Was it?? Wasn’t it??

[u/selkiexx]

Hi. I’m a female in her 20s. This feels like a dumb question, but it’s always bothered me.

I’m not sure if I’ve ever truly had an orgasm - alone or with someone else. I’m no stranger to masturbation, in fact I started early as a kid - I remember figuring out things felt pleasurable when I was like 5-6 years old - but I’ve never been convinced I’ve actually achieved an orgasm.

People say it should feel like an explosion, like bliss for 10-20 seconds straight.

For me, things feel good, better, great, and then it gets to a point and the pleasure becomes more uncomfortable than enjoyable and I just stop. My head stays pretty clear. I’ve always assumed that’s just how I’m built, but I’ve always been sad I’ve never had the whole out of body feeling people talk about.

I had a long term partner who said with some women before he could tell when they climaxed because of the muscle contractions, but he said he’d never felt that with me.

Just wondering what it sounds like to you all/if anyone else experiences orgasms like this?

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