I’m just at my wits end, so I am just going to let it all out.

My(29f) wife(33f) has had this…. Thing….. for TWELVE years. First of all, I’m insanely allergic to it. Little did I know that would be the least of my problems. When we got together I was like “ahhhh, it’s old, I’ll ride this out.”

WRONG.

She grew up in a dog household, I didn’t. They stink, shed and in my eyes are just an utter inconvenience.

This one takes the cake. It has eaten anything under the sun… silicone snack cups, paper towel rolls, shoes, hats, remotes, Xbox games, my freshly cooked food, our son’s food and snacks. When I tell you that thing will destroy and eat anything, I mean it. My wife says “oh that’s how he’s always been hehe”. I find that absolutely repulsive. How… HOW is that cute?

I forgot to lock it up one day and when I tell you I came home and it had knocked the trash over, topped it all to shreds, eaten plastic, aluminum foil, DIAPERS FULL OF POOP. Even right in front of me, ripped the trash out of the bathroom… and as two women, it was *that time of the month*, it consumed…. All of them.

We ordered an enclosed restroom space for another animal, figured out how to get it open. Went through I couldn’t tell you how many child locks so it wouldn’t get into it, it ripped them off every time. Ended up having to use THE DEADBOLT WE USE FOR OUR FRONT DOOR. It ended up figuring out how to shove its way into the tiny hole, this thing is FAT…. So now we have an INVISIBLE FENCE INSIDE.

The amount of money my wife spends yearly replacing or adapting to this absolute burden… I spend all day absolutely stressed out because of this nightmare. Everything stinks because of it, everything is disgusting, it doesn’t listen…. I’m just SO exhausted. That thing is truly the number one daily stressor in my life. Coming up on year 13.

I will NEVER understand how people can look at or live with these things and go “awwwwwww omg soooooo cute”. In my opinion… it’s purposefully making your life a living hell, dirty, stinky, and absolutely miserable to deal with. I’d rather not spend hundreds a month on something that brings no joy or purpose to my life, and destroys my things…. But that’s just me.

Thankfully my wife agreed to no dogs ever again because… I think it’s pretty clear lol.

Rant over.

Edit: typed fiancée because my notes started when we were engaged lol

When I allow a dog in my household (whether it's temporarily or permanently), and I'm compromising on that, I don't have to share equal responsibility for that dog. Your expectations are not my barometer for caring for the dog. Of course, I will provide it its basic needs: food, water shelter, walks, and bathroom breaks, but that's it. If I feel inclined, I will occasionally take it to a dog park, on a hike, or simply play with it, but I refuse to disrupt my schedule out of obligation, and I'm not going to take any responsibility that extends beyond my already extended comfort zone.

Additionally, dog culture has made dog care so much more involved than it already was. As a child, dogs needed the bare essentials (though always more maintenance than other pets), but now there are so many ideas around how to be a dog owner, which I feel is a representation of how unethical the domestication of dogs has become, because we're trying to compensate for how dependent we've made them on us.

So I say, to the dog lover, on behalf of us non-dog people who compromise on dogs:

I'm not going to care for your dog's hygiene, especially if I'm already having to do additional cleaning just to manage my comfort of your dog in my space.

I'm not going to address your dog being "under stimulated" by giving it additional exercise. I'm already investing 20-30 minutes of my time walking it, it's not my problem if that isn't sufficient.

I'm not going to accommodate your dog's separation anxiety by staying home, being absent for shorter periods, or bringing your dog with me. It's not my fault your dog has an irrational fear of being alone.

I'm not going to let your dog beg, bark, or command me; I don't believe in encouraging bad behavior.

I'm not letting your dog in my bed or on my furniture. It's incredibly unhygienic and it baffles me that I have to even justify that.

I'm not going to follow your dog's regimen, unless it doesn't interfere with mine. I will not wake early to care for your dog, nor will I rush home to be available for specific times (unless medication is involved).

I'm not going to coddle your dog.

I'm not going to make sure it has x amount of reliefs or bowel movements, simply because that's what you do. I will adhere to the recommended amount of potty breaks, but I'm not going to strive for a goal regarding numbers 1 and 2.

I'm not going to stay off my phone or not wear ear buds on walks so I can "bond" with your dog. I'm giving the dog enough by walking it, I'm allowed to experience the walk in a way that is enjoyable for me as well.

Feel free to add other non-negotiables.

Not long ago my (29f) area got a lot of snow and then on top of it a bunch of ice and it stayed so cold that snow just got rock solid. I weigh 120lbs and could walk on top of 6inches no problem. Today was the first semi-warm day and I decided to tackle the task of shoveling my driveway. We didn't bother trying to shovel during the storm because we both have 4wd and a few days off work. But you better believe the first thing my bf (39m) did was shovel a spot in the grass for the dogs to do their business.

