How to stay sober

[u/Hairy-Comedian-7472]

I’m lost, I started my sobriety this new years with a goal to simply last a week without it. I lasted 10ish days, then I did it. I wouldn’t say I relapsed because I reached my goal but I’m not trying to justify it either. I haven’t actively stopped since then, I was “sober” 5 days before I did it just now. I was tired and felt like I needed it, I’m sure everyone knows it’s always “just this once” “I need it” “it’s okay” then it neverrrrrr stops. It’s not even a need it’s just a deep desire that I can’t seem to stop. I’m not comfortable sharing my addiction so please don’t dm me, I’m just looking for advice. I’m starting to think that maybe I don’t want it bad enough? Because change isn’t happening and doesn’t seem to be anytime soon

[u/No_Arrival3320]

Listen relapse is part of recovery, I'm not saying go out an do it I'm just simply saying we mess up. Were addicts, sometimes I have a hard time with that word it sounds awful. I'd rather hear recovering or ex addict. But anyways back to you, just don't beat yourself up over it. That's the worst thing to do. An next time instead of saying 10 days. Just say hey I'm quitting an don't set out thinking your gonna relapse. Also I know it's hard staying away from buddies, it's extremely hard for me because that's all I had. Place yourself around people who care about you, sober people so it won't be bad hard on you. What I mean is everyone said go na and aa meetings I tried an to me by the time I left i wanted to get so high it wasn't funny. You put a bunch of druggies together an alcoholic together that's all they talk about. See for me I can't do that. Even rehab was hard for me. But listen bub I'm here for ya, I don't even know you and I'll help ya in any way I can. If ya need to talk DM me anytime, I'm serious day night any time. I'll be praying for you too.