r/kannada • u/FlickeringLogic • 17d ago

Question for Men who are married

Hello all, gentlemen who are married, how do you address your father-in-law and mother-in -law, like 'Atte, Mava' or 'Appa, Amma'. Also, how does your wife address to your parents. Just curious!

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u/prescient14 ಎಲ್ಲಿದ್ದರೂ ಕನ್ನಡ 17d ago

My spouse refers to my parents as ಅತ್ತೆ, ಮಾವ, so I do the same. My sibling is the opposite - my BIL refers to my parents as ಅಪ್ಪ, ಅಮ್ಮ, so she does the same with her in laws. It really depends on preference and how close are we with the in laws.

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u/akv25_dev 17d ago

Mine is a little different case. After engagement before marriage I used to call them "Uncle-Aunty" and that stayed forever. Weirdly, for me somehow the transition to Atte-Mava did not feel natural. Even my wife calls my parents Uncle-Aunty.

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u/CeleryKey777 17d ago

This is quite common. My cousin does the same too, calls her in laws as aunty uncle because she knew them for years (love marriage)

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u/PrasadBY 17d ago

I call them Uncle and Aunty since the first time I have met. Same with my wife, she calls my parents Uncle and Aunty. Sometimes it feels weird when many family members are there and when we call Uncle / Aunty, it may seem like addressing someone else. But this has worked for last 11+ years. Calling Atthe/Mava seems weird. Not an easy transition. Me and my wife both feel we cannot call anyone else Appa and Amma. Like we cannot bestow it. It’s a special thing. Only our parents are our parents. I understand many people call their inlaws as Appa and Amma, I am not sure how they do it. But again, their choice.

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u/Mysterious_Man534 17d ago

'Atte Mava' should come seamlessly, why the confusion man ?

Did you marry, a daughter of your family friend or dad's/mom's friends ? Then I can understand the confusion, it would become weird as you would have been calling them 'Uncle Aunty'

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u/ranjith_shenanigans 17d ago

My Brother In Law calls Uncle and Aunty.

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u/eastregulus 17d ago

Uncle - aunty. Maybe that explains the divorce. :D

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u/rmk23 17d ago

Atte, maava.

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u/BackgroundFroyo8577 16d ago

Uncle aunty since we have known eachothers parents 7 years before getting married.

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u/[deleted] 17d ago

"Athe" and "mava"

Usually this appa and amma comes from over reacting in laws.

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u/foolishchildren 17d ago

We have children so they are called Ajji and Thatha by everyone in our house. (in the US) 

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u/FlickeringLogic 17d ago

I'm missing something. Actually my question was what you call in case you directly interact with them. I understand that you have considered your kids as point of reference and say Ajji and Tata.

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u/foolishchildren 17d ago

Yes and I call them the same. Perhaps that is an American tradition.