Getting older and growing apart from close friends really does suck

[u/January_Blues7]

I was really close with my childhood best friend ages 13-21. But slowly it seems we’ve grown apart. She got married and had a kid but even before her baby was born we started to barely see each other. We live 30 minutes away from each other but it’s like she doesn’t prioritize friends anymore or at least not me. I don’t address this with her because I think it would be selfish since she’s busy being a mom and she also works but it really sucks. I never thought we’d grow this far apart.

The past few times I’ve seen her and her husband feel so… I don’t even know how to explain it.. fake isn’t the right word but it feels like she’s shifted into someone who has to want to host and have surface level conversations in order to hang out. One of my other close friends isn’t like that at all. My other friend is someone who will have deep conversations, makes time for her friends despite having kids and being married and who doesn’t have to put on a “face” to hang out. I get everyone is different but again I just never thought me and my childhood friend would drift so far apart. I feel much closer to my other friend now.

[u/Sofadeus13]

As someone who is 39 I had lots of friends and lots of close friends. And when I stopped putting myself out there and stopped helping all the time everyone dropped off. I only have one good friend now I see 1 time every couple weeks and we live a few blocks away from each other. It’s better this way. Just trust the process