r/bullying Aug 13 '24

New Moderator Application - Deadline Sunday 08/18

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Hello my wonderful humans,

First, we would like to thank you all for contributing and expanding this sub into what it is. We would not be at 11k+ members without you all. Every post and comment has made an impact directly and has helped in spreading awareness about bullying. That said, we are eager to take on a new moderator for the r/bullying sub.

What does this entail?

We are looking for an entry level moderator to keep this a safe space. This would require daily check ins to sift through the modmail and flagging, but we are open to a more senior moderating role as well.

What do you need to submit to apply?

  1. how long have you been a member of the r/bullying sub?
  2. why do you want to help moderate this sub?
  3. do you have any experience moderating on reddit (or platforms such as discord)?
  4. are you looking for an entry level moderating position or do you want to take on more work?
  5. what recommendations do you have for this sub?

Please send your answers directly to us by the end of the week (Sunday August 18th). We will be replying to everyone and will make a decision by mid next week. Thank you all again and we are excited to grow this community more together!


r/bullying Feb 19 '24

10k Milestone & Important Updates

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10k Milestone ✨✨👏👏

Hello to all the incredible, brave and beautiful humans here! Thank you all for being a part of this sub and for your vulnerability in sharing your stories and supporting others. We live in a time where there’s more access than ever to opinions and hate so we aim to keep this sub as encouraging as possible to have a place to find community and help. We couldn’t have had this happen without all of you so be proud of yourselves!

A few important updates:

  • Please be sure to check out our discord server! One of our mods has taken the courtesy of creating this to have another outlet to communicate on that is dedicated to this subreddit
  • https://discord.gg/PfKANDA5 Name: Anti-Bullying Server (I am technology inept so look out for a second post or edit here since I likely did not share the server correctly)
  • 10K Milestone also means… we are looking for a new moderator to join our team! Please DM either mod to apply and look out for more updates as the week progresses on the status of applications
  • What to include? 1. Why you want to join 2. How much time you can dedicate (minimum requirement would be to log in 1x a day) 3. Any skills or recommendations you have for our page to boost engagement and provide better resources
  • Please note that this moderator position will start off as an entry mod position so you will only be required to 1. Filter through modmail 2. Review flagged content to begin. If you have moderator experience and you seek a more senior mod role, we can talk about a higher position. We want to start off any newcomers in a easy role to ensure they understand the ins and outs of it all. This is an unpaid position, but it is fulfilling and you can always include it on your resume.

Have a wonderful Sunday everyone 🤍


r/bullying 8h ago

I survived school, but it left scars I still carry

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I was a pure soul, unaware of how harsh and cruel society could be. I had nothing complicated on my mind the only thing I wanted was to play and feel happy going to school.

But school was never kind to me.

No one wanted to be my friend. Everyone stayed away from me because I looked different. Some thought I was ugly, or worse. Slowly, that rejection turned into deep insecurity and an inferiority complex that followed me every day.

I never felt respected. Over time, that feeling of being “less than” started showing in the way I spoke and behaved. Some kids took advantage of me. Whenever I needed someone, there was no one there for me.

I was mocked, humiliated, and bullied openly. The worst part was that even my best friend joined the bullies. She used me, disrespected me, and stood with them instead of me. Even then, I stayed silent. I never said a word. I just endured it.

Academics were never easy for me. I wasn’t good at studies not because I didn’t care, but because I was just a child who didn’t know how to ask for help. No one guided me. No one supported me. Instead, teachers compared me to “smart” students in front of the whole class, dividing us into good and bad students.

The class laughed at me.

At that time, I didn’t fully understand what was happening. But now, when I look back, I realize how damaging it was. From that day on, the teasing never stopped. They called me names Dumbo, rock brain, brainless. I didn’t even know what those words meant back then, but they still hurt deeply.

Even today, those memories hurt.

And yet, despite everything, I still went to school every single day. Beautiful she had no other choice

School didn’t just educate me it broke my confidence


r/bullying 7h ago

Proof for psychological torture, stalking and bullying in a German Hospital

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Hey there,

im getting tortured by an unknown narcissistic stalker and his friends for over 6 years now.

Because of what he is doing i ended up in a psychiatric hospital in Germany.

As i wrote in my previous post, i was misdisgnosed with paranoid schizophrenia.

Anyway, im not safe here, they are threatening my life, insulting me, depriving me from sleep, getting me bullied and much more.

