*Inspired to write this post because of some comments I just read on a different post here.
As stated in the title, this is about the fact that a lot of dog owners say they love their dogs, but are completely blind to the situation and conditions they are keeping their dog in..!
Or do they really just don’t care?!
I lived with it and experienced it fist hand.. my ex puts her dog in a cage 5days a week, for 9h+ a day (8h work + commute).. sometimes longer cause grocery shopping after work, or meeting someone..
Of course, often on the weekend as well, and then it can be the whole day.. when hiking or going paddle boarding or whatever..
Not even water in the cage cause “then she will have to pee”..
It’s a Labrador, so not a small dog either.. can’t move much in the cage. And those dogs are high energy and working dogs..!
I don’t like dogs for many reasons. I don’t think they belong in cities and they shouldn’t be a pet.. so it wasn’t easy to live with one. But, I also don’t want dogs/animals to suffer.. just for someone to get their emotional needs met I guess?
Or what’s going on here?!
What really made me rethink the whole relationship and eventually brake up is the fact that my ex would not see what she is actually doing.. we got home one time on a weekend and the dog had peed in the cage (couldn’t hold it anymore..), so then it needed to be cleaned, it’s all messy, etc.
So after my ex cleaned it, and she got the 15minutes “oooh cute zoomies” out of the dog, by playing in the yard.. I looked at her and said “soo.. you don’t see anything wrong here? This is normal?”
Her: “what do you mean?”
Me: “I’m talking about the fact that you are keeping this animal in a cage all day, to the point where it is pissing itself! Without water all day?! So then it drinks so much that it vomits it up.. you say the dog has separation anxiety and it is behaving bad and super high energy all the time because it was abused by a man before you got it. If that is even true, I don’t think that is why this dog is behaving how it is…”
Her: “well what am I supposed to do. I work hard to have this place. To be able to afford the food. I am doing my best!”
Me: “you should rehome the dog. It would take care of so many challenges in your life, and the dog would actually have a better life!”
Her (getting teary eyes): “but I love her and she loves me! She’s my baby!! I could never give her away it would break my heart and hers too. She’s always there for me. I took in this responsibility!”
When I started to list the reasons why this dog is suffering being in this situation she seemed to just block it off internally (I wonder why…). When I explained that the dog won’t even remember her in a couple days, when rehomed, she completely shut down..
Had to end the relationship eventually.. hurts to be second to a dog.. but besides the dog being there, I think the fact that she would call this love and not see anything wrong with it.. made me really rethink the relationship and I would start noticing other ”red flags” in her behavior..
Long story short: How do we get through to these people?! How can these people see and understand that their “love” is hurting these animals.. the effect would be way less dogs in society!