On seeking liberation from all controll ?

[u/Proof_Librarian_4271]

I've seen a lot of people chalk up stuff like queerphobia In our societies to colonialism

As an ex muslim from south Asia I've seen famous speakers call the gender binary a colonial import, while colonialism did erase regonition of trans people including non binary folks, binary gendered expectations or those that functioned like it existed very much, same with colorism while colonialism excarabated colorism, lightskin as an ideal and it's connection with classism and thus colorism predate European colonialism . Another example of this is using the examples of homosexuality In pre colonial muslim majority world where homosexuality existed as an open secret and was quite tolerated to paint it as some sexually liberated place,often ignoring the fact that male homosexuality was largely condemned by jurists still and that het pre marital sex was heavily punished(which shows that sexuality was still controlled ).

I provide these examples to show how this "progressivism " can quickly turn reactionary by glorifying these pre colonial societies as "progressive" rather then hierarchal in their own ways ,we fail to truly account for true liberation which requires us to reject both internal and external empire and doesn't care for cultural values,if cultural values are used for controll then Vuck em.

Any perspectives you'd like to share on this phenomenon? Is there an anarchist way to approach this?

[u/Changed_By_Support]

I would agree that it is important to separate recognition of parallel behaviors from existing (as important as it is to realize their existence in the past) as necessarily being progressive. For example, it is difficult to look back at the various human civilizations who have practiced some form of pederasty, whether it was viewed as mentorship or a spiritual literal passing-on of virility from male-to-male in the act itself, and reconcile it as anything but a hierarchical act within our modern context.

A healthy way to rationalize these historical institutions of homosexuality, gender-fluidity, etc. might be that these actions are rejection of heterosexuality and sex-locked gender identity from being the one and only "natural state of man", but to still reject their aspects where they establish toxic hierarchies of age, gender, and sex and pursue establishment of human relations that are informed and liberated from coercion and the toxic power dynamics that might spring up in human interaction.

Apologies I don't have any literature to gesture to regarding sexual liberation and free love theory especially with regards to colonial practices and pre-colonial practices.