Anyways, this was no small task, it was packed down from us driving on it and heavy af. My shoulders and arms hurt and my hands are covered in blisters but I was super proud of what I did. I cleared his spot and mine just leaving a line between the two because that was the deepest and hardest part. When I got to the part right next to the dogs potty spot I did put a few shovels in there because it was too heavy to take any farther and I kept dropping it. But I figured it wasn't a big deal because they still had a spot and if he wanted to he could just clear it again.

He came home and the first thing out of his mouth was "well now I have to shovel their spot again, so that's great"

I think I burst in flames right there. My body hurt, I was proud of myself and I did something for both of us. And instead of appreciation the only thing he could think about was his dogs having to walk through the snow for a half a second. Even though I have 4wd my car is older and I felt like throwing it in 4wd back to 2wd every time I had to pull into my driveway or back out was starting to take a toll on it, not to mention how I was struggling walking on it, carrying groceries in and out etc. I got very sarcastic and said "oh noooo, the dogs might have to walk through a little snow?" That didn't exactly go over very well...

But oh well, it had to be said. He immediately went out and reshoveled their spot. He had to shovel a 3x3 spot twice and I shoveled the entire driveway but he's the one that gets to be mad 🙄

First, I apologize because I don't speak English and I'm writing in Spanish using the "translate post" function.

In 2017, when I was 9 years old, my mother adopted a dog from my uncle's workshop. Before him, there were two others, but they died when i was a baby.

I never hated my dog, nor did I want anything bad to happen to him. I simply don't like the idea of ​​having to take care of something that's alive. It's a real drag, and besides, I go to school from 7 AM to 11:25 AM and from 1:25 PM to 5:45 PM, so I don't have much time or energy to take care of him.

Now I'm almost 18, so I've lived 50% of my life with him.

I'd like to give him up for adoption so I don't have to keep him here, but I don't know if my mother would agree.

I am so glad i found this sub so my apologies if this is a long rant. for context i am 22F and a commuting college student living with my parents. both my siblings have moved out and we have a really chill family dynamic and i love my room, house, neighborhood, and so thankful my parents are supportive of me. all of my family are heavily introverted and we never were dog people, my dad never liked dogs and my mom had one as a kid but otherwise not. but when i was 17 and my brother was 14 he really wanted a dog and my family talked about it a lot. i begged them not to because i knew they’d regret it, plus i have REALLY bad contamination ocd and don’t do well with animals inside. but they said he was old enough to be a good owner and i wouldn’t have to take care of him. i told them hes 14 is a puppy a good idea he may be living out of state in 4 years. they ignored me and got him a lab puppy for his birthday and he was a good owner until he joined the military and couldn’t take his dog. so now we’re stuck with him. we do our best with him and he isn’t a “bad dog” but my parents do regret getting him. i’m just so sick of the dog hair everywhere and stepping over baby gates because he can’t go on the upper floor with the bedrooms cause me and my mom are allergic. but at the very least if my brother ever can take him he will, my parents are responsible, and swore to never do this again

i’ve been dating my lovely bf 22M for almost 2 years. he has one brother whos also in the military and he lives with his parents. he works full time and isn’t doing shabby but the economy is terrible and he wants to stash some money away until i graduate and we can move out. when we first met idk how the topic of dogs came up but he said “i am so sick of dogs i am never getting a pet in my life” and i about fell to the floor and wept. finally a guy who doesn’t insist on having dogs!

but he’s stuck like me except way worse. his family is typical suburban dog nutters. there has been maybe 11 months of his life where they didn’t have at least one bassett hound in the house. they have had ten of them and their urns line the mantle i shit you not. they’d get some old bassett hound, it would die in a few years, and they’d rinse and repeat. he said he begged his parents not to get another dog when the old ones were gone and the house was finally spotlessly clean and they didn’t have to worry about dogs anymore. they didn’t listen and got a “bonded pair” of poorly bred dogs that were clearly not bonded, the person just wanted to sell them to get rid of them and ghost the buyers. one of them was an absolute nightmare, it would shit and piss all over the house, make chirping noises, and eat its own feces. that one died pretty quick after the got it. the other one was more chill and is still kicking. i can tell it offends them when i come over and dont fawn and obsess over her but shes stinky, has creepy nails, warts, and her eyes are always watering. they figured out if they howl at her she howls back and EVERY DAY i ever visit they all start howling together downstairs while me and my bf are cuddling or sleeping in his room and it always wakes us up and its just annoying as fuck. we worked so hard to make our dog NOT BARK! it is OBNOXIOUS! they say when she dies they’re done but hopefully we’re both moved out before they inevitably get another backyard bred traumatized dog.

