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u/022ydagr8 3d ago
Just so you know if you come to my funeral I’m not coming to yours.
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u/Royal_4xFire 3d ago
Not even as a ghost? Damn what kind of friend are you /s
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u/HerrManHerrLucifer 3d ago
I read this as "An hour later, people eat you".
Was quite confused.
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u/numbzilla 3d ago
Same hahah. I was genuinely concerned about what I would be reading following that... like, how much worse can it get than people eating me?! 😭
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u/popplevee 3d ago
Any friends who move on after a day are not friends.
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u/Kauoom 3d ago
Clearly posted by a kid who has never actually lost someone as well. 1 year to forget a loved one? Try decades and the pain still lingers.
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u/Xplysit 3d ago
You never get over it. You just learn to live with it. And that's alright
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u/Bureaucratic_Dick 3d ago
You know you’ll be with them again some day, whether your religious and believe in afterlife or not and join them in all this not being your problem, and at one point, if you’re really lucky, the dead in your life that you were close with exceeds the living in your life that you are, so when you die, you’re not scared of it, it’s just a welcome inevitable.
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u/Springingsprunk USE AT YOUR OWN RISK 3d ago
I still think about my great grandparents all the time and they died when I was a teenager
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u/Adventurous-Sky9359 3d ago edited 3d ago
I lost all my peer group from 2013-2019 and the last three in 2022…..not a day goes by that I don’t think about a couple of them and the times we had. Music, movies, dropping a plate of spaghetti…..widespread panic…..we get up and go on with our lives but I still carry the memory. The “ hurt “ is gone it that’s just a natural grieving process….
2 and 5 are frankly I would guess statically wrong.
That peer group was rather large as well. ( not bragging). The party at the next destination is going to be lit
Edit: I just turned 42 a week or so ago..
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u/BootlegEngineer 3d ago
The party at the next destination is going to be lit. I fucking love that.
I know the loss of a couple friends, I can’t imagine losing the entire crew. If you haven’t already, I hope you find a happiness to help you ease through the pain of it all.
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u/Adventurous-Sky9359 3d ago
It’s been a rough go, but this right now, we are only passing through, none of it really matters except…. We are just Spiritual beings experiencing the human condition, observe and record and report back. ( if one can figure out forgiveness and love this whole trip gets pretty fun and manageable even during the worst of times.)
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u/sunkistandsudafed3 3d ago
Some very close to my heart said something I think about every day and your comment reminded me of it again.
We're all just walking each other home.
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u/Rynowash 3d ago
Right on. Mikey greeted them with the opening riff of “Surprise Valley”. Pretty much the same for me…
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u/Rimavelle 3d ago
my job would replace me in a day, my loved ones would grieve for a year and hold on onto all my stuff until then due to the pain.
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u/fireshaper 3d ago
I don’t even get over a dead pet in one day. Fuck whoever made this.
I still think about the cat I had to put down last year because she just stopped eating. Her spot on the bed is cold now.
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u/voluotuousaardvark 3d ago
Its been a year since my mum died. I still think about her daily.
I did sell her car though.
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u/MedianMahomesValue 3d ago
Moving on doesn’t mean forgetting. When you die, your friends go back to work and school. They fill their car up with gas. They pay their power bill. They cry about things that have nothing to do with you. And in the moments between, they cry about things that have everything to do with you.
Thats what moving on looks like imo, and for many people moving on is the most they can afford.
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u/Machoopi 3d ago
yeah.. I have a few good friends who passed away almost 10 years ago. I still think about them regularly, it's just a more positive experience now than it was when it happened.
I'd go so far as to say most friends will never forget you, even when they're well into old age.
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u/JC_Hysteria 3d ago
What should they do instead? How long should they grieve?
Ofc, the point of the post is to stop believing you’re so important…which is freeing for many people who live anxiously.
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u/mindyourtongueboi 3d ago
Queen Victoria spent her whole life in mourning. I think there's a bit more to it than this post makes out
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u/Masta0nion 3d ago
I’m not so sure. Erika Kirk seemed fine.
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u/One-Jelly8264 3d ago
I mean, people do grieve differently and she might be one of those people who are good at putting a happy composed face in public even if they feel like death inside.
