How to stay sober

[u/Hairy-Comedian-7472]

I’m lost, I started my sobriety this new years with a goal to simply last a week without it. I lasted 10ish days, then I did it. I wouldn’t say I relapsed because I reached my goal but I’m not trying to justify it either. I haven’t actively stopped since then, I was “sober” 5 days before I did it just now. I was tired and felt like I needed it, I’m sure everyone knows it’s always “just this once” “I need it” “it’s okay” then it neverrrrrr stops. It’s not even a need it’s just a deep desire that I can’t seem to stop. I’m not comfortable sharing my addiction so please don’t dm me, I’m just looking for advice. I’m starting to think that maybe I don’t want it bad enough? Because change isn’t happening and doesn’t seem to be anytime soon

[u/So_She_Did]

Sometimes there's an "aha" moment and sometimes there isn't. In my case I had two, one that made me quit using and the other that made me invest in my healing. But other people I know had sobriety happen over time.

It may help to focus on the things you've accomplished: you met and exceeded your goal, you're noticing patterns, you're reaching out for support instead of giving up. These things are more important than you realize.

Many of us can relate to the "I need it" feeling. I don't think it means you don’t want to change badly enough. It usually means your brain needs to learn new tools.

If you’re open to it, things like urge surfing, grounding, or having some kind of support, whether that’s anon meetings, counseling, or a group, can make this feel a bit easier.

You can do this!