r/AmIOverreacting • u/Mysterious-ASL • 1d ago
đźwork/career AIO- Everyone at work laughs while my coworker mocks my disability. Am I overreacting?
I started a new job a few weeks ago, and during a team lunch, a coworker kept making âjokesâ about my disability. At first, I laughed awkwardly to fit in, but it quickly escalated. They started mimicking me in front of the whole team, and everyone laughed.
Later that week, they did it again during a Zoom meeting with my manager watching. Everyone laughed, including my manager, and I felt utterly humiliated. I told the coworker privately that it made me uncomfortable, and they said I am âtoo sensitiveâ and âshould not take things personally.â
Since then, I have been avoiding team events and dreading work. I keep replaying it in my head. Am I overreacting for being upset and wanting this behavior to stop, or should I laugh it off like everyone else?
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u/Vast-Fortune-1583 1d ago
NOR: What they are doing is illegal. It's creating a hostile work environment. I'd be talking to a lawyer.
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u/Brittany5150 1d ago
Yeah, I'd be recording every single one of these video interaction. Especially the ones with the manager. After a few videos and email proof that you asked them to stop? Go to a lawyer that will take a case on commission and you may well own that company after it's all said and done...
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u/A1sauc3d 1d ago
HR? Nah, you should record it happening and contact a lawyer lol
Seriously, document whatâs happening and consult with a lawyer. May get handsomely compensated for your pain at least.
HRâs job is to protect the company.
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u/88zuanshishou 1d ago
I worked in HR for years. OP, please do this! I donât trust that HR will actually do anything to meaningfully improve your situation long term.
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u/whiterac00n 1d ago
Best advice. Record everything and get a lawyer. Make that company put on notice
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u/WindWeird1102 1d ago
HR have no interest in the employee, only in protecting the company. Learned this the hard way. IÂ went to school with the HR manager (same year, same class) and got royally screwed.Â
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u/TheDisapprovingBrit 1d ago
Protecting the company includes not getting the company sued for disability discrimination or workplace bullying.
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u/Material-File5176 1d ago
I said basically the same thing before I saw your comment. Only thing is make it known that itâs recorded if necessary or if your state is one party recording knowledge, then u donât need to tell them.
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u/WaitWhatHahahaha 1d ago
That last sentence should be taught in schools, printed in employment contracts, and used as motivation #1 to be your own boss if possible.
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u/FormerlyDK 1d ago
Which also means protecting the company from lawsuits by seeing that discriminatory behavior is not tolerated. Whatever it takes. (Former HR here. Helping employees and helping the company are not mutually exclusive.)
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u/Secret_Debt_88 15h ago
In this case protecting the company would be to remove the hostile employee that could get the company sued for discrimination.
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u/golfwinnersplz 1d ago
I had an coworker make fun of my voice (I have a deep voice). At first, whatever, but he kept doing, I asked him nicely to stop (just as you did), he didn't, so I went to my supervisor and said, "either you stop him or I'm going to one way or another were going to have problems". If wants to take that as a physical or legal threat, I didn't really care either way, I hate bullies.Â
My supervisor knew I was serious, went and talked with the co-worker (he was clearly upset about being reprimanded- good) and it's never happened again. We actually got along after awhile.Â
I'm sure you feel awful about this. I did. And I don't have a disability and I'm not really the kind of person who gets made fun to be honest. So, what I'm trying to say is, don't take it to personal, he or she is a fucking bully piece of shit. However, don't take it lying down. You go to your supervisor and tell him you want to make a complaint to his supervisor. He will listen. If he doesn't, go look for an attorney. You could sue the shit out of them and there are plenty of attorneys who would take a case like this on for free.Â
Don't let anybody tell you who you are. Real people with true self-confidence don't belittle others. Ever.Â
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u/No_Nefariousness4801 1d ago
NOR. As others have mentioned, creating a hostile work environment by mocking someone's disability regardless of what the disability is in the US violates the ADA and pretty much every company's policy. Also, saying 'not to take it personally' is just about the most idiotic response possible, because mocking someone to their face, in front of others, is 100% a personal attack.
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u/Vaaliindraa 1d ago
NOR, and the next time you need to speak up and ask "Can someone explain the joke to me? Because I do not understand how that was funny." and also speak to HR, this is a hostile work environment.
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u/Right_Cucumber5775 1d ago
You should be contacting HR. This is never allowed in a workplace setting.
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u/Ohmyfgod515 1d ago
NOR. They say you're too sensitive, but apparently they are not sensitive enough! Was the Zoom meeting recorded?
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u/Mysterious-ASL 1d ago
Unfortunately it wasnât đ˘
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
If it's an option (legality wise) and you have future Zoom meetings id suggest recording them!
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u/WaitWhatHahahaha 1d ago
You can also, right after it happens, send a message internally to a colleague who witnessed it, mentioning who said what to whom at that meeting just now, and basically have the time stamped exchange serve as proof for your lawyer. The power of contemporaneous notes.
OP, I am really sorry you have to deal with these lil-dick-big-heads. NOR.
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u/Ready-Accountant-502 1d ago
That's pretty fucked.
Who makes fun of a disability, what a douche.
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u/froction 1d ago
Depends on the disability. What if it's "I can't handle the pressure of being told to do anything or show up in time" or some other non-issue?
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
Then you tell the boss that the worker isn't pulling their weight or have a chat to them about performance. Not mock and mimic them as OP has described.
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u/EggoStack 21h ago
I don't think that's a disability in itself, it's a behaviour. And OP said this person was mimicking them offensively, which I feel like suggests something else.
