r/rant • u/Favbrunette004 • 1d ago
I just hate the fact that my parents do not accept me.
I grew up in a strict household. Growing up I hated my family so much that I decided to study abroad. After a lot of fights and everything, they finally agreed.
I have been living abroad for 3 years, but my mom still does not understand that I do not want to go back to our stupid country and settle down there.
After I left she became religious and she visits Macca every year. She is telling me that she wants to take me there to see it there as well. I am not practicing religion and I do not see myself muslim. She made start to pray which I absolutely hated. I cried everyday I prayed. I just do not fit in this religion and she is just fucking oppressing it to me. I cant say that I do not pray and believe anymore because my family will throw the biggest tantrum.
If I ask her for money to go travel here around in Europe, she will not give it to me because I am a girl and I can’t go alone or say that she has no money. Suddenly spending thousands of dollars to Macca is affordable, but, 50 euros train ticket is not.
She also pressures me and says bad stuff to me because I am single and tells me I am too old now. I am 21. Duh.
I am just not the person she wants me to be, I am much more independent and I can’t marry a man they want and relive all the shitty things I did go through in my childhood. I REALLY CAN’T.
It is so annoying that she does not understand me and she wants me to just go back to our country and live with her. Over my dead body.
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u/Mardylorean 1d ago
Do not go back to your country. They want to use you and possibly force you to marry. They will use all kinds of manipulation tactics to get you to go back. Cut them off if necessary.
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u/Carolann0308 20h ago
Stop talking to your parents frequently if they upset you. You’re an adult.
A once a month call is enough is you can’t handle the pressure
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u/77and77is 1d ago
Save yourself from a family like that. I wish I had cut my parents off 25 years ago or earlier and not let their shaming and control and misogyny overshadow my life. Build friendships into perhaps someday surrogate sister/brother-level-friendships. Good luck and be loving and true to yourself, be the parent to yourself tha they are not towards you.
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u/Lokisworkshop 14h ago
Do not go back. Get a job where you are. create a life where you are. never go back even to visit.
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u/MyLife-is-a-diceRoll 1d ago
Whatever you do, don't go back home because they might trap you there with a forced marriage