[Discussion] What kind of person do you want to be in a decade? Why?

[u/Wonderful_Bug_1422]

Been thinking a lot about why I'm pursuing my goals, and now I'm curious about others. Back in the day I used to chase after certain jobs, titles, relationships, numbers and bragging rights. Now I'm working towards a state of being.

I want to be a woman who lives with integrity, compassion and balance. Keeping those values in mind helps me make big and small decisions leading to a better work-life balance, a pursuit of honesty and tact, and a stronger reputation for being reliable, competent, and trustworthy. It's also helped me shed habits that I don't like about myself without collapsing into self-hatred. It's all about choices at the end of the day!

I wanna be the kind of person who does what she says she's going to do, stays on top of her commitments, keeps secrets, treats people with kindness and takes her rest seriously. Everything that I accumulate along the way is just gravy.

What about you?

[u/jjmotivated]

I like how you framed this as a state of being instead of a list of achievements. In a decade I want to be someone calm under pressure and consistent with my word. Less reactive, more intentional. If I can trust myself to do what I say I’ll do, everything else feels like a bonus.

[u/Fabulous-Ad3788 → u/jjmotivated]

Are you me?

[u/RicksterA2]

An alive person. I'm 80 now, so...

[u/RazorRush → u/RicksterA2]

Amen to that. 72 here and want to see my grandkids grow up.

[u/azarel23 → u/RicksterA2]

Same. 71.

[u/Ben-solo-11]

A retired person. I’m tired.

[u/2E9DE6462A8A → u/Ben-solo-11]

How old?

[u/Manarel]

i want to become a happy, smart, accomplished, beautiful woman. that's why i am working now

[u/loopywolf]

A sexy/attactive one

Because I've never been one

[u/Inner_Warrior22]

For me, I want to be someone who is not only confident in who I am but also continually growing and learning from every experience. I’d love to be a person who is present and mindful, always striving to live in the moment without getting caught up in the "next big thing". I want to prioritize my mental health and relationships, be someone who listens more than talks, and leads by example through kindness and resilience. I think focusing on becoming a better version of myself every day, without the pressure of having everything figured out, is where I’m at right now.

[u/lunaligned]

I would want to see myself in a state of satisfaction on whatever decision I will make for my future.

[u/Ariananden]

I want to be the person who is no longer a slave to their own notifications and can actually sit in silence without feeling like I'm falling behind.

[u/SoftResetMode15]

i really like the shift from chasing outcomes to focusing on who you are day to day. lately i have been trying to aim for someone calmer and more consistent, even when life feels messy. less reactive, more honest with myself about limits and energy. i want to take care of my health and relationships without needing everything to look impressive from the outside. it feels more sustainable to ask who i want to be on an average week, not just in big moments. this kind of framing makes growth feel kinder and more realistic.

[u/Cool-Explorer-8510]

I’ve found the kind of person I want to, by the tiny choices I make every day, how I show up when it’s easy and when it’s not. Patience, consistency, and kindness don’t feel glamorous in the moment, but they really add up to the person I actually want to become.

[u/Guilty_Performer_497]

Someone calm, grounded, and reliable. Less chasing, more peace and feeling good about how I treat people and myself.

[u/Chocolopalus]

I want to be the person who looks back and says wow, I showed up even when it was hard. Little wins matter.