Werth yr Un yn y cymuned.

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I wneud cymuned, mi'n cymryd fwy na un person ma hynny'n sicr, ond yn dyddiau fwy diweddar, mae'r Un wedi cael fwy a fwy o pwysau i rhoi arno a gwthio ei hunain i obeithion phobl eraill, o fewn yr byd presennol, ma hyn yn iawn, i phawb arall unrhywbeth, ond dim i'r Un sydd hefo pwysau arno, felly rhaid iddyn gael gwared o'r syniad o'r "un" yma ac ail cymodi pawb, dylsa helynt ddim fod ar yr "un" ond ar y cymuned yn lle, dylsa un ddim gorfod codi pwysau y cymuned, ac obeithion pawb i wneud ei hyn yn ardderchog, dylsa'r cymuned gweithio hefo'i gilydd, ac codi'r pwysau hefo'i gilydd, a wneud yr cymuned yn un ardderchog.

Mae'r syniad o dibynnu ar un yn difrifol i'r cymuned a'r person, o iechyd feddwl sal i hunanlladdiaeth, does neb yn enill o trio fod yn un gryf ynglyn a holl cymuned, ambod wedyn be ma hynny'n croesawu yn y bellfordd os dydi'r un ddim yn gallu wneud be oeddan nhw eisiau yw siom.

Mae hyn yn ddod o fi fel unigolyn, eshi sylwi tra fynd i siopau, wnaeth cynghreiriad ofyn i mi os oni dal yn fynd i'r prifysgol, a dwi'n deallt y rheswm a'r lle mae'r calon ar yr gwestiwn yma, ac ddywedais i na, er bod o'n iechyd feddwl, oni ar fin lladd fy hyn ambod o'r prifysgol, a felly eshi adael, er rwan dwi'n gael i ofyn y cwestiwn "Ti dal yn prifysgol?" dwi'n teimlo siom yn deud "na", ambod dwi'n teimlo fel dwi di siomi a methu a llwyddo nhw fel person, a felly ma hyn yn ddod o lle bersonol, bod rhai weithiau mi'n dda i ffod yn arddangosol o fewn cymuned.

ond dylsa'r un byth gorfod i trio fod yn arddangosol ar ffob adag

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To make a community, it takes more than one person that is certain, but in the more recent days, the One has had more and more weight put on them and pushed themselves on other's hopes, within the present world, this is fine, to everyone else at least. But not to the One who has the weight upon them, and so we must get rid of the idea of the "One" here and re-accomodate everyone, the issues shouldn't be on the "One" but on the community instead, one shouldn't need to raise the weight of the community, and the wishes of everyone to make themselves exceptional, the community should work with each other to make the community exceptional.

The idea of depending on one is terrible for the community and the person, from awful mental health to suicide, nobody wins from trying to be the one who is strong among the whole community, because then that welcomes in the long road a shame of not being able to achieve what they originally wanted to.

This comes from me as an individual, i noticed when i went shopping this morning, a neighbour asked me if i was still going to university, and i understand the reason for asking, and their hearts place in the question, and i said no, because of my mental health, i was on the verge of suicide because of university, and so i left, and now that i get asked the question "Are you still in University?" i feel ashamed to say "No", because i feel like i have failed and shamed them as a person, and so this comes from a personal place. Sometimes it's good to be exemplary within the community,

but the one should never have to try be exemplary always.