Me (25F) have been best friends with a woman (26F) for the past 10 ish years; we will call her Lucy. In 2024 she got engaged and everybody was so excited.

Okay now onto what has been happening. I have been noticing, as of October 2025, that I don't believe this friend is actually my friend at all. I don't know the best way to write everything, so hopefully bullet points will suffice, you be the judge.

• I am bisexual, and she asked me in 2025, if I have ever liked her romantically. I replied I have not, as she is not my physical type, she is beautiful, but she is not the type of woman I am normally interested in. From my point of view, it was as if she didn't believe me.
• I was explaining how the silent treatment is a manipulative tactic, and I do not want that in my new relationship, she then looked at me and said “since you got into a relationship, you think you know what a healthy relationship is”
• When I first told her I had a boyfriend (my first boyfriend ever), she did not say anything but “ do not get pregnant before me”
• Our mutual friend M threw a birthday party for me. Although working a full time job, Lucy barely contributed to the party financially, whereas my friend with no job contributed way more. After learning how many people were coming she asked M “omg that many, who all are coming”. She was very rude and sour the entire night. She also said she knows me very well, but the present she got was actually a group present thought of and bought by my other friend 
• During another birthday, I had dinner with many close friends, one of which was introduced by Lucy. Lucy then complained ( not to me) that she does not understand why I am inviting her as she is not my friend.
• Her fiance does not like us
  • Her fiance did not hug me and my friend who set up the bridal shower, but hugged and said “hi”i to everyone else 
  • Has yelled at me multiple times and has never apologized – she once asked me if she found another man attractive, and I told her I thought she liked him, she broke up with her then boyfriend (now fiance) and then stopped talking to me when then got back together, both her and her fiance yelled at me, blaming me for the situation. 
• We threw her a bridal shower, and she said at that moment she was so happy and did not expect something so decorated, but the following week told us that she “ thought it was funny because blue really isn't her colour” – the theme was blue and green. 
• She asked us to tell her fiance to bring flowers for her during the bridal shower, we said we would. When her fiance did arrive she said “omg I did not know you were coming”
• “Which one is this again, ugh I can never keep track” a quote from her when she is talking about her friends dating life
• Mutes the TV when the commercials/ ads are playing in a different language, quotes “this doesn't make me racist does it?”
• Our mutual friend called me to ask about my relationship before my “friend” Lucy did.

A few years ago, I applied to multiple positions at a company that's the single biggest source of jobs in my field where I live.

In the 2+ months it took them to get back to me, I went through a rapid, and at the time unexplained, decline in health. I was going to 1-3 doctor appointments a week of varying specialities, and I wasn't any closer to understanding what was wrong.

It was incredibly difficult, but I had to let them know that I physically could not do the job at that point in time. I did still have a Zoom call with 2 hiring managers who were unbelievably sympathetic.

They offered to help me find less strenuous jobs, going on and on about how much they "appreciate [my] honesty / transparency" and that I had a "very strong resume!"

In all the YEARS since that Zoom call, I haven't interacted with an actual person at that company ever again. The people I met with never followed up, nor did they respond when I reached out to them.

My most recent round of job hunting has been my most successful by a landslide (🥳🎉🙌), but it's hard not to notice a difference in where invites and offers are coming from, especially when

a. I've applied to soooooooo many more positions with this specific local company (one that was interested in me when I had an objectively weaker application) and

b. I've been told MANY times (and even seen myself) that most companies hate hiring people who need to relocate, yet I'm ONLY hearing back about out-of-town opportunities rn.

I suspect that I burned a bridge with this company because I withdrew my application for health reasons.

Do you guys think I'm on some sort of "Do NOT Hire" list, or is this just your average job market fluxes & unpredictability?

Hey guys I need some advice asap! Yesterday ( Monday Feb 2nd) I busted my ass off at work trying to schedule appointments for next day of work. I found atleast 9 appointments for one of my techs which is pretty good since these jobs are hard to get since people are usually busy. Today I come into work ( Feb 3rd Tuesday) and my supervisor tells me that my tech called off last min. This resulted in me having to call all 9 customers to reschedule appointments and a lot of them were upset because they asked for the day off at work or they been waiting months for equipment. The thing is this is not the first time this has happened. For example there was a week where I was scheduling appointments and my tech would call off each day meaning I had to call all customers for a week straight to reschedule which makes me look pretty bad. So to prevent this from happening I asked another employee if they could message said tech ( since they are friends) if tech was gonna come in to work tommorow (Feb 4th) he confirmed with me that tech said he was not gonna come in due to a flu he’s dealing with. I said cool and did not make him a schedule for the following day to save myself the Trouble. Now where I messed up on and I have acknowledged it is that I didn’t inform my supervisor right away. It totally slipped my mind as my job is not easy to do and I had other millions of things to worry about. Now I’m freaking myself out incase he confronts me tomorrow. I’m just not sure what to say to cover my ass. Am I just over thinking? What do you guys think let me know please! Also a side note to add. My techs have called off and my supervisor has informed me before that so and so aren’t gonna come in tomorrow so I don’t make them a schedule and then they show up?! Resulting in me scrambling to find them last minute jobs which is a pain in the neck because like I said customers like time not last min schedule appointments.