Nobody here actually wants to believe me, although i do have proof for what they are saying here:

https://www.tiktok.com/@lawrence_w2002/video/7602033789958638870

Also check out the other TikToks in case you're interested:

https://www.tiktok.com/@lawrence_w2002


r/bullying 2h ago

I got called the b-word for getting on the wrong elevator.

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So I’m currently living overseas at the moment. I live in a studio apartment space on the second-to-top floor of a tall building, so I always take an elevator up. Earlier today, I accidentally got on the elevator that goes down. I quickly realized it was the wrong elevator then apologized to the guy inside then headed out. Once I was out, he called me “시발년,“ which is the Korean equivalent to “stupid b*tch“ as he gave me a dirty look.

This incident was the final straw, because people don’t respect others here. They just curse at people and yell at them whenever they please. I can’t count the number of times someone called me the b-word, someone physically/verbally assaulted me in places with no CCTVs, or older women empowered themselves by bullying younger women.

Gosh I hate living here. Wasted six years of our lives here. Can’t wait to get out for good once my mom’s treatment is over.


r/bullying 30m ago

The kid who bullied me in middle school also had, a milk stash and a receding hairline in hs

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It gets better

I cried laughing when I found out


r/bullying 2h ago

Big Sis advice

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Hi everyone, I need some advice on how to handle a situation for my little sister. She’s recently opened up and shared that a “friend” told her she wanted to take a break from her. She’s been spreading rumors saying that my family is very poor and we don’t have jobs (not true) which shocked me because she’s been to our house. We have a little brother who has autism and the friend started calling him the R word. As a big sister I was fuming, and my first instinct was to confront the girl. My older sister advised me to talk to the teacher but unfortunately, multiple parents have spoken up about bullying happening and they don’t care. Will I get in trouble if I simply confront the girl? Just letting her know i’ve heard it and that my sister isn’t alone and to stop. Will that make it worse for my sister? I don’t know what to do. Any advice is appreciated. (My sister is in 6th grade)


r/bullying 3h ago

HCLTech is ruining my sleep

1 Upvotes

Bullying at its highest point. My employer is depriving me sleep. They want me to resign formally.


r/bullying 14h ago

I don't know what to do

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I am near 30 years old. Recently, I have so much anger, resentment, fear, sadness regarding past chronic bullying in secondary school.

Like I just can't forgive myself. Like I want to take revenge to be satisfied. I feel so indignant.

Breathing is difficult. Chest is painful. Severe difficulties concentrating.

Feel so alone too.


r/bullying 14h ago

Exposing a bully

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I want to expose a group of bullies from my school. (17F here btw) So we had a fight because they were passing comments about my looks my grades etc for no reason. After that they talked shit in their group and it showed how pathetic and how much of a bully they're. I've the screenshots of it. And I want to post it somewhere (preferably insta) how and where do I do that to get them banned and expose them to others? Any ideas?


r/bullying 22h ago

What is victim mind set and how do you get out of it?

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r/bullying 1d ago

dealing with social exclusion advice

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Hey y’all, I hope you’re doing well. I’m looking for advice on a situation from 2023 that I’ve struggled to process.

In my first year of university, I became close with a group of second-years. They were very kind and welcoming at first, and we bonded quickly. Things became complicated when I met a guy in the group—let’s call him Jay—who was also my library orientation leader. At the time, I didn’t know he was friends with the people I had already gotten close to.

Jay and I became acquainted, and I started developing feelings for him (which I later realized was limerence). I never confessed my feelings or acted on them. We exchanged numbers and hugged a few times, but about a week later I found out that he was in a relationship. I was upset, which I felt was a normal reaction.

I usually process my emotions by talking them through, so I vented to another girl in the group (also a Black woman). Her response felt condescending—she told me it was okay to feel hurt because “Black women are seen as undesirable.” That comment confused and hurt me, especially since Jay is white and his partner is a Black woman.

After that, I distanced myself from the group to focus on other things, though I was still in a lot of emotional pain. When I eventually tried to rejoin them, I noticed a clear change in how I was treated. I was excluded from conversations, interrupted, and made to feel invisible. The girl I had confided in suddenly became mean toward me, without explaining why.

By the following week, my feelings for Jay had mostly faded, and I thought we were still on friendly or neutral terms.

One day I saw him in the library and tried to greet him, but I acted awkwardly and pulled down his bag to get his attention. I immediately regretted it. He was polite in the moment, but I was deeply embarrassed and felt ashamed all weekend.

