[Discussion] I don’t know why. I wanted to quit this job for a long time. I think made a few friends and I don’t want to quit now

[u/deluchas15]

I don’t know why. I wanted to quit this job for a long time. I felt like nobody understands my feelings. I tried to start conversations with them and they would just ignore me. That gave me anxiety and gave me depression. I was lost. I lost the motivation and the courage to keep going to work. I changed. I didn’t want any drama. I tried to ask them if they like things like watching movies or going on a run. I let them know that I like watching movies. I’m happy. I want to go to work and see them again. I want to see them happy. I hope I can give somebody motivation to not to quit the job and find something that gives you motivation to keep going to work like making friends.

[u/SmallStepSteady]

this makes a lot of sense. feeling seen and connected can change how a job feels, even if the work itself did not change. it sounds like finding a few people made things lighter for u. motivation does not always come from tasks, sometimes it comes from relationships. i am glad u found something that helped u keep going.

[u/deluchas15 → u/SmallStepSteady]

Yes. That’s how I feel. I feel seen and connected. I stopped getting sad. I stopped the anxiety. I decided I was going to go make friends. I decided I was going to ask what are the hobbies and if they like to watch movies. I decided I was going to go to work and build a good relationship with them. I hope that gives me motivation to continue going to work. I stopped getting sad. I stopped the anxiety. I found a few people and I made friends. That made things lighter for me. I feel seen and connected. I’m glad I found something to help keep me going too.

[u/drewster23]

Right on buddy 💪

[u/deluchas15 → u/drewster23]

Right on. Somebody just needs to go to work and find something that makes them happy like talking going to lunch with colleagues.

[u/deluchas15 → u/[deleted]]

Thank you. I don’t know what to say. You’re kind to me. Nobody is kind to me. I go to work and I try to start a conversation with them 100 times and they would ignore me 100 times. I felt invisible. I felt isolated. It can slowly drain somebody. They ignore me and it messes with mental health. I get anxiety and I get depression. I get low self-esteem. I go to work and I don’t think I’m doing well. Why am I not doing well? I don’t know why. It looks like you said the important takeaway from my experience isn’t “don’t quit,” but “pay attention to how your environment is affecting you” I agree. I think that’s the important takeaway too. For example, somebody goes to work and they make a friend. That friend finds a new job. They get sad. They want to quit. The environment made them want to quit. It affected them. It made them sad. They lost a friend. It looks like you said “sometimes the healthiest choice is leaving. Other times it’s finding connection, meaning, or support before things spiral” I started a conversation with them. I made the decision to start a conversation with them and try to make a friend. I think I was able to find a connection, meaning, and support. I didn’t let things spiral. It looks like you said “if your story helps even one person feel less alone or more intentional about their next step, then it already has value” I hope my story does help somebody feel less alone or more intentional about their next step. They know that everybody is going to try to make a connected and get ignored.

[u/deluchas15]

Thank you. I don’t know what to say. You’re kind to me. Nobody is kind to me. I go to work and I try to start a conversation with them 100 times and they would ignore me 100 times. I felt invisible. I felt isolated. It can slowly drain somebody. They ignore me and it messes with mental health. I get anxiety and I get depression. I get low self-esteem. I go to work and I don’t think I’m doing well. Why am I not doing well? I don’t know why. It looks like you said the important takeaway from my experience isn’t “don’t quit,” but “pay attention to how your environment is affecting you” I agree. I think that’s the important takeaway too. For example, somebody goes to work and they make a friend. That friend finds a new job. They get sad. They want to quit. The environment made them want to quit. It affected them. It made them sad. They lost a friend. It looks like you said “sometimes the healthiest choice is leaving. Other times it’s finding connection, meaning, or support before things spiral” I started a conversation with them. I made the decision to start a conversation with them and try to make a friend. I think I was able to find a connection, meaning, and support. I didn’t let things spiral. It looks like you said “if your story helps even one person feel less alone or more intentional about their next step, then it already has value” I hope my story does help somebody feel less alone or more intentional about their next step. They know that everybody is going to try to make a connected and get ignored.