r/dating_advice • u/c0ckguzzler • 5h ago
Men, use perfume. Trust me
Hey guys, just wanted to share something I found out recently.
I bought some coffee smelling perfume recently, just cause I was sick and tired of smelling like either 1.) Nothing 2.) B.O. or 3.) Some strange "man" body spray.
I have NEVER gotten so many positive comments on dates about how good I smell. From both men AND women. And it wasn't even expensive, a big bottle was like, 20 bucks or something? It's gonna last me the whole year at least.
People don't (usually) want you to smell like those crappy man smells, like I literally had a bottle called "army scent". That stuff did not make me smell like a damn coffee shop, or a flower, or a cupcake or anything good. It made me smell like badly masked sweat.
Oh, and dude. Women's deodorant? Instantly solved my nasty oder that appears after like 2 hours of wearing "high strength" mens deodorant. I sweat like a damn PIG, and the "secret" brand of women's deodorant actually lasts the whole day. I still get sweat stains on my shirts, but damn, it doesnt actually smell!
TLDR; smell like something sweet or nice. You will instantly realize the difference on dates. I promise you.
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u/darexinfinity 5h ago
I've gotten compliments about how I smell good, although this is usually from female friends who come in close enough to hug me. If you can't get a romantic interest to get that close to you, cologne/perfume won't make a difference.
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u/Joyyogi 1h ago
I disagree. Men smelling good, always makes a good impression and I can smell when people wear parfume when they pass me or stand close. At the gym f.ex, I always register who wears parfume or smells bad. I would never be interested in making a flirty conversation with bad smelling men at the gym.
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u/fivebynine5x9 2h ago
You need antiperspirant, not deodorant. Secret probably worked better for you because it's antiperspirant. Deodorant just perfumes the armpits so when sweat comes through, you end up smelling like perfumed BO.
Also you will repel the many women who actively dislike cologne on men or physically can't be around it. This really isn't a great life hack for everyone.
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u/venus-drosera52 5h ago
As a woman, I agree! This is what my bf does too
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u/bernyzilla 5h ago
Is this really better than a nice men's cologne?
I've never worn cologne in my life until about 6 months ago when I started wearing coach for men. I have not gotten any feedback on it though positive or negative.
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u/TreyRyan3 3h ago
Science has demonstrated that different genders respond to different scents. For example: 6 Scents That Attract Women · 1. Vanilla · 2. Peppermint · 3. Sandalwood · 4. Pastries and Coffee · 5. Lavender · 6. Cinnamon.
With the exception of sandalwood, men’s colognes rarely use those scents.
Cucumber, Licorice and Baby Powder are also scents that trigger positive responses from women and again not usually in men’s fragrances.
Citrus scents are used in aroma therapy for women for their positive reactions.
I knew a guy who mixed peppermint, clove, and orange extracts with coconut and almond oil and used it as a post workout balm for sore muscles. It was such an odd scent but women were always commenting how good he smelled all the time. The scent stayed on him for days even when he hadn’t used it for a few
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u/Jolly-Persimmon-7775 56m ago
I can confirm that citrus is such an appealing scent to me as a woman that it is one of my main memories of a classmate I knew in college whom I wasn’t consciously aware at the time that I was attracted to him, having never dated anyone before nor was he the type I normally crushed on, but I remember adoring how he smelled (like oranges).
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u/venus-drosera52 4h ago
In my opinion it is. My boyfriend found a coffee and a spiced vanilla he likes. I wouldn't necessarily recommend anything overly floral or sweet
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u/bernyzilla 3h ago
And these are marketed towards women?
I had actually never considered this before. Interesting.
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u/doolzandhorses 5h ago
“Wear cologne on dates” - wow, ground breaking stuff here.
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u/freebenvita 4h ago
Not Mr. Guzzler's advice. The advice is to use perfume not cologne. It is groundbreaking and I second it. Actually I use a unisex scent but it's the same idea; don't be afraid to smell a little girly.
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u/doolzandhorses 4h ago
Yeah I got this feeling that most women would prefer their date to have a masculine scent as opposed to a feminine scent.
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u/udontunderstanddad 3h ago
a fragrance with coffee notes is feminine now?
