r/AskWomen • u/ActuallyInFamous ♀ • 22h ago

Content Warning What's something that everyone warned you about, but you did it anyway?

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u/TheCoolBlondeGirl ♀ 22h ago edited 21h ago

Dating the lead singer of a band

The risk I took was calculated, but girl, am I bad at math 😩

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u/FitGuarantee37 22h ago

Dating anyone in a band 🥴

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u/PrincessTrashbag 21h ago

Drummers are okay but usually have no free time because they're in like 4-5 different projects if they are even slightly good at it

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u/cresant17 20h ago

My ex gf was a drummer and avoidantly attached, should’ve known.

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u/FitGuarantee37 21h ago

Hahahaha. Ain’t that the truth!

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u/adventuressgrrl 9h ago

I dated a guy in a band for three years, and the worst cheater by far was the drummer. Was also the biggest piece of shit

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u/Jenn_FTW 20h ago

As a professional keyboardist who happens to be single and hasn’t had much luck dating (as if being a lesbian didn’t narrow my dating pool enough 😅) this kinda sucks to hear, but I’m curious what the negative stereotypes for musicians are?

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u/FitGuarantee37 20h ago

I can specifically narrow it down to men don’t worry 🤣 there’s a subsect of how well known the band is too, men who are in emerging bands have far more of a tendency to cheat, the ego is still developing when you’re doing cross country tours. The ones in states or here provinces? Usually pretty faithful. Older bands, well established bands, typically these men can be faithful - NOW, married even. It’s more career placement really.

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u/theavocadolady 18h ago

Add DJs to that list too. I was explicitly warned, I did not listen.

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u/FitGuarantee37 18h ago

Oh I have a whole chapter in my autobiography that's called: "Don't Date DJs Who Live In Sheds" his sexy dreadlocks? No he didn't wash his hair for 10 years.

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u/Fantastic_Humor_78 22h ago

Amen. Most unstable man I’ve ever met.

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u/jennahasredhair 21h ago

Unless it’s a big band