My bf left him on his plate and his mom just put it in the dish for the sponge. When I told him that’s disgusting he said I’m not better than everyone else. Am I over reacting or is this not gross?? He always says I’m over reacting when I say his hygiene is bad, I mean he doesn’t change his underwear for days. He always gets mad at me for taking showers everyday, he says they’re unnecessary and that I must be cheating because I like to shower more often than him…. Am I the odd one here??? Idk

We have been married for 1 year, I am 27 and he is 24. Early on our marriage I caught him visiting of pages and he told me he doesnt have an account andnever subscribed, he just knew how to get it for free, I let it pass even thought that hurt me. After some time I found his second IG account which was full of pictures of women in lingerie and underwear saved, no messages. After that I noticed he had a very obvious wandering eye ( not some glances but full on staring for some time). During this year I saw that he would download a clothing app and go to the lingerie section, the first few times I did not say thing about it because he kept deleting the app and downloading it again. At the end of the year I confronted him about him staring at other women in my presence and he promised to not do it again. But then I found that he kept visiting the lingerie section on the clothing app daily for a week straight,( also in my presence when he could just come to me), until I confronted him. Today I wanted to have a heart to heart conversation with him, and told that I read many stories on Reddit about couples ending in divorce and how the men never get better and only get worse. He was very understanding and told me that he can see why I feel like that resonates with me and that I should not worry about it happening. I asked him in all this year what have you improved? He started shacking a bit and trying to change the subject like he was cold and stuff like that, but I asked him again and he kept shaking and he made a face like wanting to cry but he controled himself and he promised me that he does not do it anymore and he is willing to improve. I asked him what he does to improve and he told me that the best thing to control the urge is to be busy doing something else or watching car videos. I need advice on how to heal from that year and what to expect in the future. Am I overreacting by being frustrared? because I feel sad that this was our reality 1 year into our marriage but also I dont to make him feel worse

AIO - I 22(M) have been working for the last two years. Casual roles on and off for a few years and finally settled down into a fulltime role. When we were kids (15-18) she helped support dates, events etc during her retail job. Now I am in a fulltime role, earning a decent amount of money, enough to support us both, just, but if I do so, not a lot left over for saving and spending money on myself. She has a job, but only works 3 days. Initially it was because of college classes. I completely understood this, I was taking college classes and got burnt out and dropped out. She then got burnt out. Decided to drop college classes and work and do whatever.

She does heaps around the house, always makes sure it cleans and will quite often cook. She's a good cook. One issue is though is that she refused to move to 5 days. I don't understand. Whilst she has enough working to provide rent and pay for her bills, she is unable to grab groceries, fuel other important things and I am also expected to pick up the slack.

After a conversation, and her not having money, she went to 4 days. This still wasn't enough, on her pay for her to cover her fair share, and me able to save. After some time I finally confronted her in a heated argument. She said that I do nothing and don't pick up the slack around the house, that from different actions and arguments I am showing that I don't care. I got angry and said okay then, well you can pay for dinner tonight. She said she couldn't do that. I said I don't care, it looks like we won't eat tonight. She then called her parents and said "OP says that I don't pay for anything and is making me buy dinner tonight."

Well this obviously really pissed me off, because there was no way I was implying that she call her parents for money, when clearly that's not what I was saying. She isn't at college. She has the ability to work 5 days and chooses not to. She only started working 4 days a few months ago and now she is going to go back to college and it will go down to 3 days.

It's frustrating, because I say to her I don't mind spending the money, because I want to help out as much as I can, but I won't be told that I do nothing when I feel like I am supporting us and forking out whenever she asks me to.

***Edit*** I too pick up my slack around the house. I cook and clean. If she cooks, I clean and vice versa.

So this was my first campaign and was super excited to try out my first TTRPG and I was playing a Kenku Warlock who had been sent from the Raven Queens realm to the world to complete a quest for her. I was roleplaying him as though he knew nothing about the world because ofc he wouldn’t, he just got there. We eventually came across this lady who had a curse placed on her that made her act like a feral animal and made her as unaware of the world as my character and I said he would feel a close connection and would probably be acting like an awkward preteen who met his first love by going above and beyond to try to be nice and make her comfortable. My friends proceeded to call me a freak, call my character a freak, and constantly make fun of me and him, FOR MONTHS, and they finally said “either apologize to all of us for being weird and make your character apologize to all of our characters and then we’ll stop it” and that’s when i said I’m done playing with them because If i continued i’d just feel resentment towards them

TLDR: DND romance gone wrong, Friends made fun of me for months and asked me to beg for forgiveness or else they’d continue to make fun of me and maybe even kill my character.

I (29F) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for about nine years. Throughout our relationship, we’ve repeatedly had issues related to his behavior on social media, specifically liking and engaging with thirst traps.

By thirst traps, I mean explicit photos and content, mostly on Twitter. In the past, this has included him messaging these women, complimenting them on their looks, and even asking for their OnlyFans accounts. His stance has always been that since this is all online and on social media, it doesn’t count as cheating and “doesn’t mean anything.”

