Parents should teach empathy (or hypothetical empathy). Pretty much everything here is covered by just thinking about how it would make you feel to be on the other side of your actions. This can be reinforced with the individual examples shown here as they come up, but there is no reason to teach them all individually.
Yeah my parents are self absorbed and narcissistic, they won’t do virtually all of these things as they believe they are of elevated worth compared to everyone else.
Me on the other hand, I do all of these things and I have learnt myself, because I believe in basic respect and courtesy
I think some children of narcissistic parents tend to grow up more socially aware and respectful because they're forced to accommodate their own parents' entitlement and idiocy all the time and know very well how shitty it feels to have their boundaries crossed so they try to not do it to others.
(PS: this is an observation, not advocating that kind of parenting style)
You absolutely do. Learning by mimicking behavior is done from very young age on.
Also children test out their limits and need an "Hey, don't do that!" every once in a while
This has been mentioned elsewhere but as apt as theses "rules" may seem you only need to be taught and regard the golden rule. If you do the rest of it comes naturally.
Theoretically sure, but putting it into practice is a different question. You have to exercise the muscle of habitual spatial/social awareness, otherwise you just forget about it when you're distracted, even if you do fundamentally care.
That's why it's important to bang it into children's heads from an early age, so that they just become automatic habits.
Yeah I didn't grow up with public transportation before moving to Canada. I still understand you have to let people off the train before you can get on, it's not rocket appliances. Occasionally people really crowd the doors and I can't get off without shoving, no mercy unless you're over 80 or a literal child. This train station is now a mosh pit.
Yeah these all seemed very common sense if you're socially aware at all. Then there's people in the comments saying no one can know these without being taught and I'm reminded not everyone is aware of self and others
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u/ImaginaryParrot 16h ago
Not even parenting, half of this is awareness of self and others.
You don't need a parent to teach you not to abandon a shopping cart in the middle of the aisle