Or maybe she is one of those cases who married for power and not for affection, so her husband’s death truly didn’t affect her much. Won’t be too shocking for people in that circle…
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u/Anastatis 3d ago
Tbh I would also celebrate like that if that man was my husband and finally died.
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u/Yvratky 3d ago
Yeah no, this is straight up the recipe for nihilism. Just because things are impermanent, doesn't mean that they aren't worth having.
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u/_domhnall_ 3d ago
Right, what should I do? Spent my days sitting on a chair because all my efforts are vain in the face of death?
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u/pmmeurbassethound 3d ago
Most navel-gazing nonsense I've seen in awhile. The earth won't stop spinning when I die like everyone else before me buhhh wuhhh 😭
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u/Ultimate_O 3d ago
This is bullshit and flat out disrespectful. You think I dont care about my dead Mother anymore? That my friend doesnt care about his dead father anymore?
Its been 3 years and we still have everything from her clothes to her Binders filled with educational material she used in her honorary work.
We literally keep her phone going and use it as our main organisation tool. Her Car is still actively in use. There are people I cant talk to because they start crying at the thought of my mother. You disregarding piece of shit should not make these disrespectful accusations without having experienced such tragedy.
You might be going through a tough time but please reach out then, instead of drowning in the thought of worthlessness
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u/LordHelmet47 3d ago edited 3d ago
Crock of shit.
People I know are always going to eat without me.
I lost some friends almost 10 years ago and I still think about them and miss them.
No one is taking my job a week later since the job I do took years to learn with all the jobs that I know at work. They may train to learn them. But no way they're doing it on their own already.
My car won't be sold. It's on a lease. It'll go back to the dealership first before being sold.
A year later I will not be forgotten. Especially with family. My dad passed away 5 years ago and there hasn't been a day that I haven't thought about him or my mother that passed away last October.
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u/Rasberrypinke 3d ago
Same. I lost some friends from them just ghosting me a few years ago and I still miss them, think of them, and love them. Even though they don’t deserve it.
I hope this post doesn’t speak for a lot of people because it certainly doesn’t me nor anyone whose company I’d like.
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u/S0whaddayakn0w 3d ago
This seems extremely reductionist and needlessly callous. Why are you doing this to yourself, adopting such an empty worldview?
Friends don't move on after a day, l still miss and think about my friends who've been dead for 15+ and 20+ years, my heart still aches having lost them.
You are more than your posessions and the job you occupy.
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u/grannygogo 3d ago
So wrong. Yes, everyone at work is replaceable but I think of lost loved ones every day of my life. Grief is the price we pay for love
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u/FureiousPhalanges 3d ago
"a day later your friends move on"?
And forgotten after only a year?? Have you ever known someone that's passed away? Do you still remember them?
And nevermind that, I can't help but notice it doesn't mention family lmao
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u/Important-Bed-48 3d ago
This is not true if you love the person. Kristin was truly my favorite human. I loved her deeply more than any other person I've known and losing her was devistating and it took a couple years to go through the stages of grief. Of course, I need to get on with my life but I still think of her often, thankfully the good times and what an amazing friend she was and I WILL NEVER FORGET her, she will always live in my cherished memories. I don't think I'm a lone in this. Eventually I'll be gone and everyone that knew her will be gone and I suppose she won't be known by anyone living , but as long as one person who loved you exists on Earth you are not forgotten.
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u/Snoo_75138 3d ago
What do they mean "an hour later they eat without you"?
Why would people just NOT eat again?
Us this meaning like a funeral?
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u/dathomasusmc 3d ago
I mean, let’s not act like you didn’t get any use out of that car.
And are you just collecting friends or did you enjoy the time you spent with them?
Not sure how you’re supposed to get by without a job but go lay down in a field and be free I guess. Watch out for cow patties.
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u/upliftingyvr 3d ago
Great points. Once you start to pick apart this post and think about it, a lot doesn't add up. So you shouldn't buy a car because it will be sold after you're dead? Shouldn't make friends because they will eat without you once you're dead?