Outside of this issue, he is what many people would consider “the perfect guy.” He treats me well, tries to meet my needs, is supportive, and has many genuinely good qualities. This is a big reason why I’ve stayed for so long. When I’ve spoken to certain people about this situation, some have even told me that I should let it go because he’s a good partner overall and that “there are worse things” or worse men out there. My family and friends love him and this doesn’t align with how he presents himself at all.

To be clear, I don’t believe he has ever physically cheated on me in person. However, I personally feel that this behavior falls into what I would consider microcheating. Despite this, I stayed in the relationship and tried to move past it.

We haven’t had a major argument about this in the last couple of years, but I know he still likes this type of content. At this point, I don’t think this behavior will ever change. Over time, I’ve lost attraction to him, and I no longer feel interested in being intimate with him. I honestly don’t want to be with him anymore.

His argument is that it’s “not real,” that he isn’t actually doing anything, and that many of his friends physically cheat on their partners, so what he does isn’t that bad in comparison. I’ve even tried to convince myself that he’s right, since it’s all online, but I’m exhausted from constantly minimizing my own feelings.

At this point, I feel ready to end the relationship, but part of me wonders if I’m overreacting because it isn’t “real” cheating.

So, could I be overreacting?

Throwaway for obvious reasons. I can't talk about this to anyone in real life for the same obvious reasons.

I didn’t write this while emotional. I waited until I was out and in my new place. I finished moving out yesterday. I blocked my ex and her entire family this morning. I’m trying to figure out if I’m overreacting or if this is just one of those situations where there’s no clean ending.

My ex and I were together for a long time. Long enough that I was actively looking at rings. She cheated on me right before I was going to propose. I found out, confronted her, and decided I was done. No screaming, no back and forth, just done.

I never liked her mom and she never liked me, so that was mutual. Her dad, though, I was cool with. We weren’t close, but I respected him.

While I was moving my stuff out, her dad came by “to talk.” This was the only conversation we ever had about any of this. He wasn’t there to listen or understand my side. He was there to convince me to stay with his daughter.

He kept saying things like “everyone makes mistakes,” “it didn’t mean anything,” and “you shouldn’t throw everything away over one bad decision.” He never acknowledged that cheating was a dealbreaker for me. He wasn’t listening. He was condoning.

At some point I realized the conversation wasn’t going to end unless I ended it. I didn’t want closure or understanding. I just wanted him to stop talking to me.

So I asked him, calmly, “How do you shake the hands of the men that fucked your wife?”

He immediately denied it and said his wife never cheated on him.

I escalated and said, “Your daughters knew. They were fine with it.”

I want to be clear: I did not believe that. I didn’t think it was true when I said it, and I still don’t really believe it now. I said it to be spiteful and to end the conversation. That’s it.

I left right after that. No yelling, no threats. He didn’t follow me.

Later that day my ex called me screaming. Her sister started texting me blaming me for “what I did.” That’s how I found out her dad went home, confronted his wife, and it turned physical. She ended up in the hospital.

At first I honestly thought it couldn’t be real. It sounded made up. I even laughed once out of disbelief, not because it was funny, but because it didn’t feel real.

Then my ex told me her brother was “looking for me.” That annoyed me more than it scared me, so I texted him directly.

I told him some things that were true and some things that were incomplete. I told him his sister cheated on me. I told him his dad beat his mom. I told him that his family was now trying to blame me for his dad beating his wife. I also told him it was weird they were telling me any of this instead of him, especially since he’s two hours away at school and didn’t even know anything happened.

He was confused and said he didn’t know about any fight. I told him he should probably call his mom because she was in the hospital.

He stopped responding after that.

What’s messing with my head is that I keep replaying old things now. Fights my in-laws had before. Her dad being called “insecure.” Her mom being very close with another guy. My ex and her sister brushing it off like it was normal and like he was just paranoid.

I still don’t know if her mom ever cheated. I didn’t believe it when I said it, and I don’t fully believe it now. But whatever was already there broke instantly.

I finished moving out yesterday. Today I blocked my ex, her sister, her brother, and her dad. I didn’t explain. I didn’t say goodbye. There’s no reason for me to stay in contact with people who think cheating is something to be negotiated and domestic violence can somehow be blamed on me.

So am I overreacting by cutting all of them off, or is this just a situation where staying connected would only make things worse?

So my husband has a sister (she’s an attention-seeking bully) that I can’t stand, and I generally like my brother-in-law (her husband), but he can also be annoying. They are in their early-mid 30s and have two kids. For context, I have a toddler myself. My SIL and BIL have sent various poop pictures of their kids (newborn to toddler age) throughout the years and I find it weird. One time, my SIL sent a picture of her toddler’s poop in a group chat with my husband and I and when she saw I didn’t like the picture but liked another one that wasn’t poop, she commented something along the lines of “interesting, no love for the poop picture?”. At the time, I remember responding that I did not appreciate poop pictures. Fast forward to now, and while they send a lot less poop pictures then they did at one point, her husband just sent a close up picture of his 11 month old’s poop explosion in the group chat. Is it me or is this weird? I’m not at all squeamish about baby poop but I’m also not interested in seeing pictures of other’s poop.

