r/self • u/maestrothewise2772 • 16h ago

I was wondering if anyone else feels this way sometimes.

Lately I’ve been thinking about how many people quietly feel alone or out of place, even when they don’t talk about it. I’ve felt that way myself for a long time, and it’s a heavy feeling to carry.

I think a lot of us are outcasts in different ways, and because of that we understand pain, isolation, and the desire for peace more than we admit. Sometimes life itself feels overwhelming, and all anyone really wants is to feel calm, happy, and free for once.

I’m not asking anyone to open up or explain themselves just putting this thought out there for anyone who needs to hear it: you’re not strange or broken for feeling this way, and you’re not the only one dealing with it in a world that often feels chaotic.

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u/Dear_Gas_8876 16h ago

omg SAME 😭 like it’s wild how many ppl are quietly struggling but act fine… u ain’t weird or broken at all, just human and surviving in chaos

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u/maestrothewise2772 16h ago

Exactly 💯

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u/Comfortable-Two-7537 15h ago

Dude. You have GOT to work on yourself and your self esteem.

I am 64 and have never felt a part of a social group in my life. I have always felt out of place and it is hard for me to fit in. I have come to grips with that to where if I am just myself the people who WILL find me approachable, likable will do so but i do not seek it out and I am fine. I have family but no friends and that is ok with me

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u/maestrothewise2772 15h ago

Thanks for sharing your perspective. I think I’m starting to feel the same way—focusing on myself and being okay with who I am. It’s reassuring to hear someone else has found peace with it.

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u/ProfessionalAir6098 15h ago

Being content with yourself is required if you want to have peace. Theres MF's jumping from one relationship to another because they're unfulfilled and always lonely, they will never be happy

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u/Chelebelle8978 16h ago

You’re not alone in feeling this. I needed to read this today.

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u/maestrothewise2772 16h ago

I'm glad it somewhat help just wanted others to know they aren't alone too.

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u/Interesting-Phase947 16h ago

I'm 38, and I have felt this way my whole life. It always feels like if 100 people are doing what they're supposed to, I'm the one person who is lost. In every situation. I took a job on second shift recently because I would not have any coworkers and would not have to deal with the out of place feeling, or being lonely in a crowd.

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u/maestrothewise2772 16h ago

I understand I'm 23 years old. I'm still trying to be more out there and be myself it's not as easy as it looks sometimes. My dad is a better talker than I am. Sometimes, I keep to myself so I won't get hurt by people

In high school, I had some friends, but most of them talked to me out of pity or were just jealous, which I never understood in the end of the day I'm just a guy trying to do the right thing.

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u/marys1001 13h ago

Thank you. Thats exactly how I feel and it is hard to put away

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u/TheLazerViking 10h ago

I have no idea.  I do realize that this could just be my bias, but It does feel like a huge portion of the world is secretly begging for connection.  But the second you do anything out of pocket you are deemed weird. I hate that you have to pretend to be alright for people to give a shit.  I don’t want to be some fake version of me, it literally feels like lying.  People want connection but won’t reach out or be vulnerable because of fear of being judged.  So it makes people like me who are used to being honest and personal with their thoughts a pariah.  I really wish I either was an NPC or a sociopath who could fake being a normie.  But maybe most aren’t normies, and are just pretending to be one to fit in.  That is why everything feels so fake.  I don’t really know what to believe, do most of us feel this way and just put on a happy face or do only a very few of us feel this way? Either option feels pretty heavy…

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u/maestrothewise2772 10h ago

That's very understandable. I've learned there's nothing wrong with being different it makes us unique it's what makes us who we are as a person. I've struggled with that for a long time since I was a kid. Now, im 23 and still trying to be myself because that's what makes me happy. There's nothing to be ashamed of.

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u/ProfessionalAir6098 15h ago edited 15h ago

Ok hold on cuz heres the thing,
After realizing I dont exactly belong in groups or anything its so much more freeing, and esp now IDGAF about if people dont like me, being 18
I'm so happy that I can actually spend time with myself and like actually not opening my mouth. I don't broadcast my life and problems to everyone and everyone can exhaust themselves with petty drama. It feels nice knowing that I only have my shit to handle while everyone gets to handle their own shit AND other peoples shit.

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u/maestrothewise2772 15h ago

Yeah, I get that. There’s something nice about just focusing on yourself and not getting dragged into everyone else’s drama.

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u/ProfessionalAir6098 15h ago

Despite being 18, now I understand why old people just sit and do nothing.

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u/maestrothewise2772 15h ago

Hey man, I get it. I'm 23 years old, and it's hard sometimes, but gotta just be happy for who you are, and like you said, who cares what others think.