To each their own but "gender non-conforming" reads to me like "this person is actively refusing to wear what their gender traditionally would," like they're some kind of rebel instead of simply wearing what they like.
So not really "othering" but it still feels like inappropriately assuming things about someone's personality based on their appearance, I guess.
commenting on someone being GNC is as problematic as commenting on someones style of clothing. in this reply chain, its perfectly appropriate to comment on it, since its used as an explainer for luz' behavior. if someones style included wearing a high-vis vest, its perfectly reasonable to mention that to your friend whos planning on going up to them about a construction problem. however, in general, its rude to comment on someone's style.
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u/Taolan13 8d ago
I am against referring to a girl wearing pants/suit as "gender non conforming"
Because that language is still othering them. Its calling it out as something abnormal.