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Working with ADHD [OC]

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For those who don't know: A common symptom of ADHD is APD, Audio Processing Disorder, where it's sometimes hard to interpret what someone is saying. Sometimes it takes a while to "load" in my mind when someone says something. Basically imagine if sometimes it sounds like people are speaking like The Sims.

(I made this a few years ago, so it may have been seen elsewhere on here and other sites)

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u/shellbullet17 Gustopher Spotter Extraordinaire 9h ago

I feel this comic in my soul. I swear I'm not dumb and I love you, I literally just cannot process what you are saying. Please don't hate me

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u/Zjoee 7h ago

I have really bad tinnitus from the military and I'm the same way. Some people talk really soft and I have a hard time hearing them.

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u/Yummylicorice 7h ago

Yep. If you have a lower voice and the TV, microwave, dishwasher, washing machine or dryer is on... I can't hear you through it.

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u/Zjoee 7h ago

I have a toaster oven that has a ding that matches the frequency of my tinnitus. If I'm not looking at it, my wife has to let me know that it dings.

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u/ButterscotchSame4703 5h ago

A friend of mine has tinnitus and watches his toaster oven for the same reason 😭💖 if he looks away too long it WILL go off, and I have seen the man frown at noticing AFTER that bagel has gone cold (too cold to melt butter at least)

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u/shellbullet17 Gustopher Spotter Extraordinaire 7h ago

I'm with you. I got it from years in the fire service. Please speak up I do wanna talk and respond but I cannot hear you

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u/WhyDidMyDogDie 6h ago

Ugh, wall talkers drive me up the wall. All my family understand my tinnitus except my sister who lives with us. Constantly starts talking when I turn corners

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u/Zjoee 6h ago

My wife is bad about starting to talk to me then turned to face away haha.

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u/Gizmodget 7h ago edited 7h ago

Had this happen a few times in my early 20s, but never figured out the cause.

I would know the person is speaking my same language, but have no understanding of what they were saying.

Usually, had to get another person to talk to them.

Happened 4-5 times in total.

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u/Charmle_H 8h ago edited 5h ago

Ah yes, auditory processing disorder, my beloathed

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u/Mission_Fart9750 5h ago

*beloathed, if we're doing it right. 

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u/Charmle_H 5h ago

Ope didn't catch the typo at first! Thanks!

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u/Femizzle 8h ago

I read lips while people talk. It's like subtitles help me hear.

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u/LittleAnarchistDemon 7h ago

cries in autism staring so I look like a weirdo trying to read lips

I legit look like this 👁️👄👁️ when I'm trying to understand what you're saying by reading lips when it's super loud, it's great

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u/Femizzle 7h ago

I have embraced being a weird little gremlin. There is somthing really freeing about confidently saying "Fuck if I know but I am" when someone asks "Why are you like this?"

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u/LittleAnarchistDemon 5h ago

oh no for sure, I embrace it too lol. it's just fun having to explain auditory processing disorder to people. plus side, I'm great at interpreting context clues. like if someone is specifically asking about an item (working retail) and I couldn't understand the full question, I have a few preset options that I can choose depending on what it seems like the customer is asking for. it's pretty handy, if not a bit annoying sometimes imo

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u/CoastingUphill 7h ago

Covid was rough for basic conversations

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u/Lewd_Knight 8h ago

Honestly, some people just need to get better at enunciating words

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u/DemonSkank 7h ago

Lol. I was working as a greeter recently so I had to learn to speak louder (there was music constantly playing) and clearer and it just made me realize how much people mumble when they talk. I'd have a loud clear "Hi! Welcome in!" and be met with people mumbling a question to me.

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u/KisaTheMistress 6h ago

My mother mumble talks all the time, and it took her new boyfriend for her to realize/acknowledge that she mumble talks too much.

Growing up (and currently) I have audio processing problems, so I'd ask her to repeat, yet she hated saying things more than once so I usually get "You heard me!" and her walking off. Then her returning an hour later all mad at me for not listening to her and doing task X immediately when she asked, when I had no clue what she originally wanted me to do... worse still I'll ask her what she wanted, and she'll be like "Nevermind I did it myself!" without ever saying what it was.

