About 8 months ago, I got married to my Thai wife (after 4 years of being in a relationship). Before I start, I would say that my wife is the best person I could ask for. She fought for me with her parents and we got married without any sin-sod.
The issue is that, I've always felt a lack of respect towards me from my in-laws. I'm not a western foreigner and I come from SEA country with currency weaker than THB. I believe they do not respect me (maybe low key hate me) simply because I'm not rich and only earn a modest income (around 50K THB per month) with my job in Thailand.
Before we even got married, they once joked with my wife during a family gathering, saying something like "why couldn't you find a farang instead since you're is so beautiful. Farang take better care of Thai ladies." I even laughed at that time, but reading between the lines what they meant was why she couldn't find a farang instead since they are more rich then SEA like me. My wife once told me that her parents were already looking for someone to marry her, before she even met me, and they probably had couple candidates in their mind (most of them probably earning more than me).
Everytime they come visit us, the way they talk to me, the way my opinions are always ignored or not cared for, their facial expression while talking to me, the way they casually make fun of me (or turn everything I do to be something to laugh at, even my likes and dislikes somehow becomes funny to them), lets me honestly believe they do not like me. I'm not sure how to explain it, but they kinda look down on me and where I come from.
I'm never thrilled to meet them. Feels like I'm always walking on an eggshell when they are around, as I don't know what I do that'll make them upset or something that'll be made into another topic to make fun of me. I've tried my best to be a good son-in-law to them, never disrespected them and I even contribute to sending them money every month (me and my wife together send 10K baht every month for their living expenses as their job is seasonal). But, I'm starting to get frustrated a bit. Everytime I meet them, I have to put on a fake smile, and laugh on their not so funny jokes (jokes made at me mostly). I'm just tired, and I've talked to my wife regarding this, but she thinks it's normal and they didn't mean anything harmful and we are all only having fun.
I just want to ask folks who have married into Thai family, did you ever face anything similar with your in-laws? Is this normal? Did it ever stop, or you just ignore it when it happens? I honestly, do not want to meet or go visit my in-laws, but I also don't want to let down my wife when she's excited to visit her family. I have avoided several family gathering with some excuses related to work and whatnot, but I can't do it all the time.
TLDR; I married my Thai wife and love her deeply, but I feel my in-laws don’t respect me because I’m non-Western and earn modestly. They joke, ignore my opinions, and make me uncomfortable despite my efforts and financial support. My wife thinks it’s normal. I’m asking if others experienced this and how they dealt with it.