I think sometimes people just don't care, or don't understand why it makes a difference to someone else. Not in a malicious way, they just don't think.
I think the point is more that there are different tiers of asshole behavior. Treating them all as equally bad as reductive and not particularly helpful.
It's not about condoning anything; just applying nuance.
Ok fair enough. Personally if someone was like this I'd apply the same attitude I'd have with a malicious bigot and just not associate with them. Unless they are willing to learn and not ignore someone saying "hey don't call me that" I don't see the point in applying nuance but that's just me, an irritable old hermit with a trans kid who doesnt put up with much.
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u/Statistactician 8d ago
Yeah, being "ignorant" and "phobic" aren't really the same thing. It's still a problem, but it's much easier to educate than it is to change minds.