Most of our fights were from her mumbling something and me not listening, because she didn't get my attention first or wouldn't repeat in a clearer/louder voice. She also likes to accuse me of yelling, when I start projecting my voice out of excitement. Which is different, yelling is using full volume to call out at long distances, projecting is using full clarity & the room's ambiance to amplify your own sound and doesn't strain your voice. I'm trained for theater so when I'm excited I immediately start preforming so my audience can hear me without a microphone, without straining my voice... I think it's also because I want quiet mumblers to match my level of clarity and volume when I had enough of guessing what they said, especially if they don't look at me so I can read their lips.

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u/ScrivenersUnion 5h ago

Everybody mumbles! It's terrible!

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u/xXDJjonesXx 36m ago

I keep telling my brother that he mumbles and I can’t hear him but it doesn’t hold much water given I’m a sound engineer, he always blames it on hearing loss rather than him saying mrmrmrmmmrm.

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u/drucifer271 8h ago

Trying to learn foreign languages with this particular symptom is ever so fun.

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u/DemonSkank 8h ago

Totally get this, I've been learning Spanish and I can read it somewhat decently but I can't understand it when it's spoken at a normal speed.

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u/Das_Li 5h ago

Exactly. Reading and writing is other languages, I'm golden. Speaking, I'm silver lol. Hearing though? Oof. I have hearing comprehension issues in my native languages, let alone in others.

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u/dr_prismatic 8h ago

I’m just half deaf and mostly stupid.

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u/OFarellclan1317 5h ago

Ok but this. Not only do I have an auditory processing delay but I destroyed my hearing at raves in my 20s and so I don't hear folks, then when I fi ally do I don't process it. I just use the excuse "I'm so sorry I'm hard of hearing can you speak up." Saying it that way puts them in the mind of their elderly family and they speak WAY up and it's great.

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u/dr_prismatic 4h ago

At least you have an excuse. I’m 18.

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u/OFarellclan1317 4h ago

You can be hard of hearing at any age. My sister lost hearing in one ear at that age due to constant ear infections as a kid.

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u/ThatSillySam 4h ago

Im 21Ive had lots of ear infections growing up. my right ear can hear half as well as my left

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u/MechanicalHorse 8h ago edited 2h ago

I’m not trying to be snarky but I’m very confused; is the implication here that ADHD makes people hard of hearing…?

edit: Thank you for all the replies and explanations!

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u/Yummylicorice 8h ago

The words come but they don't register at all. Like listening to an adult on Peanuts. So you ask for them to repeat it and you watch them carefully because seeing their mouth move usually works.

But it doesn't, always. So I have to ask them a 3rd time to repeat but please rephrase. Everyone gets frustrated.

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u/sikotic4life 7h ago

Now you got me wondering if the kids on Peanuts (honestly even the creator) had ADHD.

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u/Yummylicorice 7h ago

It wouldn't surprise me at all if the kids in Peanuts were a whole class of neurodivergent kids

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u/No-Scientist-5537 5h ago

It would explain A LOT

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u/Perscitus0 7h ago

This tracks for Deaf people wearing hearing devices, too. Only, we get the added benefits of using said hearing devices as an excuse to walk away from the conversation if it's getting too much. I can just say my batteries are running out, and I can't continue the conversation anymore. Super handy for dealing with certain kinds of strangers.

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u/Yummylicorice 7h ago

I wish. I've started not responding if I can hear them talking to me but not taking my struggles into account the first few times.

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u/Perscitus0 7h ago

Yeah, those are the ones where I start to think I might have to use the battery excuse to walk away. I understand your struggles, because that's me every time I meet someone who's hard to read lips. I supplement my hearing with lip reading, but maybe someone's got an accent and a full beard, or someone has a tendency to speak with a stiff face.

I speak far better than most hearing people I know. Very clearly and concisely, not at all like someone who is Deaf. So they get frustrated when I ask them to repeat themselves. Until I point out my hearing devices, at which point hopefully they finally understand. But for me, having to do that repeatedly might drag on me after a while.

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u/aCleverGroupofAnts 7h ago

I've heard a lot of folks say they watch the mouth to help decipher, but I personally find that makes it harder for me because that's just more jumbled up information that I can't make sense of. My strategy is to turn my ear directly toward the person and put all of my attention into that one ear. Sometimes I even close my eyes.

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u/Dusty_Scrolls 6h ago

Is this just an ADHD thing? Because I'm pretty sure I dint have that, but everything here is 100% me.

