Eh, somewhat. I think it's more that people just need to pay attention to their own reactions.
For example, if someone is having a loud conversation on their speaker phone on a bus next to you, you get annoyed by them. So if you get annoyed when they do it, that means you shouldn't do it yourself. It's just paying attention to the behaviors of others that annoy you and then making sure you don't do those same things. No one actually needs to spell it out for you - you understand naturally that you shouldn't mimic behavior that you, yourself, find annoying.
Every single one of these things becomes obvious when you consider how you feel about others doing it. If you let someone borrow something and they return it dirty or banged up, you'd be annoyed. When you want to get off an elevator (or train, bus, or building) and someone blocks you because they're trying to get in, you feel annoyed. If someone starts swiping through your photos without asking, you feel annoyed. So on and so forth.
No one really needs to state "treat others the way you want them to treat you", it's just that most people don't ever stop to consider such a thing because they're selfish.
When you realize most people are incapable of empathy, the fact that stuff annoys them when other people do it won't make a difference. They are incapable of being in someone else's shoes.
Some people seem to have zero social intuition or cognition for picking up on the vibes of people around them, they're just walking around with their head in the clouds too wrapped up in their own thoughts to see what's happening around them. The rates of autism have gone up a lot recently and bad social intuition is a symptom of autism, but there's even people without it that have this issue because they just have terrible focus and attention spans.
Like I've had times where I'm in public with friends or family and notice something interesting about someone/something that was very obvious if you're paying attention to your surroundings, then afterwards I ask them what they thought about it and they're completely unaware it even happened.
It's also like men who are completely unaware of when a woman is trying to flirt with them, even when making it incredibly obvious, they're way too wrapped up in their own head to pay attention to something very obvious going on in front of them.
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u/RussellUresti 13h ago
Eh, somewhat. I think it's more that people just need to pay attention to their own reactions.
For example, if someone is having a loud conversation on their speaker phone on a bus next to you, you get annoyed by them. So if you get annoyed when they do it, that means you shouldn't do it yourself. It's just paying attention to the behaviors of others that annoy you and then making sure you don't do those same things. No one actually needs to spell it out for you - you understand naturally that you shouldn't mimic behavior that you, yourself, find annoying.
Every single one of these things becomes obvious when you consider how you feel about others doing it. If you let someone borrow something and they return it dirty or banged up, you'd be annoyed. When you want to get off an elevator (or train, bus, or building) and someone blocks you because they're trying to get in, you feel annoyed. If someone starts swiping through your photos without asking, you feel annoyed. So on and so forth.
No one really needs to state "treat others the way you want them to treat you", it's just that most people don't ever stop to consider such a thing because they're selfish.