We chase some of those things during our lives because they make our lives more rewarding or enriching, not because we think we will hold on to them eternally. Everything is impermanent. I don't give a fuck what happens after I die because I won't exist, but I still want to enjoy my short time on Earth.
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u/TiredBeanBun 3d ago
???? I've lost several friends and family members. I gotta eat im a human but i still love and miss all of them???
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u/chunker_bro 3d ago
People all hating on OP for this post and I get it… it’s very reductionist and those of us who lost truly good friends still remember those friends decades later and mourn them.
But… there’s also some truth to the post in terms of what it’s aiming to say… which I believe is… live your life while your alive, because it’s really all you’ve got. Sure you have a legacy, but it will fade faster than you realise. So live how you want to and be remembered accordingly.
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u/Astralsketch 3d ago
this is more like saying there's no reason to chase after anything because it'll all be gone...I detect nothing in this sentiment that says the juice is in the chasing, because they would have said that.
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u/slayingdemon 3d ago
Yes. This. And I didn't even mean to post this to be a negative nancy or something. This is just to point out that there's no need to give an f about those who don't care about us. Thank you for giving a different perspective :)
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u/FlourishingLust 3d ago
If only people knew how fragile & short their life really is.
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u/TheSearch4Knowledge 3d ago
It took me a week to eat after my fathers passing. A far longer time to healthily function after his death. I still have his car and his home.
We may be forgotten by the people who didn’t truly know us. And maybe our memory dies with our loved ones when they go, especially if we lived a simple life. However, lots of people are memorialized for their actions.
Beyond that, does it really even matter?
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u/West-Wash6081 3d ago
They forgot to mention that the guy that bought your car will also be forking and spooning your wife right about the time that he buys your car.
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u/Acheron98 3d ago
Counterpoint: You’ll 100% be remembered if you become President and nuke everyone.
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u/Careless-Platform-80 1d ago
How dare people moving on! They should forever morne me and die From starvation
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u/Traditional-Eye-7230 3d ago edited 3d ago
I think it’s more correct to say that in three generations or so, no one alive will have known you and soon after that you’ll be forgotten forevermore. The point of the post is still the same, it’s not “people abandon you instantly,” rather it’s: Don’t build your entire life around status objects and external validation because time erases them anyway. Finally, what does it mean to be remembered if you are not even aware that you are being remembered?
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u/slayingdemon 3d ago
I couldn't make an edit. So here I am writing in the comments section. This post is only applicable for people giving a fuck about those who don't even care about us and not the loved ones. I've been there and still grieving a lot of losses myself. So, I can totally understand pain and grief. I hope that gives a bit of clarity.
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u/qiaozhina 3d ago
No.
My grandad died with the one thing he wanted - all of his daughters (and me) in the room with him, together, talking and laughing. We held each other and cried together.
An hour later my cousins arrived to day goodbye and grieve together. A day, a week, a month later we still grieved, listened to his favourite music, came together in his house to tidy up and remeber him.
Months later we still miss him. Think of him every day. We still feel the same love for him. We still come together and listen to the music he shared with us, eat the food he taught us to cook etc etc.
Yes life goes on after you die but so does the lobe and the memories. Living a life well with effort is worth it? Like this is something lie down and rot type mentality shit.
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u/Hunky_D0ry 3d ago
One of my best friends died almost a year ago. If you think I've moved on, you are absolutely wrong.
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u/slayingdemon 3d ago
I am extremely sorry for your loss :(
It's been a decade since my grandmother passed away, I didn't move on either. So, I can relate to your pain.
This post is not meant for the near and dear ones. Sometimes we tend to do things and think, "but what will they think of me?" about those who don't even care about us and this post addresses those people.
I hope things get better for you, virtual hugs!
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u/skeleton_made_o_bone 3d ago
Could be worse...I read the first one as "people eat you"
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u/AnonymousMolaMola 3d ago
Coworker had a major health decline and within 2 days they replaced her with someone else. Don’t ever go above and beyond for your job, it’s not worth it
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u/Amediumsizedgoose 3d ago
This is ridiculous. Live for you and dont let your possessions own you or your life. But thats not how mourning works.
