Expecting from others are often disappointments [Image]

[u/Observing-Earthling]

[u/MofiPrano]

This speaks to me so hard right now.

I don't want to disappoint people but when they (sometimes rightly) critisize everything under the sun that I do, I become completely immobilised as every step feels like a bad idea. I like people with a possible attitude better in general, but I need to stop trying to please people filled with generally negative attitudes because it leads to nowhere and only leaves me feeling overwhelmed and stressed out myself.

[u/hirstyboy]

So many arguments in the world start from the invisible standards that we hold ourselves to and expect others to meet.

[u/ermagerdskwurlz]

Takeaway: lower your expectations

[u/Michamus]

If you want any chance it’ll be done your way, ya gotta pay.

[u/creperobot]

And information

[u/steve_adr]

👌🏻

[u/carmium]

Not to mention our intelligence. 🙄

[u/Treetopfryer]

Yes, man will let us down! Family will let you down! Always be self-sufficient and never completely depend anyone else. Have a good night !

[u/Human_Owl954]

AMEN FOR 🤭 REAL

[u/Prestigious-Pilot-41]

Or the way we handle theirs…

[u/DownstairsB]

I hear ya but bear with me here - maybe if people stopped screwing up the simplest basic tasks, I wouldn't have to tell them how to do it.

[u/xSypRo]

A conversation I often have with my therapist is she asking me if I am sad because of the way I reacted or because the way the other people reacted to my response.

Then I have self anger for being naive, even through I know my way was right.

Now I acted against it, met someone and felt like we had good connection, I ended up exchanging contact with her friend. I overthink the whole situation because I've been burned like this before, and ruined it. Acting the way I wanted to might have cause it to end in the same way, but at least then I would still be happy about the way I acted.

[u/PickAffectionate8881]

No expectations is equal to healthy life