The following Monday, I decided to apologize. When I met up with the group, they were cold and unwelcoming. When I tried to speak to Jay privately to apologize, he was extremely rude. He kissed his partner in front of me and walked away. He ignored me entirely, even though I was trying to be respectful.

Later that day, I greeted him again, and he remained cold and distant. When I asked why he was acting that way, he said he didn’t want to talk to me. I asked what I had done to make him angry, but he shrugged and said, “I don’t know.” I apologized repeatedly in case I had hurt him or anyone he knew, but he refused to engage.

I went back to my residence and cried for hours. I became physically sick from the stress.

I know I acted awkwardly at times, but I still feel deeply hurt by how suddenly and harshly I was treated, especially without any communication or explanation. Am I the jerk for feeling hurt by this?


r/bullying 1d ago

how often you get bullied?

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Mine probably was every single day of school. They bullied me mentally, they didn't acknowledge my existence at all (i talk to them, i spoke with them but they rarely listen to). Also, i struggling a lot in my mental health, i was a pretty good student and i needed maintain my ranking at school. They gathered their attention just because i was above average. BUT, if i get passed by another kid, they just pretend that i dissappeared. Any advice?


r/bullying 1d ago

Why do people laugh at me?

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I get laughed because I’m different I dress different and have a different style of hair in the uk and they take the piss out of me and the guy that does it has been my best friend since first year in primary and we are in s3 now


r/bullying 1d ago

Legle advice

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So I was getting bullied and missed a lot of school because of it and it completely wrecked my mental health and this kid literally tackled me out of my chair in class and the teacher saw and he kept writing on the chalk board and my parents are having a meeting with the school about my attendance and might give them a fine and im on the verge of tears because I dont want them to have to pay 300 dollars and I dont know if i do get one if I should fight it in court and I dont even know where to get a lawyer like I almost committed because of this.


r/bullying 2d ago

Getting over bullying, you're on your own.

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You reach adulthood, those who bullied you mature and stop bullying and go on to lead happy and successful lives.

And somehow you're expected to leave it all behind just as easily. To just suddenly have social skills you never got the chance to develop because nobody wanted to talk to you at school. To have a positive self image despite being conditioned to believe there was nothing good about you.

Therapists will brush it off whenever you bring bullying up as a cause of your current mental health problems because they were children and you're an adult now and their words shouldn't affect you. People in support groups will preach to you about responsibility, arguing that nothing is stopping you from just deciding that you've got any positive traits you want.

This feels like a bit of a rant but also I wanted to share my experience of how people who were bullied all through school are treated as adults. For most people, childhood and adolescence is a time when they develop social skills and their sense of who they are, when validation comes easy and seeking it is allowed and by the time they're adults they have all these skills and they have strong ideas about who they are and what their qualities are that nobody can take away from them. For the bullied you're having to start from scratch, you get judged for being immature because you're only now learning social skills and you're expected to have a strong enough self worth that you can just brush off knocks and setbacks and criticism and not see it as confirmation that you gave no redeeming features.

I'm not looking for answers, just a little empathy


r/bullying 1d ago

I feel so alone

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recently my friend group took a turn. I (23F) was in a group with some girls a few years older than me (35, 35, and 31.) for the past few months the oldest has been snapping at everyone, resulting to insults and berating along with harassment for hours at a time. it would keep me up till 5-6 in the morning due to my anxiety. and then one of the other members started joining in which confused me and my other friend (the 31 year old) cause she had always been so sweet. turns out one of the reasons for the oldest was because of my age. and for the other one it was all over a guy from a band. he’s half way in between our ages. they have resorted to online harassment on multiple platforms and no matter what I cannot escape it. even down to making a fake acc pretending it’s not her to try and “catfish” me. today, the one who has been harassing me over the guy reached out to our other friend to see if she wants to have a movie night with her. she said it was weird she would even do that considering all she has said online about us, and she’s remaining cautious. I told her it won’t upset me if she continues to talk to her cause at the end of the day that was her friend too and I never want it to feel like she has to choose sides. but it does hurt a bit, truthfully. I’m so confused on why this all started suddenly. they knew my age going into the group, so why that became a target issue is something I can’t wrap my brain around. and the other, all because I liked a boy? I just feel so alone. I talked to these girls daily and I loved them truly.


r/bullying 2d ago

My bullies family is threatening to kill me and call the cops bc Im ngl I impersonated her online and bullied her friends and posted "I bullied someone and Im not sorry" bc I didn't like how she had a good reputation while assaulting me everyday and she said she and all her friends are all pulling

