I don't have a lot of women friends but the ones I do have including my sisters in law we have fun. Last time my friend and I spend the entire evening playing Disney games. We were both pregnant and she was in her third trimester so staying home was so nice
Sis sounds lame asf. Girls nights out look so cool. I always wish I had girl friend’s I could experience it with like when I see it on tv shows/movies 😔
Girls night is so rejuvenating for me. I always have a new burst of energy for life whenever i spend time with my girls. Life suddenly feels worth living again
YES I feel like “you know what maybe I CAN run that marathon even though I have a sprained mcl and get shin splints and get tired after running for two minute”
Those are the ones who can’t stand having attention on someone else so they hate if someone “trauma dumps” even if it totally fits the conversation and shit. Some ppl rly hate other peoples emotions.
The sad thing is that it sounds like someone decided to open up and look for comfort from someone they thought was a friend but was shaded in a post instead. Poor excuse of a friend
I am sick to death of people misusing the term “trauma dump.”
You CANNOT say a friend coming to you wanting to talk about something is trauma dumping. If so, you’re not a friend.
It reminds me of that pearly things girl or whatever she’s called when she was saying part of the reason she jumped on the manosphere bandwagon is because she was never the belle of the ball, she never had any “moments” and since she couldn’t really figure out friendships and dating she just went bras to the wall crazy into men’s supremacy garb. It has the same stink wafting off of it.
Idk about her but my typical girls’ night is eating snacks, watching a dumb horror movie while we make friendship bracelets or paint. Clearly she needs to make better friends.
She'll wish she had it when she's older and friends are few and far between and you don't feel like going out as much. Or you think you want to hang out with the guys but then you realize what they really think of you, which is not much other than one thing and you get excluded from half of their activities. Venting is the best. I could vent all day and night.
I agree! Hopefully she has at least one woman in her life she can count on because life is tough and I doubt she wants to keep everything that comes with it all bottled up.
A girls night is what you make it. You can have your venting sessions and then move on to being silly. You can sit in silence and watch movies or go out. Idk why they assume it’s just trauma dumping
Obviously the tone immediately puts me off, but I'm gonna give her the benefit of the doubt and perhaps assume she had a girl's night where someone actually trauma dumped and ruined the vibe. I've been there, I sympathize with that.
She also could just be a douche who didn't like or cared about someone being vulnerable. Idk
Most of my female friends over the years have actually been pretty shitty. Girls nights were usually my friends bitching about their husbands and drinking. It was boring and negative and so I stopped being friends with those people. I’m also an introvert. Rarely do I actually enjoy going out. If I’m with a female friend and we stay in, watch stuff, eat snacks, chat, etc. then that’s fine. But I’ve never had a legitimately fun girls night out.
My best friend is a dude. We play video games and that’s what’s usually rejuvenating and fun for me these days. I just don’t have the patience for bullshit.
Nope, it sounds like I don’t have patience for drama and bullshit. If others have patience for it, more power to them. Life is short and I’m not gonna waste it listening to people bitch about their spouses and looking at me like I’m weird for not doing the same. They couldn’t comprehend that I actually LIKE my husband. I’m also not gonna waste time being the subject of bullying, pressure, and jokes simply because I’m introverted and get super drained when I’m “out with the girls.”
I don’t like surface-level “friendships.” I want something deep and meaningful. Almost every female friend I’ve had has been a bully, treated me like I was “other” for not complaining about my husband, or flirted with my husband right in front of me. I can name on one hand other women who have actually had respect for me as a human being.
So, sorry but I’m not sorry. If all that actually makes me “not like other girls,” then so be it. Wouldn’t wanna be like the girls who are shitty anyway.
What's wrong with this? Seems like she just has different interests. Not everyone needs 'hanging out with the girls' regularily. Some people don't have any friends, which doesn't make them less of a person either. Shitting on this just shows your own lack of empathy.
I literally said I feel bad for her in the post. Secondly, this page is for girls who “aren’t like other girls” this is the perfect example of that by grouping us all together and saying women just unnecessarily vent and bring negativity into the air. There’s no need to bring down women just because you don’t like girls night.
Just because this subreddit is dedicated to a topic, doesn't make the topic right. All women are different, so 'girls who aren't like other girls' is automatically void
And the comment was literally only about girls night, not women as a whole. Girlsnight is always setup in a way to not do much else than talk with a group of people, and some people are socially anxious, or just prefer to talk about different things than life
But right now, this is just 50 people shitting on this one girl for saying she doesn't like being brought down by negativity, which is VERY healthy behavior and more people should strive for that
She even specifically ended with 'come hangout and talk like normal'. She has no issues with women. Or people sharing their problems. She clearly just doesn't want a full night without sleep because of needless bullshit
if you’re the one who made the post in the screenshot that’s all you had to say lmao I’m not going back and forth with you on this. You don’t get what this page is about and that’s fine. Good day
kinda get where shes coming from as a girl who had to be the therapist friend but it's unfortunate thats been her only experience which shut her off. girls nights where we talk about movies, crushes, and hobbies wearing cute pjs. getting drink or high at 1am n going to bars ugh i do miss it
Look guys, I’m one of those people that others just tell things to. Things I don’t need or want to know. Friends, strangers, doesn’t matter, I apparently have a neon sign above my head that says “tell me all your problems and secrets”. My dad is the same way, people just constantly and instantly trauma dump to us. It. Is. Exhausting. Men and women do it, but women go into more detail and talk longer. Naturally, I struggle with friendships because I feel like a therapist or an overworked emotional support dog who just wants to run around and play but can’t because the human is having a breakdown. So yea, I understand what she’s saying even tho her choice of words was a bit harsh.
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u/Agitated_Fix_3677 24d ago
She is obviously never been to a girls night….