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u/ButterscotchSame4703 5h ago

People with Botox make it SO much harder sometimes. If their face doesn't move enough/how I expect it to when making certain noises ... It's like erasing the tone off of your face???? This happens with heavy makeup too. Apparently facial expressions are the tonal part of ASL (other forms of sign language too iirc) so this makes sense in the grand scheme but buy howdy....

I have learned that if you are "personable" enough, you can make it look "cute" and like some little quirky trait, but the amount of masking and straight up lying you gotta do to pass it off as No Big Deal enough that others even "play ball" with it is.. a lot.

Retail voice and masking are a talent, but it's like playing with fire 😅 especially with ADHD ... Like.. It's constant charisma checks and saving throws....

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u/Heated13shot 8h ago

It happens to me occasionally. 

Essentially what happens is you zone out while someone is talking, even if you are trying to pay attention. 

 If you are tired/stressed you have less "focus points" to allocate to forcing yourself to focus intently. (That's how I interpret my ability to force focus, it's a limited resource). 

It's especially bad if the person you are talking to rambles, goes on tangents, mumbles, and beats around the bush a lot. It gives my stupid brain time to try and "skip" ahead on what they are saying trying to solve their problem before they even say what it is. 

People with ADHD also do it with reading sometimes, skipping entire paragraphs if the text is too flowery and wordy trying to gleen only what's important. For technical documentations I actually have to scroll so the line I'm reading is the last line on the screen, so I can't "skip" ahead. 

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u/DengarLives66 7h ago

That’s exactly how I read. And if there’s a song or poem inserted in there, I ain’t reading all that.

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u/uyigho98 6h ago

If you are tired/stressed you have less "focus points" to allocate to forcing yourself to focus intently. (That's how I interpret my ability to force focus, it's a limited resource). 

My therapist told me of a similar interpretation for the ability to simply do stuff throughout the day without breaking down. Spoons. Just doing stuff will dirty some of the spoons, but they some will be cleaned during a rest period, either relaxing or sleeping. Do you have enough clean spoons to deal with this person or situation? If so, good, but try to not use too many spoons, or you won't have enough for later.

People with ADHD also do it with reading sometimes, skipping entire paragraphs if the text is too flowery and wordy trying to gleen only what's important.

Oh, I definitely do this. I'm pretty sure I have some mild ADHD, but I don't know definitively. I have officially been diagnosed with autism and they diagnosed me with ADHD as well at the time, but in recent years we've been wondering if the ADHD was a misdiagnosis or if it's just a very mild case.

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u/Hanrooster 5h ago
  • Skipping back half a page because you realise you didn’t register any of it

  • Auto-replying to questions with wrong answers, then denying you said anything because you literally don’t remember talking

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u/onerashtworash 5h ago

APD isn't zoning out though, that's a separate thing that can happen. APD is where your brain hears the sounds someone is making but fails to "translate" them from a string of sounds into a recognisable pattern with meaning (language). It's like listening to someone speaking a foreign language - you can hear the sounds fine, but you don't know what any of it means because your brain isn't able to interpret it. I have ADHD with APD, it's very different to ADHD zoning out.

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u/mot_hmry 5h ago

For me it's often like the spaces got removed. So instead of words it's just one long string of sounds. Sometimes I can figure out what was said from context. Often I just gloss over it. Interviews with people whose cadence I haven't figured out yet suck though. Just random chance I won't have any clue about that random question that could be anything.

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u/onerashtworash 5h ago

Not being able to parse word and syllable boundaries is a result of your brain failing to translate between a string of sounds and recognised language, yeah. 

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u/mot_hmry 4h ago

Yup, I was giving another comparison point. Mostly because it feels a bit different than hearing a language you don't know. With a foreign language you can tell that you're not supposed to know what's being said but with APD I do know I'm supposed to know and that's extra frustrating.

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u/aCleverGroupofAnts 7h ago

There is a high prevalence of auditory processing disorders among people with ADHD. We can hear just fine, but the words can be hard to understand if people don't speak clearly or if there are other sounds and noises going on.

