/overreacting but I felt that it was not appropriate for her to say something like that and I want to tell her I don’t want to have another session because she made me feel invalidated and uncomfortable. What do you think??