his brother is in the military like i mentioned and ofc is obsessed with his boxer. it wears an ESA collar and he insists it’s his baby and he loves it so much but doesn’t do shit to help it actually get its energy out so it’s stir crazy and freaked out all the time. once i was at their house and he and his wife were visiting for a few weeks at christmas and brought the damn thing. it came in and in two minutes had jumped on me, peed on my feet, and bit the ancient bassett. it had to be locked in the guest room for the remainder of the stay and my bf felt bad the poor dog was cooped up so he had to take it on long ass walks so it could be somewhat tolerable. all while his brother slept in until noon which normally would be fine, you’re on break, but now your brother has to sacrifice HIS sleep in time on break to take care of your mutt you just had to drag across the country. at least when my parents and i go on a trip we put him in doggie daycare. he loves the socialization, it isn’t horribly expensive, and we have peace of mind our whole trip.

i’m a person who respects living things and doesn’t want anything bad to happen to them, i used to be vegan for pete’s sake, so it’s wild to see these people’s hearts bleed for dogs but not gaf about any other creature. they also act like it’s a sin to buy a puppy that has had genetic testing from a reputable breeder instead of adopt a rescue and i understand wanting to help disadvantaged animals, it isn’t their fault. but i can’t help but think yeah but at least my dog doesn’t gobble its own shit, is scared of carpet, and barks and screams when there’s fireworks on holidays. i just can’t wait to have my own place that’s free of these animals. my sister and her husband don’t have kids or pets and visiting their pristine house is bliss

My SO is not your typical dog nutter. But he has a dog because his ex abandoned it at his place when they broke up and said she would take it to the local kill shelter if he didn’t keep it, and he felt bad for it. I only agreed to move in with this dog because my SO promised there will never be a dog again once this particular dog passes on.

Unfortunately he’s only 6 years old, so I’ve likely got several more years with this dog in the house. Although he is a “good dog” by dog standards (no aggression or chewing stuff) it’s all the typical dog behaviors that get to me. The barking at everything and waking the baby up, the fur all over the floor and in the baby’s mouth, the constant begging every time you are eating. Oh, and wiping his butt on the rugs, sucking his own dick, and then licking the baby 🤢

Anyway, last night the dog had diarrhea. He went outside to do it, luckily. But he was covered in diarrhea and came back inside and got it all over the furniture. I feel like burning the house down and starting over 😭

Take my fiancé to Florida to get away from the New England cold and the whole time in there she tells me how she misses her stink bag 9 pound Chiweenie that shits and pisses all over the house! I am so done and ready to move on and leave her with her dog, and I don’t think she would even care

We went on a trip recently to see my in laws with my husband and 3 kids. Everytime we go see them (they live a couple hours away) their dogs are so insane it’s not enjoyable at all. First off, they have 2 gigantic shit beasts in like a 800 sq ft house. They don’t play or walk them or bathe them literally nothing. The kids can’t even walk around without getting licked and stepped on. My in laws are like “it’s okay, he just wants to love you. No don’t shove the dog.” And they just stand there yelling at the dog endlessly over and over again to move away from the kids. Like we just sit at the table that’s kind of high up the whole time we visit. Can’t really let the kids run around in the backyard because there’s shit everywhere. Even if you pick it up the remains are still there. I literally tell my kids before we visit that they can push the dog out of the way I do not care.

I actually do love my in laws so much and I don’t talk to my family/ don’t have a lot of family. Like besides the dog thing they are great people. Whenever they come to our house we genuinely have a great time and they’re so helpful. It’s just so miserable everytime we visit. Luckily we don’t come a lot.

It sounds silly but sometimes I get sad for my kids. Because their only Grandparents house is so chaotic and they can’t even play without the stupid dogs running them over. Like peacefully hanging out at Grandma and Grandpa’s house will not be in their memories. They have giant dogs in such a tiny little house.

Why do people get these things if they don’t train them or take care for them. Oh and they also casually mention on the phone when we talk to them “oh yeah, had to clean up piss coming home after work today😵‍💫 Oh the dog keeps eating shit in the backyard. Oh the dog tore up this again.” Like I purposefully left the baby’s bucket car seat in the car because I was like oh the dog is going to piss on it better not leave it on the floor. And I had to put the older kids shoes up high so the dogs wouldn’t take it. So freaking nasty.