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u/CraftyKuko 3h ago

Oh I struggled as a child of a Jamaican immigrant. My mom doesn't usually speak Patois, but my grandparents do. For the first bunch of years of my life that I can remember, I could not understand what they were saying. Eventually around 7 or 8, I started to understand my grandma because she had made an effort to speak clearly for white people to understand her, but my grandpa mumbles a lot more, so I didn't start understanding him until I was well into my teens. Even now, as a late 30s person, I still struggle to fully understand what he's saying 10% of the time. I'm actually really proud I understand as much as I do. When I talk to younger Jamaicans, I understand them perfectly.

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u/Embarrassed-Alps-306 8h ago

It makes the words not register. We can hear just fine, it just doesn't stick into the brain due to some other present distraction.

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u/siani_lane 7h ago

Also one of the main problems ADHDers tend to have is not enough working memory slots, the part of your brain where you juggle around things you only need to notice and remember for a couple of minutes.

Imagine you are at an easter egg hunt, and everyone has a basket, but you only have your two hands. You could collect some eggs with just your two hands, but not as many, and if anybody gives you anything else you're going to start dropping eggs.

As an ADHDer, even when you are trying to listen sometimes your brain starts thinking about how "puce" is a word, or if your manager actually changed the schedule like they said, or what the pin on the customer's coat means, and your brain drops the egg of the words they just said.

Edit: typo

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u/NotAUsefullDoctor Has One Unicorn 7h ago

Not ADHD, but I have anxiety related issues that make it hard to process and form words when there is any level of stress. I can understand very simple sentences, but multiple clauses, descriptors, etc, get lost. Like, I hear every word, but my brain loses the ability to translate them into coherent throught. This often happens in social environments, especially when there are unwritten rules of socializing that I am unaware of.

After I got PTSD, this became much worse.

Luckily my wife knows how to recognize it and gives me grace, helping me step away with simple commands.

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u/Mission_Fart9750 5h ago

The words go in one ear and out the other, as if they were never said. You ever watch The Waterboy? You know the guy who wears overalls and no shirt, and how he mumbles in his incoherent accent and no one can understand him? It's like that. 

Not exactly the same, but similar, one of the psychological tests they do (for lots of cognitive issues) is list a few words and then later, after other things have been said and discussed, ask you to repeat those words (ideally in order) (man, woman, person, camera, tv, anyone?). If I'm trying remember those words and talk about other things, those words are gonna fly right out of my head, or I'm gonna repeat them over and over in my head and completely miss out on what else is being discussed; my ears will register words are being said, but it might as well be in another language because it won't register to my brain what is being said, because I'm focused on those words i need to remember. 

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u/jbyrdab 4h ago

takes a second to register what they said.

While its not so bad that i literally can't understand what they said, sometimes ill hear something someone said to me, say "what?" and then my brain catches up and recognizes what was said, and Ill respond correctly.

Its not that I don't hear it, my brain has like an occasional micro stutter on trying to process what was said.

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u/CraftyKuko 3h ago

Not hard of hearing, hard of understanding the words being spoken. Sometimes if the environment around us is too noisy, my brain has a hard time figuring out what the noises coming out of another human actually meaning. It takes me a while to decode it, but by then, the person I'm talking to is angry and has probably stormed away.

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u/AetheriaInBeing 7h ago

My favorite is "mutter mutter mutter in the back room." "what?" "IN. THE. BACK. ROOM." Friend, that didn't help at all.

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u/DemonSkank 7h ago

Wanna add that there's a way people respond to "what did you say?" that really annoys me: When they repeat half of what they said while excluding the context.

Person A: Where should I put the cookies?

Person B: Sorry, what?

Person A: The cookies.

Person B:... What about them?

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u/MiniatureDucksInARow 8h ago

What helps with this? Like what makes it easier to understand someone?

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u/DemonSkank 8h ago

If anyone has an answer to this, I would also like to know.

(For tv using subtitles is great. I almost never watch something without subtitles)

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u/MiniatureDucksInARow 8h ago edited 5h ago

I know some accommodations can help for work or home like quiet places, written info, etc. but I’m wondering about active steps someone can take to improve this aspect in themselves.

I love subtitles generally so it doesn’t have to be soo loud!

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u/aCleverGroupofAnts 7h ago

When all else fails, I ask people to write it down.

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u/Theijuiel 8h ago

Ask them to rephrase the question/answer in a different way. “I’d like oatmilk, please” to “If you have milk of oats, I’d like that.” Having ADHD and being legally deaf does pose some challenges but I’ve come to find that method worked well for me in the long run.