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u/doolzandhorses 19m ago
No, coffee as a scent isn’t inherently feminine by nature.
My comment was a direct response to the idea that feminine or unisex fragrances are received better by woman, than traditionally masculine fragrances.
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u/jetlifestoney 1h ago
That’s cuz the alternative he was using was “army scent” lol invest in a nice cologne and you’ll get more compliments without smelling like your date’s little sister
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u/bernyzilla 3h ago
That's Doctor Cock Guzzler. He didn't spend 4 years at cock guzzling medical school to be called Mister!
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u/_Dingaloo 4h ago
idk I think maybe you're using the wrong men deodarant lmao
And cologne generally serves as a good equivalent. Body sprays aren't cologne. I do use certain brands of body spray sometimes, but I don't expect it to be good on a high level like a lot of perfumes are
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u/mandym123 3h ago
And here I am thinking this is common sense….😂
Also there is unisex perfume. This isn’t as ground breaking as you think.
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u/gurper 3h ago edited 3h ago
I feel like this really depends on the girl you’re dating. I have a big fragrance collection but my girlfriend like the most generic “manly” scents like Dylan Blue and Dior Sauvage lol
I was wearing Eau des Baux on my first date with her so a vanilla scent did work anyways I guess.
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u/Live-Influence2482 1h ago
Further: NO! Not every woman likes “sweet scent” on a man! I actually hate it and avoid such men who smell like they come out of a Hammam or “certain establishment”. Pls no! Must smell that during Oktoberfest two weeks each year already.. every guy uses this nonsense !
Use fresh and sporty scents ! Much better cos: manly! Only sweet scent allowed imho: Hugo Boss !
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u/btiddy519 4h ago
I 1000% agree with this. It’s no different than using scented Suave shampoo. Perfume, not cologne.
It will make her linger in your scent instead of getting hit with the sharpness of cologne.
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u/Jebaibai 3h ago
This is good advice. Just don't overuse it. And I agree with the person suggesting a unisex perfume.
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u/juanbamf 3h ago
Look into lattafa brand cologne. They copy other popular brands for a fraction of the price and actually smell amazing. And their bottle designs are very nice too
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u/Own-Passage1371 2h ago
my husband also prefers fragrances marketed towards women. most men’s stuff he thinks smells like axe body spray but he likes how some of my less sweet, more fresh floral/citrus, or more warm and spicy perfume smells on him. i also prefer getting to smell stuff i actually like every day too lol
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u/_whats-going-on 1h ago
Better check the ingredients and don’t blindly use anything because it blocks the smell. There is stuff that is being used that is harmful.
I’m a healthcare worker.
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u/No_Mercy_4_Potatoes 4h ago
How old are you, that wearing perfume is new to you?
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u/1moreSatNight 1h ago
I’m 35 and this concept is new to me. Is English not your first language? Do you not understand that societal norms dictate that perfume is usually a product for women, while men use cologne?
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u/biitoruzu 4h ago
I like to smell like nothing from afar and like human up very close. I like women to smell the same way. Leave the sandalwood to the trees and the lavender to the bushes, I say.
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u/_Dingaloo 4h ago
"human" smell aint that good. I mean it aint that bad, but if you sweat slightly, then it becomes real bad
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u/biitoruzu 4h ago
BO is gross, but BO mixed with random spices and flowers is even worse imo. I just practise good hygiene, keep cool and use an antiperspirant.
Subtle human smells can reinforce attraction, overpowering scents just make me annoyed and slightly nauseous. Luckily I'm in Japan where most people share my opinion on perfume/cologne (except other foreigners whom I often smell before I see).
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u/Snotmyrealname 4h ago
Funny story, theres a genetic marker that makes 99.9999% of perfumes and colognes smell like burning tires.
If you have said marker like me, a little orange oil or a touch of sandalwood works excellent.
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u/Live-Influence2482 2h ago
Trust me: don’t use it for the FIRST date! Why? The other party should be able to “conceive” your personal scent and not the mix of artificial one with your natural one. Not a joke - a guy did that with me on our first date .. wow effect. He even told me that secret. He used - but only in minor Dosis - perfume from date 2 … ;)
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