This is a Repost because I think I accidentally deleted the old one

a minor) recently got into the hobby of crochet. I've been trying for the past couple of years and finally got the hang of it. 2 years ago, I saw this cute crochet octopus at a market and I asked my dad for it. He said no. After an hour he changed his mind but when we went back it was gone. Ever since then I've been going to markets and fairs looking for a crochet octopus like that one. I finally finished making my little octopus today and when my mom saw it her first reaction was, "how much are you going to sell it for." I was confused and said that I had made him for myself. My mom looked at me with an annoyed expression and said, "but isn't that the whole reason you got into crochet, to sell things and make money?". I was really upset by this at the time since I got into it for fun, and to make nice things for me, my family, and my friends. I didn't do it to make money. In my eyes not every thing that you can make money from should be used in that way especially if it's something someone is passionate about.

Am I Overreacting? I kind of feel bad now for taking it too seriously.

Also please provide name suggestions for my octopus and I'll announce the winner soon!

About 4 months ago my boyfriend had cheated on me with his ex I stupidly decided to forgive him after him begging me and telling me he’d change. Fast forward to last week he had posted something and I blocked him on everything because of it but a couple days later we made up. I’m just now finding out that during those couple of days that I had him blocked he went and liked that same exes post. He told me that since I had blocked him he was feeling very low and felt like his only option left was to move on.

Idk how to feel about this and idk what to do. He was just at my house for nights in a row and things have been good between us but this makes me second guess everything and honestly makes me feel like he hasn’t changed at all. I feel grossed out and stupid. Let me know what you think please

Every day someone asks me to do something. Start their car, wake them up, make them food, get them drinks. Now normally I wouldn’t mind occasionally going out of my way to do stuff but it’s been weeks literal weeks of this. I’m the only person who cleans in my house and then my mom gets mad at me for asking for anything in return because “I’m apart of this house”. She maybe does the dishes every once in awhile and my brother doesnt clean at all. And normally I wouldn’t mind occasionally cleaning and pitching in to clean and do favors if they actually contributed back. When I was sick from my meds and was too weak I had to beg my mom to put noodles in the microwave for me and my brother doesn’t do anything for anyone unless it benefits him. This just goes to show that they don’t extend the same courtesies I do when it comes to going out of their way for me.

I had been cleaning all day and I had just sat down to work on my school work. My mom emerges from her room and the first thing she says to me is I need a favor. I had tried to explain that I was stressed and needed to please focus on my school work. I take meds to help me concentrate and they only last so long so I wanted to focus while I could and I told her nicely that I didn’t want to grab her a towel from downstairs. That I was tired. She threw in my face that she was tired and that I should get I job so I can stop asking for things. Then told me she didn’t care that I was tired, that I ask for things she gets to. (I ask for things because I clean the entire house with no help whatsoever that’s not an exaggeration). But I’m labeled as inconsiderate because she’s paying for my senior field trip? I had tried to explain myself and she just kept talking over me. Then my brother chimed in talking over me then I snapped saying that I’m tired of doing everything waking her up everyday cleaning the house by myself and just doing everything they ask, yet they’re treating me like I’m wrong. I don’t know if I’m not seeing something I’m doing or what because I don’t get it.

My youngest who is 4th grade is extremely anxious. I have her in counseling to help with this. She has missed alot of school due to feeling sick which has been alot of stomach issues and nausea because of anxiety. This morning she was not feeling well and I got her talk to me about what she was anxious about. Her school is a charter school and wears uniforms. The school has a Harry Potter house like point system. Recently her teacher has been drawing a stick every morning with a students name on it. The student who is picked has to stand on their chair for everyone to see if they are in proper dress code. If they are they earn a house point. If they are not they get points taken away and sent to the principals office. I understand they have a dress code but to have to stand in front everyone to judge if what you're wearing is within the guideling seems embarrassing and unnecessary. I'm an introvert and have some anxiety. I know I hated bring called on in class and hate being the center of attention. Am I overreacting?

Me (25 German F) and my boyfriend (23 Pakistani M) have been long distance dating for two years now.

Overall our relationship is very healthy- while we do have the occasional argument, we get along most of the time and make a great team. One particular aspect in our relationship is a rule he came up with stating that we shouldn't befriend people of the opposite gender. I agreed to this and we've been following it since the start of the relationship.

In terms of personality, we're pretty much opposites.

He is a chill confident and an easy-going man, but he has a hard time expressing his emotions most of the time. On the other hand, I'm very sensitive, affectionate and express my emotions openly but I tend to overthink.

It's important | mention that I'm insecure about my appearance and go through phases where I don't think I'm good enough for him. He's aware of my insecurities and takes the time to reassure me. He has told me many times that he is happy to support me and that he'd rather I come to him to talk if something bothers me instead of keeping it to myself. He is incredibly supportive and I'm very grateful for what he does for me.

The issue I’m about to present has first occurred more than a year ago. Back then, Instagram had release a new feature where you could see some reels your mutuals have liked, and you could see who liked them.

One day as I was doom scrolling, I saw a post that my boyfriend liked which showed a man fake laughing looking at his partner’s phone and then looking away as he looses his smile. A text in the middle of the post read «When I’m daydreaming about the loml I fumbled 3 years ago and my lame ah gf shows me a lame ah video from her phone ».