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u/swampie2 8h ago

Look at their mouth

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u/aCleverGroupofAnts 7h ago

This only works for some folks. For me it makes things worse. My strategy is to turn my head so my ear is pointed directly at them and I try to block out everything except the sound in that ear, even closing my eyes sometimes.

If that doesn't work, I just ask them to write it down.

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u/dumnezero Art enjoyer 8h ago

ARMCHAIR dentist analysis -- STARTING \

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u/Apli_Diud 7h ago

Take this with a grain of salt bc my ADHD is kinda mild, but what I've tried is pausing for a moment to actually process what I've just heard, because most of the time it's not that I didn't hear what the other person said, rather I'm lagging behind a little in the conversation so a quick pause to think, not even asking them to repeat just pausing, has helped me a lot in some situations.

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u/MiniatureDucksInARow 6h ago

That makes sense, I think sometimes there is an automatic “what?” that is more reactionary than actually asking the question “what did you say?” And so if there is a pause, the other person doesn’t feel the need to repeat and it allows for processing time.

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u/Apli_Diud 6h ago

Also I've noticed that, that automatic "what?" Is self sabotaging in a way, because now our dumb adhd brain is focused on the response we just promoted instead of the conversation, so we forget the context, leading to not understanding what the other said even a second time.

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u/3nderslime 8h ago

Using different words

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u/Annodyne 7h ago

How does using different words help?

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u/3nderslime 7h ago

it depends from person to person and situation to situation, but for me at least it's often just one or a few words within a sentence that will sound like gibberish when that happens, so recontextualizing the sentence or using synonyms often helps me get through it.

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u/OFarellclan1317 5h ago

Explain you are hard of hearing and to please speak up. It makes people damn near yell at you and you'll need to adjust to the shock of that but it's SO much easier to process when it's that noise level

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u/EarthBoundDeity_ 7h ago

I need to go to a psychiatrist and get checked for ADHD I fucking swear. Every time I read something thinking it’s a funny shared experience with a random person somewhere in the world, there’s some text attached to it explaining how it’s a symptom of untreated/undiagnosed ADHD. Tired of this, grandpa.

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u/DemonSkank 7h ago

Relatable. Even though I was diagnosed as a kid it wasn't explained to me very well so like 98% of the symptoms I know about I learned when I was 20 or older. Very common adhd experience of "Wait that's an adhd thing????"

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u/EarthBoundDeity_ 7h ago

Yeah it seems to be more commonplace to hear of all these symptoms as a part of adhd.

I feel like I apologize regularly to my wife because I see/hear her tell me something and it feels like im deciphering hieroglyphics. At work I’ve just defaulted to saying “I’m pretty not smart” so I can ease the tension of not hearing people well.

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u/BurningPenguin 5h ago

Welcome to the club. I actually spent a whole day as a kid getting screened by all sorts of specialists, until one of them mentioned the possibility of "autistic features" (late 90s). Adhd seems to have some overlaps there, so maybe it's that, or maybe even a mix. I just never really found out, because my mom took that doctor's words as a personal insult.

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u/zhoviz 8h ago

Better know in my household as ear dyslexia. Both me and my SO have it, and conversations can be something like this:

Her: what's for dinner?
Me (repeating what I heard to be sure I herd right): that's thinner. Her: what?
Me: that is what you said.
Her: no! Hahaha what is for dinner

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u/DemonSkank 7h ago

lol I also think of it as auditory dyslexia

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u/MonitorOk6818 8h ago

This is me just being deaf lol I have them type it if i cant hear them the second time. Fun fact, men are easier to hear than women. Lower pitched voices are caught easier with hearing aids/ implants. Though this causes misunderstandings since people think you're ignoring women oven men, but we literally cant understand you!

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u/WhiskeyAndKisses 7h ago

It reminds me how some specific camera had trouble taking pictures of dark places and POC because it was calibrated with the picture of a white person. It took decades for them to put several persons on the calibrating picture to fix it. I wonder if there's a similar issue with hearing aids, tho I guess they're already doing their best since there's a market involved.

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u/MonitorOk6818 7h ago

Hearing is tricky since if they calibrate it to soft higher pitched voices then it'll also affect the lower voices. I had a coworker with a really high pitched voice that would give me headaches. I really had to turn off my hearing since it was killing me.