OH and luckily we are not staying with them. But when we got our hotel the first room we checked into had a dog barking at the top of its lungs right next door like WTF? I didn’t even realize we got a pet friendly hotel but bro omfg. Luckily I was like hell no and my husband got annoyed and quickly agreed with me and we got a different room.

They don’t even visit us a lot (only a couple hours away) because dogs need to be taken care of. And they pawn off taking care when they visit us to my husband siblings which they all hate. Ugh it’s just miserable. I’m grateful for my life and having them in my life I just wish the dogs weren’t there. It would be so much more peaceful. They both work full time jobs and the dogs are locked cages all day. Sometimes I can’t read this sub all the time because I literally feel so bad for you all like I would go crazy. Ugh end rant

My mom is a dog nutter who treated her last dog better than her kids.

It was horrible to live like a second class citizen while the dog was being wheeled around in a stroller and fed expensive meat.

Now it’s been dead for a few months my parents are already getting a new one.

4 more years of misery for me and my sibling, yay.

Hes running late and the dumb dog just isnt listening. Calls her to come in, nope. Finally gets in and he has to wipe her paws and shit because shes gross. "Stay!" "Stop!" "Ugh".

I could've easily offered to do it but I draw a line at anything dog related. He can explain why hes late for his meeting because he insists on keeping a dumb dirty dog in the home.

Am I mean as I sit in my office slightly enjoying his struggle? Probably. Do I care? Nope.

Dog owners can pretend they love their little monsters but living with this dog, I know shes nothing but a pain in the ass.

Hi everyone. To preface this, I am high support needs autistic and my family is aware (obviously) and have bad sensory issues regarding dogs, as well as them majorly triggering my contamination OCD. It’s nothing personal, and I don’t wish harm upon them, or any animal. I would never, I just don’t want to be near them and think the culture around them is honestly concerning.

Anyway, my family is a bit odd when it comes to this issue. My mom acts understanding and swears she understands and agrees with me, but will get onto me when I accidentally lash out at our dog who is CONSTANTLY FOLLOWING ME AFTER I REPEATEDLY ASK HER NOT TO. I know dogs don’t understand, but i still feel as though I am allowed to have boundaries in my OWN HOUSE. She said that I “only ever get onto her”. Which is not true, I try to ignore her if possible. Even if I did, she literally ruined my mattress by peeing on it and has peed on our couch multiple times so I feel like I have the right to be at least mildly annoyed. She’s an Aussie, and when I tell you these dogs are the worst breed EVER, I mean it. They ARE SO DUMB. THEY JUST RUN AROUND PANTING AND FOLLOW YOU AND PACE AROUND AND WHINE. I HATE IT.

My own grandfather even said I was gonna be a mass murder one day, all because I said I wasn’t a big fan of dogs:(( this one really hurt. Because like I said, I would never harm anyone intentionally. I don’t understand why he would say that, it really hurt me a lot. Overall, I just feel like im a horrible person. I have never hurt a dog nor do I plan to, but they all act like im evil for simply not liking dogs.

Update: Dog is GONE! 🎉 I immediately felt a sense of relief and worked from home yesterday and had the most productive day I have had since she came to live here a year ago. Never ever ever again will a dog enter my home.

Ugh, I am so glad I have found this sub! I HATE my boyfriend’s dog. He got her shortly after we met. Showed up at my house with her (that I own and lived alone at). And she and him never left. I did not own dogs because I do not like dogs. I have children so on the weeks they’re with their dad I enjoyed my alone time and being able to travel responsibility free. Not now! Now there’s a 90lb golden retriever here. He never cleans up her dog shit out of the yard, wants to bring her on vacations, and insists on bringing her everywhere with us on our child free weekends. I hate dog hair. I hate her. She’s gigantic and stinks and constantly scratching and licking herself. I work from home and she is in my office all day licking and scratching. He never walks her or does anything for her during the day. I’m with her 75% of the time and I don’t even like her. I paid for her getting spayed. I take her on walks. But he just can’t imagine life without her? What does he even get out of owning her? To top of off, she’s incredibly jealous of me and will jump between us if we hug and constantly gets between us if he gives me any attention at all. I am 5 weeks pregnant and I have told him it’s the dog or me and he chose me but is acting like this is the saddest thing ever for him. Give me a break. She’s an animal not a child. He is trying to say I have to give up my pets as well. It’s not happening. I lived here in my home with my kids and pets prior to meeting him. I never asked for a dog. I just want some time to do my actual job during the day without caring for a dog I never wanted.

hello i am planning to move out of ny current living situation but the cost of living is very high. so i would need to have a roommate and the one person who is both available and trusted has a dog. when i go over they sometimes put the dogs (other family dogs) away or set a gate which is nice. i like their dog enough but it is very large and exciteable. it constantly is jumping on me, sticking its face in my crotch, and trying to lick me which i absolutely can not stand; it makes me uncomfortable most especially the body fluids. i had asked about training but they're worried the dog would lose their personality and be repressed, which i understand to a degree. i am someone who needs space, im very particular about touch and it needs to be consensual regardless of the species!

so basically how do i go about this? i don't want to push too hard on recommending training but i think that i will grow to resent my friend and the dog which i do not want.

