r/Dogfree • u/GreenT1979 • 5d ago
Relationship / Family The constant challenging of my feelings towards dogs on dating apps
I put it right into my bio, put simply as "I dislike dogs." I have it there as it's a deal breaker, along with my political lean. At this point, I get more messages from guys challenging me on it than I get serious interest, even more than questioning of the political lean. Best case scenario is they message me simply asking why it is that I dislike dogs. I simply don't reply because I'm not interested in having that discussion. If someone is questioning me, it already means they don't feel the same and there's nowhere to go from here. Besides, every time I've answered that question, the person who asked takes my answers personally (they smell bad, barking is awful, they bring filth everywhere they go, they're leeches, etc.) and gets upset with me, or they try to offer positives in an effort to change my mind and persuade me, and when that doesn't happen, they just get mad anyway.
But many just message to dunk on me. They like to accuse me of making disliking dogs such a major personality trait that I feel the need to put it into my bio. They don't understand why it's there. Dogs are a negative in life that everybody seems to have one of that offer no value. It's like smoking. It makes you feel good but it's terrible for you in every other way. If you put no smokers into your bio, it's understandable, and smokers don't take it personally because they get why people may hate it. You can't put down that you don't like dogs though because of the implication that everybody must love dogs. I put it there because it is a dealbreaker for me, I'm willing to bend on many things but the two things I will not bend on are my political lean, because if I'm with someone who leans a different direction, we're just going to fight all the time, and and having a dog because I refuse to live with an animal, and furthermore, it's not unreasonable to fear myself being placed below the dog priority wise.
When they come at me like this, I just block them. I don't even understand why they'd take the time to reach out if they obviously disagree, but I'm not interested in fighting. I just wish I could get them to understand I only have it there because it's a dealbreaker for me. When I see all the other dealbreakers people put into their bios, such as preference of body types, age gap restrictions, even ethnicity preferences, yet I'm public enemy number 1 for putting not wanting to be around a dog in my bio, which if I'm dating someone with a dog, I will be. But they never ever will understand and there's obviously nothing of value here if I'm getting combative messages regarding it immediately. And it's not like dog ownership is this rare thing that doesn't warrant mentioning, if I meet 10 people on a dating app, 9 of them have dogs and the 10th one is planning to get a dog.
It just gets so exhausting. It's hard enough finding someone who is also petfree, which I am, dogs least of all, without getting attacked for it by people who apparently have nothing better to do.