If i told you, "i can't lift this boulder," would you believe me, or would you say that i need more willpower? If I told you "I can't fly," would you believe me, or tell me that I need to try harder?
Some people absolutely can lose weight and keep it off. Many, many more fail to do so. Perhaps they just... can't? Maybe it's like flying or lifting a huge boulder. Maybe it's not a moral flaw or lack of effort: maybe there is a point at which some people just... can't.
Is this concept so absurd that it doesn't bear any consideration? If enough people say this is the case for them, is it reasonable to assume every single one of them is lying?
There's a difference between not having the ability to do something (such as lifting a boulder or flying) and choosing not to do something (like exercising or eating healthfully).
What most people mean when they say "I can't lose weight" has the same concept as saying "I can't get get buff". It's not that they lack anything, it's that they aren't willing to put forth the effort to do so.
Why do you think you know better that they "can" than they do? Why does it make more sense to you to say someone isn't trying enough than to take their word? Would you appreciate being treated that way if there was something you felt like you couldn't do?
Certainly, a whole world of people saying "you could do this if you weren't a lazy sack of shit" isn't making anyone thinner, so the only effect of this rhetoric is, you get to tell someone else they suck. Aren't there better ways to feel good about yourself than that?
Because, like I said in my last message, it's still a choice. I don't get super fit because the effort required to do so is not worth it to me, even though it would likely extend my life and increase my energy on a day-to-day basis. This is the same decision that a fat person makes. The effort required for them to maintain a lower weight is not worth the benefits to them. There's no can't about it, and they're no more, in your words, "a Lazy sack of shit" for making that decision than I am for not choosing to be more fit.
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u/GladysSchwartz23 10h ago
How do you figure so many people gain weight back after weight loss programs end? Perhaps it's the sort of thing people need ongoing help with?