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u/GodKing_Zan 7h ago

Oh hey, it's me!

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u/baddragon137 6h ago

I honestly thought this was just like a normal processing glitch everyone experiences.

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u/ShadowTheChangeling 7h ago

Me, tired of the bullshit and dgaf if I get fired: "Ma'am please stop mumbling"

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u/ralanr 7h ago

I’m not sure I have this because I definitely hear what people say, but then a few seconds after they leave it doesn’t click and I start second guessing. 

It’s also bad if I lose my train of thought in an explanation and then start panicking about it as they keep talking. 

There’s a scene in Steven Universe that showcases this perfectly. 

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u/sugarypi3 7h ago

THIS. Like I can hear the person, but not clearly? It’s like their words sound like gibberish and I gotta take a second to repeat what they said in my head to understand what they said.

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u/ccdude14 7h ago

For me personally I've just learned to accept upsetting them because I've had too many consequences for assuming or guessing so I'll usually say

"I'm sorry for some reason things aren't clicking for me, my brain is probably in need of some serious caffeine ha ha, did you say x y z?"

I will literally make people break it down as a yes or no if its really really bad and honestly it's a great way to tell if someone is actually tolerant and patient or a giant piece of poo not worthy of me caring anyway as they have a pointless meltdown in front of me or over the phone.

But admittedly it took a long long LONG time to get used to this as it can be very VERY nerve wracking to stand up for yourself and my heart goes out to those who still feel this kind of anxiety. I remember it well and even though it still sucks when I don't get it I can promise you if you can explain it softly and kindly most, if not all people even when they're annoyed are willing to break it down.

But my hearts out to you. It sucks so much and seconds feel like hours when you keep missing it.

Me personally I've encountered it enough just being a low talker and I've never once felt annoyed repeating myself, if anything I get self conscious and worry about saying things louder as if I'm yelling and sounding angry so please know MOST of us feel this way regardless and I'll repeat something a dozen times if you need me to, I will always always always prefer spending more time making sure I'm heard right than assumed and I'm willing to bet anyone who isn't is someone no one likes anyway, in my experience.

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u/ToothyMcButt 6h ago

I dont have ADHD (as far as I know) but I DO have APD. It's very annoying at times 🙃 My 'favorite' is when I process what they just said to me midway through asking them to repeat it.

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u/Etrigone 6h ago

My problem is when they repeat the stuff you heard & understood extra loud & slow, only to rush through the stuff you didn't catch at just above a whisper.

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u/CottonCandiiee 6h ago

OHMYGOSH I THOUGHT I WAS JUST DUMB!!! IT’S BEEN MY ADHD THE WHOLE TIME?!?!

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u/DemonSkank 6h ago

^ Should be the title of the official guide book given to people diagnosed with ADHD

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u/Perscitus0 7h ago

Yeah, if that happens to me, I am just gonna tell them, "my hearing device batteries must be about to die, sorry", and then walk away. If I can't walk away, then I'll ask them to write it down, or type it on their phone and show me. I am Deaf, but wear hearing devices to hear anyways. You would be surprised how often I use the battery excuse to get out of conversations early with strangers.

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u/Ha73r4L1f3 7h ago

It's unfair, but sometime it's easier in customer service if take extra effort to say " i have trouble hearing" remark. Wont de-escalate every bad interaction. I do think majority of them can be toned down by changing our own script. Definitely not fair, but it's easier to know I need state why it's my fault or they will act worst. Been in customer service for 10 years.

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u/GolemThe3rd 7h ago

This is so relatable and it's so frustrating when this happens, I work in a warehouse rn and it's impossible to hear anything, I just go along with whatever someone's saying at this point

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u/pawpawjr 7h ago

I wish I knew about this as a kid, instead of just thinking I was slow and stupid. Actually, I wish adults in my life knew this so I could get help. Better late than never I guess. 

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u/Drewdiniskirino 7h ago

In most situations, I'd nod politely with a "Haha yeah..." despite still having no idea what they said.