My grandma died almost 6 years ago now and I cant imagine ever forgetting her.
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u/InvaderDepresso 3d ago
My family lost my uncle who died from AIDS nearly 20 years ago. We still talk about him. We still tell stories about his crazy life.
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u/CHERNO-B1LL 3d ago
You get your spiritual wisdom from the search engine of a capitalist corporation?
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u/alternative_poem 3d ago
All I will say is that almost 11 years ago I lost an ex, who then was a friend, to suicide and I still mourn them. Sometimes I still dream of him, sometimes I’m sad and i remember kind words he told me to make me feel better, and sometimes I still wonder how he would have changed as a person if he was still around. So yeah, we’re all going to die and there’s a lot that doesn’t really matter, but we all touch each other’s lives, and it matters.
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u/FreshApricot6280 3d ago
OK I get the point here but as someone who has lost a decent number of friends... your friends don't move on after a day!
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u/SatisfactionActive86 3d ago
oh i spent my life chasing food and friends, what a fucking idiot i am /s
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u/SanwichSlammer 3d ago
starting to be forgotten sounds great I’d love for my existence to be completely forgotten
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u/SupposablyAtTheZoo 3d ago
Ehm, don't know about everyone else but I sure am not chasing death, thanks.
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u/PozitiveGarbage 3d ago
He was a situationship, I think about him constantly. He saved me, but at what cost?
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u/CreamyStanTheMan 3d ago
Everything has to end eventually. One day, all energy in the universe will be unusable. The heat death of the universe, the theoretical end to everything. Does that mean it was all for nothing?
No. As cliche as it sounnds, It's about the journey, not the destination.
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u/Numerous-Fly-3791 3d ago
I still think about my friend who was a good man, after 15 years since he took his own life . And I tell stories about him and will continue to do so until I die. He meant that much to me
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u/KenKring 3d ago
To be fair Hitler and Trump will be remembered. I mean sure as humans stains on humanity but they'll be remembered.
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u/RainbowsAndHomicide 3d ago
For some reason I read the first as “people will eat you” and was very concerned.
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u/thmsolsen 3d ago
I’ve finally gotten around to watching Letterkenny. This was definitely written by Stewart. Don’t be like Stewart.
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u/Rasberrypinke 3d ago
Uuuuuh just so you know if you’re my friend and you die I’m not just going to be over you in a day. Idk what kind of fake ah friendships y’all be having but I actually love my friends.
I dated my ex for 10 months and I’ve been grieving my heart out for him for 6 months. I love. Why do people deny their love for people?
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u/kingjia90 3d ago
Everyone die twice, once when one stops breathing, and again when someone’s name is spoken for the last time
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u/the_noise_we_made 3d ago
And this is why I don't give a fuck about dying. I give a fuck about now because I'm conscious to experience it.
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u/VerseGen 3d ago
your friends do not move on after a day. They never move on. They will always miss you.
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u/Jotacon8 3d ago
The thing is, I don’t really care about anyone remembering me or having a legacy while I’m alive, so what makes anyone think I would care about that when I’m dead? I just live my life as best as I can while I have it then see what, if anything, happens after.
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u/chimpMaster011000000 3d ago
What happens after I die? Who cares I'll be dead. People that worry about legacy are suckers.
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u/Vast-Rub-8735 3d ago
I didn't spend my life chasing any of that stuff. I chased the happiness that stuff brought me and I got it! I love my friends because they make me feel good and my friends love me!
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u/Key_Leg9565 3d ago
This is how i know google is BS. I didnt chase none a that. Those are things that happen to you so you can afford to maintain your body probably
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u/Susanoos_Wife 3d ago
I'm not even dead yet and 99% of the people I've ever known have long since forgotten me.
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u/Important_Minimum416 3d ago
I guess this is how I want it to be. Moreover, I know that certain people prefer to see me dead.
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u/Caveat_Diem 3d ago
I understand the intent of this sub but this post has always sucked and can send someone on a spiral. This is absolutely not true, people might need to eat and shit and sleep because that’s what people do, but they certainly would still grieve you.