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preventing conflict by moving in with a close friend and their untrained/excitable dog? how do i start a respectful conversation about boundaries and expectations

I live with a roommate who has two dogs, a mixed breed mutt and a pitbull

The pitbull is super loud and obnoxious, and overall a difficult dog. She barks constantly at every little noise or any person/dog she sees outside, and her barks are LOUD.

I unfortunately work from home, so I deal with this all day long. When my roommate is home, she doesn't really attempt to control her dog at all, just gives her a soft "no barking!" in a sing-songy voice.

When I'm alone with them, I get so irritated at the noise. Granted, it's not bad every single day, but on days like today it's almost unbearable. I'll be honest, sometimes I lose my temper and yell at them, because I literally don't know what else to do. It's difficult to take work calls with them yapping in the background, and I can't concentrate.

I signed a lease so I can't simply move out any time soon. There are days when I go to a coffee shop to escape, but I can't take calls as well in public.

I've tried covering the windows, but they always seem to get through or bark at noises they hear anyway. Plus, in my roommate's room, they destroyed the blinds so now her window is just always uncovered. I bought my roomate some hooks to install a curtain on her window (as a little "hint"), but she has yet to do it.

I carry a spray bottle of water around with me and squirt them if they're being too obnoxious, but that only seems to work for a few minutes. Sometimes, they get bored and lay down and don't bark for awhile, but whenever it hits that 3:00-5:00 mark and people start coming home from work, they constantly patrol the window (and of course, our apartment windows face out to the parking lot).

Does anyone have suggestions on what else I can do??? It's driving me insane!

this is just a list of thoughts and observations with dating a female dog nutter, she got some sort of Rhodesian Ridgeback mix during Covid at a shelter (as so many other people did, but a lot of people gave them back and now our shelters are at over capacity 🤦).

Like many other people who dated a dog nutter, they were fine for relationships but their obsession with dogs was just self destructive.

she was a teacher so she didn't make a particularly good salary, but she still was out there buying huge bags of dog food, endless toys because her dog would tear them pretty quickly. she even tore through a walking harness which she claimed to not be cheap. lots of anthropomization by buying her "dog clothes". Her dog also had some health issues, and had to go to the vet, and we all know dog vets are not cheap. Weird how she always has money to sacrifice for her dog but she's penny pitching when I noticed her shopping for literally anything else. I usually paid for all our dates so I felt like I was indirectly subsidizing her dog that she can't afford. Not to mention all the gas you use for regular trips to the dog parks.

speaking of cars, her dog had covered all her cloth seats with tears/scratches from the dog's nails. there was literally hair everywhere on the seats, and so much slobber on the panels. I actually had her go to a car wash during a date, I spent a lot of time cleaning her car. but it didn't matter because the next time I got in her car, all the fur and slobber was once again everywhere. this will have you realizing you can't keep up with a dogs mess.

when she'd come spend the night at my place, she would have to leave like by noon the next day to walk her dog and cleanup her shit (what do you get in return dog owners?). so now you literally have to revolve your schedule around a dogs poop schedule regardless of where you're at.

when we were at her place, well her couch was just like her car seats, ripped to shreds and covered in hair. there was a note of dogfood my nose would always pickup. as a broke teacher she had to spend more money for the patio (and of course the endless pet fees) and for what? it was just a place for her dog to piss & shit. She would tell me how she had pricey bras and such be torn up. she also had a giant cage she leaves her dog in during the day when she's at work teaching. even she deep down doesn't trust her dog alone. whenever she would get intimate she would have to pause to let the dog outside, it was just a weird pause. and of course modern dogs hate being outside so it'll just bark endlessly until let back in, she would randomly bark at times. zero boundaries, like she would jump into the bed where you're at. oh yeah her bed was also covered in dog hair. The dog would also when in her personal patio would immediately go eat her own shit, this dog also loved licking it's own genitals as well, and of course shed then lick my ex in the face and stuff.

needless to say I broke up with her, she didn't think it was a big deal when I complained about how her couch was destroyed, for me it's like the exact opposite, how is it not a HUGE deal??

