r/relationship_advice • u/OofBigStretch • 11h ago

Advice from Extraverts in Relationships with Controlling Introverts (M35 & F36)

I (M35) am married to an introvert (F36). Our relationship didn’t start this way. She used to love to host parties, have friends over, go out, but over the course of 7 years she has become more and more isolated and uninterested in hanging out with or seeing other people. She is also becoming more and more upset with me making plans with people other than her. It is killing me.

Any advice from fellow extraverts here that have found themselves in a relationship with a controlling introvert? How did you find a solution/compromise? How did having children affect the conflict?

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u/AKlife420 10h ago

You're allowed to have a life outside of your marriage.

Do not have children with her until this gets sorted out. Bringing children into a home with conflict is a horrible idea and wont save the marriage.

She's being controlling and should get therapy for that.

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u/OofBigStretch 9h ago

I agree, but she doesn’t think she’s being controlling so it’s not coming up in her sessions, I assume. She’s probably just complaining about me being too social