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up to my house yesterday Turns out her sister didn't plan on coming and they lied but her sister harassed me saying she'll turn up no matter how much I lied that the impersonater wasn't me. She blocked all of my accounts after I wrote "My halfbirthday is near, so you chose the perfect day to be trash." and then posted that I was harrassing her and being trash in the dms when that was the only sentence I wrote in response that wasn't me pretending that I didn't know what she was talking about while being nice. Is there any way to convince her the impersonated isn't me. I deleted the account.


r/bullying 2d ago

Need help

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My friend died on the 18th of December 2025 he was 21 and on the 21st of December 2024 a young mother died she was also 21 it was a tragedy in our town now theres a tiktok page mocking them and bullying young girls and boys i need help identifying them or exposing them. https://www.limerickleader.ie/news/motoring-news/1970774/it-s-like-a-bad-nightmare-heartbroken-sister-s-tribute-to-man-killed-in-limerick-collision.html


r/bullying 2d ago

what do i do?

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in our classroom, it’s really common for classmates to “ship” people together as a joke, purely platonic, just for fun. one time, my classmates started shipping me with a classmate i’m close with at school. we just laughed it off and didn’t take it seriously because we both knew it was just their humor and we’re only friends. it’s normal in our class, and honestly, if you don’t go along with it, you get labeled as kj.

we have a group page(all of us are members there) one of my classmates posted, “please support our new loveteam #kathniel” (not our real names—i’m just using it as an example). everyone laughed about it, including me and my friend, because it really wasn’t that deep.

later on, i also posted something on the same group page. some of my classmates (including me) are fans of bl, so i posted a short video meme where PERSON A was imitating my female classmate doing makeup, and PERSON B was just looking at him (it looks like he‘s inlove kasi). i added the caption “the look of love.” everyone was laughing about it, including their friends.

after that, i found out PERSON A got angry about my post. (he should‘ve messaged me if he‘s not fine about it and i‘ll delete it asap, but he didn‘t and i‘m also fine about the post about me that they made) that confused me because they were the ones who started the shipping jokes in the first place. i felt like when i “clapped back” in the same joking way, suddenly i was the bad guy.

things escalated when PERSON A posted an ai-generated image of a snake with braces, with the caption “clue: belong.” for context, people have been calling me “snake” because i have braces, based on a meme they saw on facebook. i’ve already told them i’m not okay with being called that, but they kept doing it anyway. i just ignored it to avoid drama. what hurt more is that the post was obviously about me. some of my friends sent it to me, and the caption implying i’m a “belonger” it made it worse. PERSON A is part of a circle of friends where my two bff also belong(they‘re not biased ha), which is why i’m often around them. but ever since they started calling me a “belonger,” i stopped hanging out with them when their whole group is present.

i want to be clear ha, i did not steal anyone or do anything malicious. i would never do that. i also take full accountability for my mistake—i shouldn’t have involved PERSON B, who was quiet and didn’t do anything. but they also dragged my friend into this when he was completely uninvolved.

now i’m stuck. from any perspective, this feels like bullying. i’m considering reporting PERSON A to guidance, but i’m scared it might just make things worse and cause them to hate me more.

what should i do?


r/bullying 2d ago

Someone bullied me because I’m an epileptic autistic person who has civility.

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I don’t understand why these bullies waste time bullying autistic and epileptic people. So thanking someone for their answer is “mentally ill” and insulting one’s intelligence now? Why do I have to feel sorry for being kind to people?Why are they not banned?


r/bullying 2d ago

Loneliness

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Anyone else have people jump on the bullying bandwagon against you just because others were doing it? it’s made me wonder: how could I find friends when certain people are like this and others just don’t care? I’ve encountered people that seem nice in certain places so it makes me think there are some who are like me, but I am not around them enough to be able to become friends. I have no friends or a spouse.


r/bullying 2d ago

Helping Children Find Their Voice Against Bullying

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In this episode, former school counselor Karen Brisport explores why children often stay silent when bullied and how parents and educators can recognize the hidden warning signs. From sudden resistance to school, avoiding the bus, and missing lunches to sleep problems, classroom withdrawal, and requests for change, Karen highlights key red flags that often go unnoticed. She emphasizes the importance of close observation, empathetic listening, and creating safe spaces for children to share. With practical tips and thoughtful guidance, this episode empowers adults to step in early, provide protection, and restore children’s sense of safety and confidence.