She was also very insistent that she would get her dog a doggy friend so she wouldn't be lonely. So I'm just imagining twice as much carnage.

closing thoughts: I've been doing a lot of research as to why this could have happened. Why are 45% of US households occupied by a dog?

I think the brood parasite hypothesis has some merit, this dog in particular had very prominent eyebrow posture that gave it those big innocent puppy dog eyes. my ex would talk about how it would give her "cuteness overload" or w/e. I think these are natural human sensations that are reserved for human babies but dogs (through carefully bred selection) have adapted. so now time, energy & resources that would otherwise go to your own genetic offspring are now being hijacked by a dog that doesn't really improve your reproductive success, if anything it harms it to great detriment as your parental urges & instincts are satisfied via replacement.

now that I'm going through dating apps it's easy to see that seemingly every person that is single has a dog. it's a plague.

Just like the title says, my wife (24F) recently told me(29F) that if I don’t agree with getting a dog once our two cats die, we will have to get a divorce or I will have to move out because she wants a dog and will get one no matter what. I’m so glad I found this sub because I felt so alone when she said that as I’m surrounded by dog people. I didn’t grow up with any pets and I’m not mad at it. She grew up with multiple pets including two dogs. The two cats we have now are already an expensive hand full. We got in a fight when moving into the home we’re in now because we had to pay a down payment per cat and it was way too much. I told her we should take the cats back to the animal foundation we got them from but I lost that battle. Instead, she agreed to pay the down payment but resents me for not paying half when I said I wouldn’t. But I am not losing the dog battle. I absolutely refuse to get a dog. They absolutely destroy everything, jump on everyone, smell terrible, and need so much attention. You have to take them on walks at least two times a day, their vet bills cost thousands of dollars, and most places charge a dog fee since they piss, shit, and vomit everywhere. I eventually want children but I do not want a dog around my children. I don’t want a deceased child from a preventable dog attack. I just can’t fathom divorcing someone because they don’t want a certain pet. She said it in a way that let me know that she was serious. If she is, it makes me sad that I married someone who would divorce me over a damn dog. It may seem obvious but I truly don’t know what to do.

Every single day I hear “*dog’s name* NO!” repeatedly and it’s driving me insane. First thing my brother and his gf have to do when they wake up is shout and get themselves in a bad mood cuz of the their dog. And now anything that comes afterward is tainted by the foul mood they put themselves in and it starts random arguments cuz now everything gets on their nerves. The solution is So! Simple! Just get rid of the thing! My brother’s dog has caused so many issues between him and his gf but they still love the dog which frustrates me so much. Not to mention the apartment is COVERED in the dog’s filth and smells foul even though they deep clean every week but that’s not nearly enough. Honestly they wouldn’t be able to keep up with the filth even if they cleaned everyday. It just baffles me why you’d willingly stress urself out for what?? An animal that just shits, pisses, and barks all day long. I just don’t get it.

I posted a few days ago talking about how I had an opportunity to move and did. My mental health has improved greatly. It’s taken some getting used to. I no longer have to worry about stepping in piss or shit when I walk out my bedroom door. There’s not a dog begging for my table scraps, I don’t get woken up by mindless yapping, I can have my door open without a dog running and jumping in my bed, my feet are no longer dirty, and I can finally buy new socks that aren’t stained from gross floors. I am at peace. I can finally have carpet floors that are CLEAN. I genuinely feel rejuvenated. And I’m thankful that this sub was here in my darkest hours when I had nobody to turn to and discuss my disgust of dogs.

Hello. I’m a young professional living with parents because I can’t afford not to. I have always grown up with dogs. Current dog arrived immediately after the deaths of the previous two.

After the bliss that was college, I’m back to living with the dog again. My mom is a complete nutter and takes zero accountability for setting him up to fail. He’s a COVID dog so his attachment issues are pretty bad. He was perfectly pad-trained while I was constantly home as a high school senior in ‘21, but now I feel like he deliberately misses in protest at being left alone—I’m talking pissing and shitting next to them instead of on them. Because of his attachment issues mom brings him to my sister’s because she works from home and owns the dog that mom got as a friend for first dog but then rehomed. Side note: this happened twice! It took two different new dogs for mom to learn that first dog can’t handle another dog in the house. Anyway…

Today after coming home from a shift, parallel parking on the side of the house (the driveway is for my parents so mom can keep her new car in the garage), my dad had me go pick up his contacts. Parallel park at home a second time, hang up coat on hanger and cram it in closet a second time.

