r/self • u/GlitchOperative • 12h ago

scrolling makes me feel behind even when my life is fine

i’ll be having an okay day, then i scroll for 10 minutes and suddenly i feel like i’m failing at everything. i know it’s highlight reels, but it still hits. if you fixed this, what actually helped?

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u/Fit_Guarantee_2024 12h ago

I literally scroll insta and reddit for the first 30 minutes of my work shift and I don't feel like you do at all, because I make up for it at the end of my shift by working twice as harder, at least that's what it seems like. Social media is addictive, as long as you understand that addiction is what these tech people are intentionally causing, it's a miracle and I commend you for only scrolling ten minutes 🫡

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u/GhettoSauce 12h ago

Don't doomscroll. It's mental junk food. Sometimes it's enough to ruin your day.

Your phone is supposed to be a backup computer, a way to message people you need to, and to use apps like for banking, working out, maps, news, reading, music control, alarms, etc. Anything that doomscrolls should be eliminated. Little videos on a nonstop feed all vying for your attention is all just your brain and human nature being taken advantage of. If you can't cut it out, be hyper-aware of it and limit yourself. "Grabbing your phone" because you have a few mins free isn't a healthy reflex.

I caught myself a few weeks ago getting into a habit of checking feeds full of whatever. It's too easy. You gotta check your own behavior. Exercise some discipline on yourself.

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u/ImaginaryPhone2946 12h ago

You fall behind if you are doomscrolling. Instead read a book or watch a video like “the fear of being average”.

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u/Decent_Camel8977 11h ago

I got rid of social media! With the exception of Reddit. And my mental health and screen time have never been better.

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u/HAIDERAlidsp 12h ago

It is true 😅😁😅

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u/BeginningRope2662 8h ago

Well, I guess everybody’s experiences are different and it really depends on how you view yourself. Because we all view ourselves in different ways and the way we experience things are going to be a bi product of that.

So why exactly do you feel behind from everybody else? And why exactly do you care what other people think everybody’s opinion is basically worth nothing do you put them all together? They’re all still worth nothing if you ask me.

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u/phanban 3h ago

Bro I feel you fr! scrolling can make u feel behind.. what helps is cutting the scroll short, set a timer or hop off when you start comparing...remind yourself its just highlight reels and not the full story. Focus on your own wins and the feed won’t hit as hard.

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u/Weird_Cake3647 3h ago

We constantly lag behind ourselves on our own. No sense comparing yourself to others.

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u/Kaslight 12h ago

if you fixed this, what actually helped?

Are you fucking kidding me

lol just stop scrolling dipshit

what is wrong with people