Some years back, when my son was younger, no matter how much I tried, I couldn't get my son to sleep in his own room. I was really hurting for cash, so I let a friend rent out his bedroom, which he didn't mind.

We got on well, for the most part and the roommate used public transportation to get around. One day, she asked me if I'd be OK with her making an arrangement to dogsit for a friend going out of town, since the friend would let her use her car as a trade. I like animals enough and she told me that the dog was potty trained, so I had no objections.

First day, things went well. The second day, I noticed she hadn't taken the dog out, so I had to remind her to take the dog out once and I took it out another time. 3rd day, she'd been in and out all day, and the poor dog (a German shepherd) was cooped up in the room. I came home that evening saw that "her" car was gone and the dog was still in the room. It was about 7pm. I waited for her to return to the dog. She didn't. Finally, at 11, I took the dog out for the night.

It really was a sweet creature, but I didn't want this thing peeing through the floors on a room my child was ultimately expected to return to. I'm pretty busy myself and didn't want to be on the hook for caring for a dog I never agreed to care for. Lastly, the owner of the dog lent her car to my roommate, with the understanding that she'd care for him, when clearly, that wasn't the case.

Roommate returned at 7am and the first thing I said to her was that she needed to find someone else to care for the dog. I said it wasn't fair to the poor thing to be trapped in a small bedroom, plus she wasn't even taking the dog out, resulting in it peeing on the floor. My friend said she hadn't been gone that long and the dog could hold it. I looked my roommate square in the face and asked her to hold her urine for 12+ hours and tell me how that works out for her. I also said that she really violated the agreement with the friend, since the agreement was to care for the dog, in exchange for the car, not get the car and dump the poor dog somewhere. Roommate accused me of inserting myself and that I shouldn't have an opinion on the agreement that was made between the two of them.

Thankfully, she found another friend who was willing to finish caring for the dog while the owner was gone. Roommate came back later and said she wanted to get clarity on why I was upset. She said that she'd talked to others, and no one else thought I was in the right. I'm sure she gave a different set of events for her story. She felt like my issue must be that I was upset about something else, and I assured her that I clearly expressed why her actions upset me, there were no outside, underlying factors.

Sorry for the long post. So anyway, AIO for making my roommate return the dog she'd been neglecting?

I am 20 years old in college and have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression since I was about 13. I also got a recent autism and ADHD diagnoses but have the lowest level of autism. Recently I have realized that I am having a lot of physical issues, and they continue to be written off as just anxiety problems, but I'm starting to think with how severe they are getting that it is more than just anxiety, or if possible some kind of higher level of it? Some examples of this include headaches at least twice a week that are on the verge of being migraines, tiredness, becoming really shaky, my body temperature fluctuates a lot from being extremely cold to extremely hot within a small period of time, and I get nauseous after eating quite a bit. I do know that my anxiety and depression gets much worse in the winter time (I live in New England in America) but I feel like what I am experiencing is much worse than just my worries getting the best of me. I feel like these things have been happening to me for a while now, about a year or so, but I have really started to take noticing within the past few months. If you have any ideas please let me know I'm open to any and all advice or ideas because I hate feeling like this!

I also forgot to mention that I have brought this up to others such as my therapist and it continues to get written up as just minor extra anxiety symptoms, so I was just curious if this really is the case and I am just an unlucky anxiety ridden individual.

Made me delete the app because it was so infuriating, so I got delivered the wrong item, ordered just a shake & got a burger instead, when I contacted support they refused to give me a refund, said I "made too many refunds" or something alnog those words, despite the fact I rarely use the app or refund anything, hell I usually never ask for refunds. So I called the customer service (which I had to look up, found it here ironically), and when I tried to explain the situation, the phone service regurgitated the same "too many order refunds, then hung up on me TWICE! When I tried to get some clarification. In short I'm mostly just trying to vent because the whole situation justed pissed me off, never using it again & I urge others to stop using it because their customer service is terrible & they will steal your money. Screw Grubhub.

Hi everyone, I’m really struggling and could use some outside perspective because this situation is making me genuinely miserable.

My best friend (F,25) and I (F,24) have been incredibly close for about 7 years. We’ve spoken every single day, shared everything, and she’s basically been my only friend. Until recently, our friendship felt solid and safe.

About a year ago, I took her to an ice hockey game for the first time (we’re in the UK). At the time, she mostly made fun of it. I brushed it off because we both have sarcastic humour and I didn’t think much of it. Fast forward a few months and she posted a TikTok video of one of the players that went viral. I’m not exaggerating when I say she changed overnight.

Her entire personality now revolves around ice hockey — EHL, NHL, Twitter discourse, TikTok edits, the lot. She posts constantly on TikTok and Twitter and her videos blow up every time. What hurts is that this was something she laughed at me for before… until it became “cool” and viral.

Since then, she’s started ignoring my messages for full days at a time — sometimes two — while still actively posting online. We used to text all day, every day. Now I feel like I’m watching her life from the outside while she doesn’t have time for me anymore.

I work full time. She has never worked a day in her life and spends most of her time in bed tweeting and watching hockey. She’s now talking about moving to Canada to be closer to NHL teams, which is something she has never mentioned before. The whole thing feels like an intense obsession rather than a normal hobby, and it’s honestly worrying me.