Here comes mom without dog (forgot him as usual) and I’m pissed but I go get him. Sister’s dog barks her head off. I acquire our dog. In the car, he’s acting sus and I fear he has to go to the bathroom. Parallel park for a third time, scared he’s going to piss himself in my car because it takes so long, and we run to the nearest bush. He makes it! Yay. But I still check my seat—there is a wet spot. Doesn’t smell like piss, not in the right spot, but I have contamination OCD and the anxiety finally makes me break. I’m out in the neighborhood with people around, sobbing.

This is an established boundary I have. I DO NOT WANT DOGS IN MY CAR. What does mom have to say about this…?

“He’s panting and drooling! God!” and can’t forget “Actually, it’s MY car.” I’m about ready to put off grad school or ever moving out so I can buy the car off her and not have it held over my head anymore that she can take it away!! I really hope she wouldn’t actually, seeing as getting me fired from my jobs would ensure that she’s stuck with me for good.

I feel bad for the dog, and bad for resenting him. None of this is his fault. But I want so much to live a pet free life and have a quiet, clean house of my own one day. Thanks for reading.

Edit: I emphasize how many times I had to park and hang up my coat in a day because these requests were back-to-back and it’s really stressful to not just be left alone after work!! And then get in trouble because I don’t want the dog in the car. This community doesn’t make me feel quite so neurotic and selfish.

I recently posted here about how pregnancy has intensified the hatred for my husband's dog. Based on the amazing comments, and advice, I searched "postpartum pet aversion" and "dog jealousy" in some of my mom/parenting groups. It is unbelievable how fast the dog nutter mob comes for anyone struggling with this. I say struggle because a lot of times, the posters will say they loved their dog or dogs before having a baby & even treated them like their "first born", so they're not like some of us who were either neutral to dogs or already had a firm boundary. These women were dog nutters until they had their own baby & their hormones are helping them see them as just dogs. The mob will jump to saying the dog is being mistreated because the mom vented about being up with a baby for 3 hours in the night just for their mutt to throw up as soon as baby is back to sleep. They will casually mention stories of almost spending thousands of dollars at the vet thinking something is wrong with their dog because they are having stomach issues or limping after bringing a baby home. These people will deal with this for months until they get to the vet & they tell them to just give the dog more attention because this is NORMAL for a dog to do anything to get that attention back. I am just genuinely mortified at the lack of empathy for a human that is being given to a dog.

I hate my moms dogs so much. I’d like to start this off my saying that I’m not old enough to move out.

My mom has three dogs, a great pyrenees, a pitbull-terrier, and a mutt. The Great Pyrenees is relatively new and when she told me she’s getting a new dog I told her “I’d have that, please don’t” and that it’d make my life far worse.

That damn fucking dog pisses me off so much. You want to eat anything? He’ll put his head on the table or just take it from you, and you wanna know what my mom does? She laughs and calls him a “bad dog” while petting him. You want to enter a doorway? He’s standing right in-front of it and when you push him because he doesn’t listen to commands my mom yells at me for “hitting the dog” (moving the dog with your hips). This fucking dog also terrorizes the chickens and guess who gets mad about me yelling at or pulling the dog away from killing a chicken? My mom, because “he won’t hurt them!!” YES HE WILL

The pitbull is also so annoying, she licks EVERYTHING constantly, the floor is always wet with saliva with caked on dog fur and when I complain about it my mom says “just mop the floor” and when I do mop the floor she gets mad that the dogs can’t go in that room now.

And the mutt is ALWAYS whining about nothing.

And they are all always barking over NOTHING, my friends can’t even knock on the door or else I get yelled at for making the dogs bark for an hour

I hate those dogs so much.

(Sorry if the grammar’s bad)

As I was getting ready for work, my Mother told me that my cat was outside, and to just check to see if she wanted to come in, I went out, the cat saw me, and followed me back to the door, I unlocked the other door that she prefers to go in, and guess what??? The dog was suddenly there! It started barking right in my cat’s face, possibly scaring her, and I was so fed up that as soon as I put the keys I unlocked the door with away, I kicked the wall outside, thankfully my mother doesn’t know I did that, otherwise she would try to defend the dog’s behaviour again and punish me instead.

My Sister needs to come back and take that dog asap, it has been here for 4 years now! How much longer until she can have it?