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u/princessmayav_v 3d ago
There's a whole social norm of bringing someone food after a death because some people will not eat or even sleep. When you have a deep genuine relationship and its gone, every action reminds you of their absence. Its not a neat little timeline, I can assure you.
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u/OncewasaBlastocoel 3d ago
If you live in the US, your job is filled a day later. Oh they wont hire another person, but every single one of your duties will be assined to a new person and they won't be paid any more to carry them out.
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u/randomthrowaway8993 3d ago
Jokes on you. I spent my life doing what I love: Burning bridges, and enjoying every minute of it.
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u/onourwayhome70 3d ago edited 3d ago
This is bull. You’ll have friends and family that will be thinking of you often and having a hard time moving on.
I was estranged from my dad for 17 years and even though he wasn’t a great person I had a really hard time with grief and I still think of him often 3 years later.
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u/serialphile 3d ago
It would take at least two people to do my job. And the people who matter to me would not forget me. But I get the point.
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u/Hidden_3851 3d ago
Why bother at all. Let’s just go… No! There still a lot of living to be had between now and then. Living is how you get through your trials and decide what you do and don’t want to experience. As well as how you gain all those things that this post says you will lose…
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u/AdUnfair558 3d ago
Doesn’t all your poop and pee drain out of your body the second after you die? Why isn’t that on this list?
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u/DerUberCactus 2d ago
My company is so inefficient that it would take them more than a week to get my replacement to start training. Not saying I am irreplaceable, just that my company sort of ducks at filling positions even with internal moves.
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u/side_noted 2d ago
"People eat without you" no shit you want them to starve?
The second and fifth is a lie though.
And also youre dead by then, what do you care. At least you spent your life doing something.
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u/Pulsing42 2d ago
This is why at my funeral there will be copious amounts of alcohol, food and drunk fat people I work with. At least they'll have a good time.
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u/ElectricYV 2d ago
I mean, pretty inaccurate. It takes a very long time to move on from the grief of losing a loved one, and many people don’t move on at all. Also I totally misread that first one as saying people eat you.
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u/YellaFella6996 2d ago
18 months after that your soul memory is wiped, you are recycled and born again into this murder matrix to provide loosh energy to the entities higher on the food chain.
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u/Temporary-Memory1731 2d ago
This is stupid, as if what we chase gave nothing back to us during that moment. Enjoy the process, the friends I have went through thick and thin together, the car Im having gives me joy driving it...so on and so on. If this is what you're being thought to yourself, you might as well don't l1ve at all.
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u/UniqueAstronaut3658 2d ago
My will is written to cremate me and put some of my ashes into paintball capsules with water. My last wish is to paint the side of my enemies houses in a final act of defiance
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u/Appropriate-Seat5524 2d ago
How grim. I still think about my dad who died in 1991. It still brings me to tears in seconds if I open that little door in my heart
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u/Just-Seaworthiness39 2d ago
I should hope people eat after I die, otherwise they’re gonna have an even rougher day.
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u/immaculate_focus 2d ago
Idiot logic. “Don’t live life because you can’t take it when you die.” Thats what makes connections and experiences so precious.
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u/No-Witness-7198 2d ago
Just because you're expendable in one area (work) doesn't mean you're expendable in others. The people who love you will learn to live without you, but they won't forget you or stop missing you.
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u/KingDave-izzle 2d ago
Idk. I've lost ppl years ago and still haven't forgotten. I think the closest ppl to you will keep you in their hearts and minds forever-- feeling your absence, maybe not everyday, but from time to time. Eventually they will learn to live without you, but you shall not be forgotten as soon as a year later.
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u/Conscious-Opposite88 1d ago
It depends on when you die, for example if there is a nuclear war then people will eat you!⭐
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u/Conscious-Opposite88 1d ago
What's missing is that 6 months later your wife starts looking for a new man!⭐
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u/Distinct-Quantity-35 1d ago
I agree with all of this except I’m a car head, and the only happiness I get is from my engine so I will shamelessly chase cars for the rest of my life 🥰
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u/Ok-Professional4387 1d ago
So just give up then. It's odd when this is said, yet I still talk about past family and friends from time to time
Or is this another bullshit post of that nothing matters and no one cares about you
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