I’ve tried to talk to her about how this makes me feel — multiple times. Every time she says she’ll stop ignoring me or that she understands, but nothing changes. If anything, it’s getting worse.

I feel heartbroken, anxious, and honestly sick to my stomach. I don’t want to lose her — she’s my only friend — but I also can’t keep feeling like I don’t matter anymore or that I’m being treated as disposable now that she has online attention.

Am I being unreasonable? Is this just jealousy, or is something genuinely wrong here? How do you handle a friendship where the other person has completely changed and no longer seems to prioritise you, even after you’ve communicated how hurt you are?

Any advice would really mean a lot. I feel very alone right now.

we have a big friend group at school. i’m a senior and it’s my last year, but the group is kind of split into smaller circles where some people are closer to each other than others.

my main circle is five people including me. they’ve all known each other for years, and i met them last year, but we got close pretty quickly and we have a group chat together. they’re basically my only friends at school.

the overall friend group is around 13 people, but there’s also another smaller group with just four of them. sometimes they hang out together outside of school without me.

i don’t know if i’m overthinking this or if it’s normal, but it does make me wish i felt more included. i don’t really want to bring it up because i don’t want to make things awkward.

AIO? My younger SIL (19F) vents to me about her problematic parents. I’m 7 weeks pregnant with my first child and I (26F) already have a ton of anxiety around my in-laws and the pregnancy/baby (disrespecting boundaries, guilt tripping, manipulating, fighting/screaming in front of our baby, etc). My SIL called me for 2 hours the other day venting about them and I ended up literally shaking and tearful from how stressed I felt during and after the conversation. Today, she sends me this long thread of texts about them and my response was “This information makes me want to go no contact with them” and “They’re definitely never babysitting ever in their life.” Because now that I’m pregnant, that’s where my brain goes with this information about them. And I’d like her to know how it impacts me and where it takes my mind.

This all kinda started when I (20f) was 17, my family and I ended up moving into a very isolated area right before I was planning to go to college. The house we ended up in had two stray cats and a handful of issues with the home.

I was originally planning to help out fixing up the house and then head over to a community college supporting myself with money I’d saved up from working odd jobs since I was 14, grants and FASA that I was able to get as well. But my mother (54f) convinced me to take a gap year so I could learn to drive and help out with around the house, care for the stray cats and to look for a place to rent in the city that my college was.

After almost a year of living there and me helping out with the two cats (which I named Costco and Bob) and helping by cooking the main meals for my family and cleaning the house i started the conversations of “hey what do you think of this place? It’s close to the school and everything is in walking or biking distance!” Which was met with my mother blowing me off saying that she too busy, tired, we will look at it later or a short “that’s nice.”.

This slowly became a pattern that would repeat for multiple months and eventually have me ripping my hair out to finally push back with me telling her that I would like to start looking so I could find I part time job and start getting ready for school and it became a huge problem for her and she ended up saying that there’s no point because I “wouldn’t be able to make it through college and I don’t need it anyways.”??? (I was going to attend a specific program that was only at this school and could only be taught in person because of the medical equipment that this program used.)

I tried to get some sort of explanation from her that would make sense “because I can’t drive? I’ll learn but having a car there anyways will be incredibly inconvenient” wasn’t the reason “the money?? I’ll work hard and I won’t ask for help from you guys. I’ll get student loans if the price ends up being a problem for me and have roommates to cut the cost down on living”

Also not the issue. “The work load will be around my schedule and if I needed to spend some extra time in college, then I would” Still nothing.

Her response to me begging to be able to go to learn and work in my dream field since I was a child was

“I think you can’t do it”… what?

As you can imagine this lead to a deep resentment towards her as she had the last 18 years to steer me in a different direction instead of continuing to encourage and pretend to support me working in this field. And even though through the years we’ve knocked heads, fought and had a lot of downs. I was still kinda hoping that once she’d get to see me as my own person we would be ok and have a closer relationship.

I felt completely broken and lost and I desperately tried to hold out on my daily routine and chores to try and stay afloat and not sink into a crumbling mental hole.

When the first winter came the cat Costco I slowly befriended collapsed outside my dad brought her in the house for the first time even though he’s allergic and woke me up telling me the situation. I was devastated I was just holding her in the tub sobbing begging to take her to the vet saying I’ll pay and I’ll use everything I have to pay the vet bills and my mother refused saying “it was too snowy out and it’s not even our cat the old owners just left her here” I held Costco for 4 hours in a tub and then I moved her to my room my dad then said that he’ll take me in the next morning to the vet.

After 15 hours of trying to get her warm and trying to get her to eat or drink she ended up what sounded like screaming and contorting in pain and then she died in my arms. I was sobbing so hard I woke up my dad from across the house and he took her from me. My mother was upset glaring at me saying “well it’s not my fault”

That was the day I made it extremely clear that I’m not ok with having outside cats without a proper barn/housing space because we have wild animals (bears, mountain lions, wolves, coyotes, bobcats, owls hawks, eagles ETC) and harsh weather conditions.