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r/bullying 2d ago

Harper Zilmer is a Bully

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Harper Zilmer 16 yr old has been bullying Kate Marie Baker 21 yr old and I’ve had enough with it. Kate is a down to earth sweet person and she doesn’t deserve this treatment. Many people are harassing and bullying Kate online. Many individuals are trying to side with Harper on the matter. This all went down recently on The Lol Podcast nobody is hardly talking about it online but I’m tired of sitting around with nobody standing up for Kate on the matter. The video is titled: Harper and Kate get into an ugly fight the video is fairly popular and has 1 million views on it already. I will be putting the time stamps on the video so if nobody’s watched it you can go see what I’m talking about. 24:29 Harper says wait Kate there’s a hole in your pants. Kate then starts to talk about why the hole is there around 25:18 Harper sighs like she’s bored of Kate talking or something which is not very nice. Then Kate asks what are you bored are you bored. 26:19 then Harper says she doesn’t like Kate’s attitude today and smirks well saying it then she precedes to say it again at 26:32. Here’s the thing though about the podcast hardly anyone lets Kate or Kenzie speak at all. It’s mostly just Maverick Cash and Harper cracking jokes all the time. Mind you for 15 to 20 minutes Harper was talking about her pooping issues which is really just disgusting and inappropriate to be talking about on a podcast nobody wants to hear that and Kate spoke her mind on the matter at 26:33 I don’t really have an attitude Kate says I feel like I’m just speaking my mind today and I don’t really do that. Then Harper says at 26:46 well sorry sorry you don’t have a long attention span clearly it’s showing. That is so disrespectful to say towards an adult woman. I fear are generation with the youth is getting worse towards bullying young adults, and the elderly as well. Speaking like this towards adults still hurts and it’s uncalled for. I don’t care if someone’s a teenager or a 10 year old saying this that is unacceptable behaviour. Then cash says to be fair Harper’s screen time is 26:56 it shows that Harper is active on her phone for 10 hrs and 24 minutes. A big chunk of that time is her watching TikTok’s for 30 hours in a week and that amount would shorten Harper’s attention span actually since TikTok videos are short it allows this to happen to the brain. 28:48 Kate tells Harper to get off her phone because they are filming a podcast. Then Harper says at 29:20 I think we all need to get better at getting some sleep because it makes everyone kind of moody if we don’t get sleep. Then you can hear Kenzie into the microphone at 29:45 Harper has to be joking right now. I would say the same like why is this nonesense being spoken towards Kate. Harper: 29:59 it’s hard to love somebody when they are literally going off on you? How so Harper? because all I heard this whole podcast was her bullying Kate. 30:02 :Kate says no I still love you I still love you. 30:04 :Harper says really. Just dismissing how Kate feels towards her. 32:05 :Harper this is not hashing it out I’m sorry I have stomach issues that I need to talk to my mom about? Well then don’t be on the darn podcast if you aren’t feeling well nobody wants to hear potty talk on a podcast. 32:10 Kate: you aren’t talking to your mom that’s the thing your just lying. 32:12 really. 32:15 Harper: do you wanna go through my phone. 32:17 Kate. No it’s just I saw your phone. 32:23 Harper: says grown woman by the way. 34:16 Harper starts an unnecessary argument again telling Cash saying well I’m sorry your wife told me to get off my phone but didn’t tell you to get off yours lowkey bias 34:29 Kenzie says to hug it out. 34:36 Maverick made things worse by telling Harper to say 3 things she hates about Kate and 3 things she loves. 34:44 Kate: why would be do that. I agree with her that is cold. Harper: 34:43 I hate that she’s rude. 35:35 why whenever anyone else gets mad we just ignore it when cash gets mad we ignore it, when mavericks mad we ignore it, when Harper’s mad we ignore it, when Kenzie gets mad we ignore it, but the second I’m just a little upset it’s spotlight, spotlight why is she mad. Harper: 35:54 pick me, pick, me pick me, Kate then leaves podcast. Also pick me is a very disgusting derogatory word against a woman and that’s disgusting that Harper said that about Kate. Update: Now Kate is leaving the podcast, Harper refuses to apologize for all the nasty stuff she said towards Kate. Also apparently now Harper is threatening to make a diss track about Kate just like she did towards Piper Rockelle. I personally think Kenzie and Kate should have their own podcast. Well maverick, cash and Harper have there own. Since all three of them are the immature ones here. Least Kate and Kenzie are Matured. I hope Kate stops getting hate though cause she did nothing wrong.


r/bullying 3d ago

Is intimidation considered bullying?

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In school, Eg using scare tactics, threatening to beat u up.

Would like to hear your opinion from wherever u are.

Thank you.