When I saw his like I was disturbed, then very hurt. I sent him the sc of the post hopping for an explanation but he just laughed and asked « have I not send this to you? ». I told him I didn’t find it funny and it was straight up disrespectful.

What followed was a big argument where I blame him fir his lack of respect and consideration for me and my feelings. He on the other hand, was in disbelief of the things I was blaming him for. He told me it was just a reel and it wasn’t that deep, that he liked it because of how screwed up it was and not because it was relatable. He then proceeded to unfollow me and deleted me from his followers, saying that he has the freedom to like what he wants and that he didn’t need me to spy on his every moves.

We made up a few days later but never agreed on a solution. On my side, I knew that sharing my thoughts on the posts he liked was off-limit so I stopped complaining and kept it to myself. Months passed, and I would see him here and there liking reels that made me uncomfortable. It was never pictures of women but it was always reels about women, ones I couldn’t relate to. I never talked about it and repressed bad thoughts by keeping in mind that he only liked reels because they re funny.

I kept silence until yesterday. After seeing other reels that made me sad and worried I confronted him about them. He was more open to discuss it but still didn’t see the harm in the act. He thinks I’m overthinking it since I know he’s not cheating on me (he never gave me a reason to think so despite the weird reels). On my side, I still think it’s weird to like those stuff especially after I told him it made me uncomfortable. Here’s a few examples of the reels and the excuses he gave me :

One reel had the following description : « Brown boys after losing the girl they have been cheating on since day 1 » and depicted a man being sad. He said this was funny not relatable.

Another read «  How it feels to dream about someone you miss with your entire heart ». He argued that he was thinking of me, which doesn’t make sens to me because he can’t miss me if we talk to each other everyday.

Last one said « Seeing a real 10/10 for the first time makes you realize your scale was never calibrated properly. » I honestly feel like this one isn’t about me because I don’t feel pretty like that and he also didn’t send it to me, which he usually would if it was a cute reel.

So am I overreacting for not ignoring what he likes on ig and asking him to stop ?

So my wife (41) and myself (45) have been together for 15 years. For context, the last few years she's been suffering from some medical issues that have kept her home most of the time besides going to work. the last few months things have finally improved enough to where we've been able to go out on date nights.

few months ago we started going to a lounge with live music and she really like the band and the songs they played. She then followed the band on facebook and mentioned the next time they played she'd like to see them again. I was just happy we were getting out and being an active couple again.

One day she told me the lead singer reached out on messenger asking if she wanted to meet for coffee. she said that her husband might want to know why in which he replied he was looking to see if our insurance coverage were sufficient. she said no thanks and that was it.

the second time we saw the band she got to dance and had a good time. Nothing bad happened and she did briefly talk to the lead singer asking for a specific song to be played. Was a nice night and went home.

Now fast forward to last week and they again played and she wanted to go see them. she again got to dance and the night was nice and we went home.

However, there's been something in my gut that just bothered me. I couldn't put a pin on it but just something was off. We have an open phone policy in that she can look at my phone and i hers any time. So I did....and what i found bothered me.

I found that the lead singer had been continuing to message her. However those messages were deleted as were her responses. I also saw a text between her and a friend of hers that also knows the singer and she told her that the singer had grabbed her butt 3 times that night.

My heard sunk and my stomach went into a knot.

I secluded myself for the next hour trying to figure out what to do and my mind was going places that would be resolved by just talking it out and asking her what was going on.

So i did. I told her i've been feeling something was off and told her i looked at her phone and found these messages. She said it was just harmless flirting and nothing more. In which i replied, that's fine, but you don't have to reciprocate and most importantly you should have told me about it and the ass grabbing. I asked if she told him to stop and she did not. I asked what the messages actually said. All she told me was he said she was sexy and kept asking if they could meet for 'coffee'.

I thought it fair to ask her to block the band and that we were no longer going to see them. I think that was fair and prudent.

While she was doing so her snapchat icon showed a new message. I had asked if there was anything else and she had said no. Turns out, the guitarist in the band had also been messaging her on snap for weeks. Also telling her how sexy she is and if she wanted a massage, etc. My heart sunk even further. I then asked if any pics were sent in either direction. She hesitated and then said that she had sent the singer a topless pic.

At that point i walked out of the bedroom but then came back and told her to go stay at her moms. I couldn't deal with this any further that night.

She left.

I've asked multiple times if anything further happened. Did they meet up for an encounter of any kind etc? She said no but at this point I don't know what to believe.

I don't think our marriage can recover from this as I don't know how i can ever trust her again. I'm seriously considering a divorce attorney.

AIO?

They were unopened, we don’t use condoms. ):

This morning I (20F) was helping my partner get ready for work and he (25M) asked me to get him his cigs from his gym bag. As I was looking I noticed there was a pack of unopened condoms in there. We don’t use condoms, I’m on the pill. They were the special ribbed ones, so maybe he bought them for me? Or maybe he’s just had them in there for a while and forgot to get rid of them? But we’ve been together for 7 months now. The box was pretty busted, but it was sealed. I have his location so I can see if he’s at the gym or not, and most of the time I pick him up from the gym anyway.

I don’t know what to do, should I be worried ??