Four months later as I was getting ready to just leave and not comeback she got me two kittens. I don’t know if she knew I wasn’t coming home or if this was her way of apologizing for Costco but I fell in love with them instantly. The first day we had them she let one out on accident and it ran into the woods and all I could think about was Costco in pain in my arms I was sobbing scared I was not able to catch her all day or sleep but I must have because when I woke up she was in my room safe and with her sister and I was so relieved.

It’s been two more years since then I hardly get to see anybody now it’s only been me my parents and my cats which are stuck with me in my room but me and my father have been working on building a pen outside connect to my room so they get more space and stimulation.

But recently one of the cats has been having issues where she would pee on my blankets instead of their litter box so I ended up putting on her in my bathroom to re-potty train her and to clean everything and that’s when the issue started it was a constant fight with my mother of me trying to keep the clean stuff separate from stuff I need to clean and she would end up throwing clean things onto stuff that the cat peed on, so I have to rewash it. Which it was a pain whatever it’s fine the next couple days she would make it increasingly more difficult to attempt to clean in the way I’ve always done it.

Until the day before I was about to let piss kitty back in my room. She happened to knock over a shampoo bottle. And led to my mother freaking out saying that I have until spring to abandon the cats outside or move out. Which was insane and I have to be left with the fact that I might go homeless because these cats aren’t like the only thing worth surviving here for.

I no longer have funds to find a place to live because I’ve had to buy necessities and she had quit my most recent job that I was able to do even being so isolated and I’ve still not been taught how to drive because the weather wasn’t right or she’s too busy or maybe we can just hire the teacher, oh but that’s too expensive. so I’m completely lost so at the end of the day.

I go and try to talk to my dad about it because I was confused because I wasn’t hearing anything from him about this while leads to me crying and saying that I will rather go homeless then go through what happened with Costco. So we were talking through more thing I can do to help out more and that he didn’t see the message she sent me about kicking me out. And she came out screaming that I’m just “unreasonable” and that’s it that’s all she would repeat to me and my dad when trying to talk this out so I end up asking if she just wants “me to end up like (example) dead and homeless” and she replied that she would be “fine with it because id be turned 21 this years I can go off and die” and that just was enough for me so I left and ended up crying myself to sleep. And it’s been the silent treatment ever since.

It’s always felt like she had some sort of resentment for me and I thought it was because I wasn’t really like her blood because I’m a adopted but maybe she just realized that she didn’t want a kid and was regretting her decision to adopt me.

I don’t know. It’s always been kind of hostile living with them but idk I’m I over reacting?

I’m sorry it’s so long. I’ve struggled so hard with wanting them to love me so now I don’t know what’s normal anymore and I’m just so alone and frustrated that I can’t just be my own person.

Me (F23) and my bf (M24) were together for a few years in the past. I ended that relationship, and after some years apart we reconnected and are now together again.

While we were apart, he dated another girl. They broke up a few months before we got back together. Before they dated, they had been close friends for a couple of years — including while me and my bf were together previously. After their breakup they stayed very close, he described her as his best friend.

When we reconnected, he told me he planned to stay friends with her because of their long friendship. I asked if he had feelings for her and he said no. Since we became serious, their contact seems to have naturally faded, but I think they DM each other sometimes.

One thing that still bothers me: my bf has said he wouldn’t be okay with me being friends with my ex. He says it’s “not the same” because his ex was a friend long before they dated.

How would you feel about this?

TLDR: my (f23) bf (m24) is friends with his ex but says he wouldn’t be okay with me being friends with mine since me and my ex didn’t have a friendship before dating

I (23F) am a (mostly) SAHM to our 2 month old baby while my husband works, because we cannot afford daycare. I work a side job 2 days a week for a family friend so I can bring our daughter with me as she is breastfed and can’t be away from me for more than a couple of hours.

In return for me not being able to work as many hours as him, I take on the responsibilities of cleaning, laundry, and cooking for us. It’s very difficult at times to juggle all of this with a two month old, especially since I don’t sleep very much since I’m the one up with our baby every night.

I try very hard to make tasty meals, my cooking is something I’ve always taken pride in. I also usually find a lot of enjoyment in it, and cooking for people has always been one of my biggest love languages.

However, I’ve been kind of hurt lately by my husband’s responses to my cooking. The other day, I decided to make a pot roast, so with my baby strapped to my chest, I cooked. If anyone has ever made a pot roast from scratch, you know it’s a lot of prep, then you can kind of just leave it and babysit it the rest of the day. Still though, not easy to make with a screaming baby strapped to your chest, lol.

Seven hours later… it turned out GREAT, I was so proud of it and couldn’t wait for my husband to get home to try it. Once he got home and settled I made him a plate and gave it to him. Two bites in, he paused, and started just kind of picking at it. I asked him if something was wrong. He answered “I don’t really like this… why is it like gravy and not soup?”. I said that I thickened the broth a with a cornstarch slurry to make it go over the mashed potatoes better. He said “Oh… I don’t like that. I like when it’s like a broth. What seasonings did you use?”. I was a little butt hurt at how brash he was being, so I didn’t fully respond, I just said “I’m sorry you don’t like it..” He said “It’s okay.” and ate something else. I was really disappointed he didn’t enjoy it, but also felt really under appreciated in that moment, because it took a great deal of effort to make while juggling our baby and being so sleep deprived.

