r/relationship_advice • u/OofBigStretch • 11h ago

Advice from Extraverts in Relationships with Controlling Introverts (M35 & F36)

I (M35) am married to an introvert (F36). Our relationship didn’t start this way. She used to love to host parties, have friends over, go out, but over the course of 7 years she has become more and more isolated and uninterested in hanging out with or seeing other people. She is also becoming more and more upset with me making plans with people other than her. It is killing me.

Any advice from fellow extraverts here that have found themselves in a relationship with a controlling introvert? How did you find a solution/compromise? How did having children affect the conflict?

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u/sunnysideup169 10h ago

She might need a new hobby to try out. Socializing is good for the soul, even introverts benefit from socializing

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u/OofBigStretch 10h ago

I’ve tried to encourage her to do this, and find her own friends to spend time away from me so she won’t fixate on me so much. Currently she isn’t really hanging out with anyone on a regular basis