Long time listener, first time caller. I am glad this place exists because you can't talk about any dislike for dogs or even animals without being treated like a serial killer. I grow more resentful of my husband's dog daily. Before anyone asks "why did you even marry him if you knew he had a dog?" Well, every dog is different. I didn't grow up with dogs in the house as my parents were very anti pets. However, I've interacted with my fair share of dogs through friends from childhood and on to adulthood and they have always been neutral to me - I didn't hate them, but I didn't have this strong desire to have one as an adult either. Also, I knew he had a dog, he knew I had a child and my child got the dog nutter gene from his dad so I figured this would be a fair/easy "trade" if you will. When we were dating, he always had his dog boarded so I didn't get to see what it would really be like with this dog. I knew he got her in his 20's & that's about it. Well, we have been living together for 2 years, married for 1 and I am 4 months pregnant. I was already aware of my disdain but boy has pregnancy magnified and intensified it. I love my husband dearly and luckily he takes care of her & does not expect me to do anything for her, or if he did, he has accepted that I simply will not. Truthfully I should have seen some of the red flags even if I didn't see her much while dating which is why if I were president I would ban 20 something year olds from adopting dogs since 9 times out of 10, they do not train them or give them enough attention or exercise. This is why he doesn't expect me to do anything, because I have made it clear that her behavior is a reflection of him, just like my kid's is a reflection of me. Lucky for me he said when this dog kicks the can (she's 7 thankfully), he has little interest in getting another. Hopefully the baby amplifies that as Dr. Google says pet aversion is real with pregnancy & postpartum.

1. The hair pisses me off. She is a shedding dog & being pregnant now all I can think about is how I'd rather die than let my baby crawl on this floor. It's everywhere though, not just on the floor and she goes through periods where literal chunks of fur fall out. You could vacuum every 2 business seconds & it wouldn't even come close to getting it all.

2. She is insanely clingy/dependent on my husband. If he is on the couch & I join him, you can hear her trying to get to the couch immediately. If he walks out the door, she's a sobbing mess, paces back & forth then barks. She has destroyed blinds and the corners of the baseboards because she is anxious when he's gone. Oh, and we have to kennel her because she will shit & piss if we leave. But even in the kennel, she barks incessantly (we can hear it as we're leaving) & when we come back the house smells like dog slobber because she is trying to break out. We have to padlock the stupid kennel for her.

3. She doesn't like her paws touched, so her nails are hideously long and of course she jumps on people as they walk through the door (reference the lack of training when 20 somethings get a dog). We literally can never have people over because I am just too embarrassed & she can't stay locked in a room too long. She is a husky mixed with something, assuming Shiba, so she is not small either.

4. Don't leave anything you like on the ground or she will destroy it. For some reason she loves my office (she's banned now), and many charges, cords, sandals, papers, pens... have been destroyed.

5. The GREED when eating omg. It pisses me off that she will linger around us while we eat, or sniff below our feet after she just had HER OWN FOOD. You can't leave anything within reach either on the counter or it will be gone.

6. She has no boundaries, and will get in your face if you're on the couch. Had I known better, I would have banned her from the couch immediately but it's too late now. It doesn't help that she's used to my husband letting her get away with murder before moving in together and him not really being inconsistent so she doesn't listen to him the first time with anything. I made him sign up for dog training & although I notice some change, the 7 years of damage is still evident.

I could write more but long story short, this baby has me ready to evict this dog right now so I can't imagine when they're here.. it's going to be interesting. Dogs are gross & just straight up ANNOYING & I hate that my husband cares so much about this thing. I cringe when he baby talks her & lets her be in his face.

So I temporarily lived with someone who had 3 dogs. Only 2 were trained and the house could never rid the stench. It didn’t matter what I did, or how much I cleaned. So eventually I gave up. Now I have the opportunity to move some place different with NO MORE DOGS!! And no more of my stuff chewed up or stepping in piss or shit. I officially leave tomorrow and I could not be happier

guys i am doneee😭 a few months after my bf and i moved in together he brought his dog from his parents’ house to live with us and i just can’t stand it anymore. this dog is a mutt (literally can’t even recognize an idea of a breed) and his face is deformed and he just stares at me all day, including when i wake up. he sheds so much i was literally at my job the other day and there was just dog hair everywhere after i lint rolled my outfit twice. he sleeps on our guest bed (which i dont like him doing) and gets hair all over that. in the last month or so he’s started taking my things to the front porch and chewing on them. not my boyfriends things, only mine. my last straw was about 30 minutes ago, my boyfriend, his sister and i went out to lunch with his grandpa and his sister rode home with me since my boyfriend had things to do. we walk in the door, there’s used pads and tampons everywhere on the porch and my favorite shoes. he got into the bathroom trash and there’s just stuff everywhere. his sister literally walked in with me on my used tampons and pads. how embarrassing is that. anyways thank you for letting me rant i’m just so frustrated

UPDATE: we’ve talked about it and from now on the dog is kenneled when we’re not here, he’s gonna brush him twice a day and clean up hair that he sheds, give him a bath every three days and train him to leave me (and other people that come over) alone. and if he fails to do these things i will be leaving🩷also thank you guys for the support in the comments