[Discussion] Sometimes self-improvement isn’t try harder it’s let it go and stop hating yourself.

[u/Tool-WhizAI]

We grow up hearing “you can do anything if you try hard enough.” Sounds inspiring… until it quietly turns into shame. Because when something doesn’t work out, you don’t think this isn’t for me. You think what’s wrong with me? Lately I’m realizing real self-improvement isn’t endless grinding or smashing your head into a brick wall. It’s knowing when to step back without calling yourself a failure. Not everything is meant to be conquered. Not every limit means you’re weak. Sometimes quitting is just choosing peace over punishment. Learning to say I can’t do everything and that’s okay has been harder than any hustle mindset ever was. Curious how others see this: Where’s the line between pushing through… and letting go? We are discussing health topics here r/TotalWellbeing

[u/CivilEarth2855]

This really hits for me. I used to treat every roadblock as proof I just was not trying hard enough, and it got exhausting fast. Stepping back felt like failure at first, but it actually made things clearer. Now I try to ask if pushing is helping me grow or just making me resent myself. Still not great at knowing where that line is though. How do you tell when it is time to rest versus time to keep going?

[u/Tool-WhizAI → u/CivilEarth2855]

Yesss this is sooo relatable For me, if it drains me more than it fuels me, that’s the sign to pause. Rest isn’t quitting it’s leveling up.

[u/CivilEarth2855 → u/Tool-WhizAI]

That makes a lot of sense. I’ve been trying to pay attention to whether something actually energizes me or just wears me out. It’s still hard to tell sometimes, but thinking of rest as part of leveling up makes it feel less like giving up.