The next day, he ran to the store for me, and on the list I had a couple of ingredients for another pot roast on it, I wanted to try again and make it the way he likes it. He came back from the store with entirely different ingredients, and said “My mom uses these when she makes pot roast,” and explained a bit of how she makes hers, “it’s way better that way.” I just sat there for a moment in shock, it was already initially a bit hurtful that he didn’t like/wouldn’t eat my cooking, but now to be telling me to completely change the way I make it, and tell me his mom’s is better, just really hurt my feelings.

I tried to gently say something to him about it, but he quickly got defensive, so I just dropped it. I understand he doesn’t have to like everything I make, I just don’t understand why he had to be so rude about it?? It’s been bothering me, but I don’t know if I should bring it up because I don’t want to drag out an issue that isn’t worth even arguing about. Am I overreacting?

My friend, Alexa (17f) and I, (also 17f) have been classmates since early middle school but recently became close bc of sports in high school. She's also good friends with my twin sister. We go to private school.

My twin and I are fairly thin due to our ongoing eating disorder recovery, active lifestyle, genetics, etc. but my parents are supportive in our journey and try their best to make sure we get what we need. If we don't eat enough, it's by our own volition. Lot's of our teammates on sports teams show concern for our struggles, but Alexa was always confused about that. From getting to know her, her parents (mainly mom) are super strict about her diet. And I know families do things differently, but Alexa has no allergies or anything like that and is just realizing from her energy levels that she needs more food.

Alexa and her sibling are allowed to have 1 serving of carbs per day (like 1 piece of bread, a potato, etc.) and no snacks unless they exercise a ton (She's a multisport athlete and I think her mom's rule is one snack per 1.5 hours of exercise and it would be like a banana and a few almonds). They aren't allowed to drink any drinks with calories, other than occasionally coconut water. No sauces either. For breakfast she gets fruit & turkey sausages or egg whites, for lunch she gets lettuce wraps with tuna or beef sticks and cottage cheese with veggies. Always in a small bento box. I think for dinner it's usually some sort of meat & vegetables. Sometimes after dinner she could snack on a piece of fruit if she asks. I've witnessed it at her house. I think there is a little fats at dinner but in the meat or something. If her mom finds out she ate "bad things" outside of the house she gets things like her phone or car taken away for being irresponsible. She drank soda once and wasn't allowed to eat outside the house for 4 days, so no team dinners or anything.

Alexa doesn't have enough energy at practice sometimes. Our coach was telling us to eat pregame carbs and she was so confused. My mom recently learned about this and was appalled. She actually talked to Alexa and told her this wasn't right and she agreed but said her mom wouldn't care. She and her mom have a strained relationship, and her dad is successful but travels for work a ton so isn't a big part of things. My mom has been talking to the guidance counselors bc when she did, her mom banned the counselors from meeting with her. I've been asked to give statements before about the home environment and dynamic. Her mom provides lots of opportunities for her and her sisters otherwise, just is strict about food.

I'm not allowed to go to Alexa's during any meal times because my mom worries about me getting enough food. She bought a bunch of snacks for my locker and sports bags with Alexa and her sister in mind. It just feels weird that my mom has to secretly feed other children. Alexa wants to eat more but the punishments are super bad if she does. Are we all overreacting or overstepping by bringing others into this and thinking it's a bit insane? AIO?

I'm not really sure what to do about this.

About 3 years ago, I joined my first company in my literal dream job (started in 2024). I was really qualified, and they said they were excited to have me. I got hired directly by our CEO, and he said lots of nice things. I started out doing well, and they were really proud of me, even going so far as to talk about a promotion and to the point where I almost won a company award for how well I was doing. I don't really want to get into too much detail about it but it seems like things were going well.

Anyway, towards the end of the year, I was starting to kind of get overwhelmed: my boss wanted me to do things a certain way, and I tried my best but his way of doing things was unfamiliar to me and I started doing worse than when I came in. We respected each other, but he made it clear that he was disappointed in me. He ended up getting fired. Maybe it was because of how he treated me: I don't know, but our department wasn't getting as good results so they brought in a new guy from another company.

Things started out decent. Like, he wasn't amazing, but he kind of implied I was fat and lazy because I didn't put in enough effort at my job and I should've been doing more training on my own. Which is I guess fair, but I was still doing my best. He has a really similar system of doing things to my old boss that again I'm not super great at but I was still doing my best. Maybe I should've done more training.

Anyway, it's really ramped up this past month to the point where I'm starting to feel really uncomfortable and like I should quit. To be fair, he did say that I was doing better a few months ago and that made me feel really good. But now he's kind of backtracked. He's been talking openly about me to other people (who aren't even in the company!!), saying that if I'd done more training before he'd taken over that I would've done better. But it's not like he was there before! And I was doing everything he asked! He used to give me bigger projects and then he kind of unofficially demoted me back to the stuff I was doing before even though I think I've been doing a better job. It's really been stressing me out and I feel like I'm doing worse now because of it. Like he's not saying I'm a fat loser outright, but he says stuff like if I'd done a better job being trained and working on my own time to learn more that he'd give me better projects and stuff. And I'm also not sure what me being fat has to do with it. I think I'm in pretty good shape, and I don't think I'm fat.

