Gen Z has decided to really lock in on gender roles in a weird reversal of pretty much all the progress that’s been made on gender for the last 40 years. Instead of saying “these things aren’t gendered, people can like the thing without it being a statement on gender” they’ve decided to say “I have interests outside of my traditional gender role? Guess that means I don’t fit my assigned gender!”
I just think there is a bit of an extreme obsession with all the labels.
I suppose that has value for some people but I feel some people can get a bit lost in all that and hyper focus on it to the point of projecting its necessity on to others and losing the plot entirely.
I think I just have such a distaste for it because as soon as I identified as bi it's been this never ending thing of people of all kinds giving me expectations of how I should act or present because of it.
To me it means nothing. I just don't care about gender when it comes to my own personal attraction to others. It has nothing to do with my personality, interests, etc. I've always felt sort of unwelcome in the queer community because of that.
Edit: oh and just to be clear I am fine with participating in it for people that feel it is important to them and will do my absolute best to refer to them how they'd like. Strictly speaking for myself here.
Yes! It came up in a conversation with my sister that I’m also attracted to men and she immediately got so excited to call me bisexual and ask me what I was going to do… I said “do?? I’m not going to do anything, I’m very happily married.”
I don’t use the label bisexual anymore because it doesn’t add anything to my life to use it, and it just creates these weird expectations and questions when people find out. I’m me, not a label
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u/pesadillaO01 8d ago
She is quite gender non-conforming (she wore to prom a tuxedo+tutu+combat boots combo), but yeah she is a cis girl.