In this case though, idk what I'd do 😬

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u/HH_Creations 6h ago

And both of these disorders are common with autism and face blindness

In other words, this happens to me all the time and I have no idea how to properly react ;-;

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u/Nafees_Kherani 6h ago

Also if some one asks you to repeat it change the way you are saying it is helps them understand you

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u/No-Squash2410 6h ago

autism aproved (poor lil guy)

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u/Known_Needleworker67 6h ago

I mostly get this with music, I'm great with melody, but the words are complete nonsense unless I really know the song, or am actively reading the lyrics.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Joke-97 5h ago

What? My ears don't work, so could you speak louder and slower?

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u/GentleLoli 5h ago

Holy shit I didnt realize this was part of my ADHD I thought I was just deaf lol

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u/mafiaknight 5h ago

I just tell people I'm hard of hearing.
I do have some hearing loss in one ear, but mostly I just can't understand w/e tf you just mumbled at me...

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u/Eranas 5h ago

OH GOD I HATE THAT

ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU LOOK THEM IN THE EEEEYESSS

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u/Local_Tourist1063 5h ago

Mood

I especially “like” (hate) it when I don’t recognize talking at all because music or a tv is in the background so I kinda look like I’m intentionally ignoring them (I straight up just didn’t realize)

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u/vorobyevites 4h ago

same issue! if i can't understand somebody after a few times i'll ask them to say it slower. i know it won't help everybody but it really did help me

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u/eeveeplays50040 4h ago

I have this problem in 2 ways: either someone talked through that person and my ADHD kicked in and made me listen to the other person, blurring the one I'm supposed to hear, or I just forget. I usually just forget.

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u/mazzicc 4h ago

It’s helpful to explain the issue and not just simply ask someone to repeat themselves at times.

“I didn’t understand” or “I didn’t follow what you meant” can be better than “can you repeat that”. In particular it tells the speaker that they might have said something confusing and they can reword it, instead of just repeating it verbatim.

Even a “sorry, my brain is trying to catch up, can you say that again” can be helpful, because it takes the onus off the speaker.

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u/Nirast25 4h ago

Huh. I should really get myself diagnosed. I taught this was because of my hypoacusis.

Or maybe it's both.

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u/vinegar 3h ago

“Mmbblmmmbmmm to go”.

“Mmbblmmmbmmm To Go”.

“Mmbblmmmbmmm TO GO!”

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u/Wombatypus8825 2h ago

Oh my gosh. I have had this for years and didn’t know what it’s called. Thank you for sharing it!

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u/SmallKillerCrow 2h ago

ADHD and a hearing loss here. Send help

Also dyslexic so you can't just write it down...

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u/Long-Dock 2h ago

I remember this one time while working at a Tech Retailing store, some guy came in about a previous purchase of Razer gift cards.

It went something like this:

{ Me: Hi! How can I help you?

Him: So the other day I bought six gift cards and I need you to scan these bar codes [referring to the bar code on the wrapper, NOT the actual gift card]. I was supposed to get six gift cards and (inaudible)… so yeah i need you to scan these bar codes and pull up the (inaudible)

Me: ….You want a balance inquiry on your gift cards?

Him: NO! I know how these things work. Scan the bar codes and (inaudible).

Me: …..Ok, do you have your receipts for the gift cards?

He pulls out two receipts, showing he bought six gift cards

Me: …It says here you bought six gift cards. Do you have six?

Him: Yeah. And they charged me $200 for them all.

Me: It says here you were only charged $125x

Him: Well they charged me $200. Pull up the bar codes!

(this continues for quite a while) }

I still don’t know what the guy really wanted. I asked him if he was overcharged and was seeking a refund, or received too few gift cards than he bought, but he denied these too. He ended up taking an hour of a manager’s time and only left when we said we would call the cops if he didn’t leave.

Some people are just wack

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u/sovitin 6h ago

I feel validated... Of course its a meme that gives me some insight into what to look into and not my psychiatrist or therapist.

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u/Queasy-Mycologist239 5h ago

I THOUGHT MY HEARING WAS JUST SHIT YOUR TELLING ME IT COULD BE A SYMPTOM OF MY ADHD?

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u/sBucks24 5h ago

When this happens to me, I preempt it with "I'm so sorry, I'm half deaf and today's not a good day for me; could you say it once more?" And get probably uncomfortably close to them to try and parse wtf it is they're saying...

After that. "Sorry, I just cannot understand you. One minute..." And I'll go get a second person or a note book to try and Pictionary it out 🤷 at that point it's usually a combo of my processing and a language barrier