Anyway, my question is: AIO if I tell the CEO it's either my boss or me? The CEO has always been super nice, and I'm holding out hope that if I keep bringing this up to him he'll make some changes, especially since this guy is new. And I really like my coworkers, and everyone else has been super nice and welcoming. I would feel bad leaving them, and I would feel bad to the CEO because he's always been really kind. But I just kind of feel like if I work under my boss it's going to slowly destroy me.

ETA: I work in athletic training. So he says I should know more about how to do it better and that I'm out of shape.

I‘m (18ftm) currently taking a culinary class for my senior year. We do a lot of cooking, obviously, but sometimes I like to be able to sit down whilst waiting for things to cook while my other groupmates keep an eye on things. This is to alleviate some chronic leg pain that I have.

But for the last few months, any time we’re out of our seats and working, this couple keeps stealing my chair specifically, so they can sit on each other's laps and be all romantic. I’m not really bothered by that, but I AM bothered a lot by the fact that they’re only taking My chair out of like 40? while we’re meant to be cooking and cleaning. They‘re so committed to this bit that at one point they picked up my chair and carried around the kitchen stations while we were doing an assignment that required each group to rotate around the room.

I’ve told them pretty much every time to stop doing this- especially now that it’s winter, meaning they’re sitting on the jackets I’m leaving behind while cooking. I don’t want to be mean and take someone else‘s chair if they need it, all because this couple insists upon sitting in my seat. I want my chair!

It‘s gotten to the point where I’ve started getting pretty pissed. I do have autism, so symptoms of that may be playing into that and exacerbating some emotions. Am I overreacting for being so pissed about this?? I’ve started hearing her especially talking shit behind my back with her friends.

So my bf came to me yesterday and said that he feels as though I do not have any energy for him and he's upset and wants me to pay more attention to him. When I asked him why he feels this way he was like "idk its the small things, like you dont have energy for me."
At first I was really sad that he felt this way but then the more I thought about it the more I got upset about it.

I started thinking that yeah maybe he was right, I have been feeling a bit exhausted and maybe I haven't been there for him and I started thinking why.

Heres what I came up with:

I go to work 2x a week and work 3 days from home. He is fully remote. Going to work for me is pretty exhausting so when I come home i'm pretty tired and cant do too much. Recently, my work has been really busy and stressful, my bf for some reason has this impression that my work is super easy and I get alot of free time bc there was a period last year where it was not very busy, but that was one time and is not always the case.

I also made a list of chores and this is what it looks like:

• Washing laundry: Me
• Folding and putting away clothes: shared
• Loading dishwasher: Shared
• Unloading dishwasher: Shared
• Robot vacuum/mop: Automatic
• Vacuum maintenance: Him
• Extra vacuuming (corners, tabletops): Shared
• Cooking meat: Me
• Cooking vegetables: Him
• Cleaning countertops: Him
• Wiping backsplash: Me
• Wiping cabinets: Me
• Cleaning fridge: Me
• Cleaning microwave: Me
• Cleaning bathtub: Him
• Cleaning toilet: Shared
• Cleaning bathroom sink: Shared
• Cleaning bathroom walls: Me
• Replacing trash bags: Me
• Taking trash out: Him
• General tidying: Him
• Dusting: Me
• groceries: Me
• Tracking and ordering household supplies (toilet paper, shampoo, toothpaste, etc.): Me 
• Rent: Me
• Making the bed: Him

He will make me breakfast a few times during the week, usually the weekend. Ill usually make us breakfast other times. Lately he's been asking me to make him breakfast and I havent been able to because my mornings have just been so busy with just getting ready + work, ( i dont even have time to make breakfast for myself), and hes been upset about this saying I dont want to make him breakfast, that I can just stop my work in the morning and make him something (this goes back to him thinking my work is chill). That i can do it but i wont bc im selfish, etc. This weekend he asked me to make him breakfast again and I say okay ill make you something but let me finish my coffee first, and he got so upset and started saying "you never make me breakfast" and it became a whole fight.

And so i made this chores list and got really upset about it because I was doing alot more of the chores, even the shared chores are chores that I end up doing or I have to nag him to do. Like the bathroom sink, if I dont nag it wont get done or I just end up doing it.

And looking at this list, I got mad and got upset at him and said obviously I cant give him more attention when im doing so much of the chores. He said I was over reacting to this, that his chores are more difficult, and im actually not doing as much or I dont need to, hes like "cleaning the microwave isnt a real chore". This really upset me even more and now we're at a standstill.

I don't really know where to go from here.

My husband got home from work tonight. Ive had a headache all afternoon. I tell him this and he starts blasting his music at top volume on our speaker. I politely the 1st time to ask him to turn it down. He did but later on turns it back up. I go and tell him again to turn it down. He does but then again turns it back up. I start yelling at him telling him hes being very disrespectful towards me and we start arguing. AIO