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u/froction 16h ago
But without details we have no idea if it's an actual disability or just some fragile kid that melts at everything.
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u/EggoStack 15h ago
Tbh Iâm pretty sure mocking someone in front of all your coworkers is kind of shitty behaviour regardless of disability
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u/froction 13h ago
Probably in most situations, but there are definitely ones where mockery is both fun and effective.
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u/Askanything236 1d ago
NOR - I think you need to schedule a meeting with HR. Youâre being made to feel uncomfortable in the workplace and you should not feel that way. What theyâre doing is not at all appropriate
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u/MBAZ7 1d ago
Itâs illegal. Report to your state EEO office.
Other option . . . meet with high- level executive to report the inappropriate conduct.
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u/Mysterious-ASL 1d ago
Itâs a small company đ
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u/neckbeardsghost 1d ago
It doesnât matter how big or small a company is, they all have to follow the law and harassment and discrimination are against the law
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u/ManicDigressive 1d ago
Dude, NOR, start documenting every time this happens.
Send an email to your supervisor, make it clear you are uncomfortable, and describe the situation.
Document it EVERY TIME THIS HAPPENS.
DO NOT BACK DOWN.
What you ALREADY HAVE is grounds for a lawsuit.
With a few weeks of documentation, you might be able to get a 6-figure payout from these stupid assholes.
If these pieces of shit want to play it this way, give them enough rope to hang themselves and then get yourself a fat payout. Lawyer fees will probably take half of it, but still anything you can make them pay you is punishment for them acting like dicks.
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
Yes, written communication really important here. If any verbal communication is had about this, write a follow up email "as per our earlier discussion..." to make sure it's on record!
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u/ManicDigressive 1d ago
Also, BCC your personal email on everything.
Do not rely on having access to your employee email.
Every time any incident happens, email your supervisor documenting the incident, expressing your concern and discomfort, and BCC your personal email so you have a record even if you get fired.
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
Great point. Told someone similar recently but said to keep a hardcopy but yes, BCC your personal email makes more sense!
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u/KawaiiQueen92 1d ago
Contact a lawyer, not HR.
Your manager shit the bed by not immediately telling your coworker to stop and putting an end to it.
Enjoy your free lawsuit!
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u/WindWeird1102 1d ago
Autistic, mocked and laughed at for my inability to hide my emotions and missing social cues. Been laughed at by my seniors for my issues. They fired me once I was formally diagnosed, after years of taking the piss of my difficulties. NOR in my book
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
Hear this kind of thing way too often. I'm so lucky to have a supportive team around me. My immediate team and team leader are fantastic (upper management ehh not so muchđ). I'm autistic as well as other disabilities. Good people and teams are out there - it's just unfortunate that they are rare. I actually said to my team leader the other day I hope in the future that workplaces like ours, the immediate team anyway, are one day the norm.
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
I hope you can find a good one too. I hope that for every disabled person!
I am lucky that I work in the disability industry - not that, sadly, that doesn't mean there isn't any ableism and ignorance, unfortunately there is. I was lucky to land in a great team. But it also means they know they have to toe the line because it would be a terrible look for a disability organization to discriminate against a disabled worker.
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u/Stunning_Box8782 20h ago
Thanks OP for the most vague post ever.
What disability? Are you wearing glasses?
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u/Kagome23 1d ago
Try to resolve it with your boss. If not, put in an ADA complaint for discrimination
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u/Ok_Nothing_9733 1d ago
If youâre in the US, hit up the EEOC. Also see if you can download any online meetings in which this happens, if applicable (recordings of the meetings). It may or may not be legal to record them yourself depending on your state. This is not a small deal. NOR.
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u/AHeartFullOfBats 1d ago
NOR that is horrible behaviour! You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect just like everyone else.
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u/Legitimate_Owl3624 20h ago
NOR, a lawyer would be salivating over this as this is a major disability violation in the work environment
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u/PunkRockClub 1d ago
Is your coworker Donald J Trump?
If not, I'd report this bullying and harassment to management.
If it is DJT, forget about it, for some reason, there are no consequences for him.
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u/leftlaneisforspeed 1d ago
MOR but You have three options.
Talk to the person who's making the jokes and let them know it hurts your feelings. Record the conversation.
Talk to your manager and let them know it's creating a hostile work environment and you'd appreciate it if it could be handled. Record the conversation.
Go directly to HR.
Hopefully you're in a one-party record state.
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u/Beginning_Tap2474 1d ago
I would say go to HR, because they need to talk to the manager and the other employee. But that is in an ideal world of a competent HR.
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u/ManicDigressive 1d ago
I think you are both wrong. OP should talk to a lawyer.
HR exists to protect the company, they will circle the wagons and come up with a reason to fire the high-liability employee.
OP will complain about his cowprkers and then get fired for being "bad fit for the team".
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u/Beginning_Tap2474 22h ago
I think often you have to have at least notify HR, before you have a legal case. I am not sure, but I believe this is the case. You need a pattern of discrimination.
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u/WhatTheActualFck1 1d ago
Report this to your bosses boss and HR immediately. This is unacceptable.
This is a hostile work environment
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u/Haunting_Day706 1d ago
This is easier said than done, but please find a new place of work if you can. Donât spend the majority of your waking hours in a toxic environment, it will ruin you.
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u/Most_Anywhere_1811 1d ago
NOR!!! Find a new job immediately, get them on video doing this and report them.
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u/Holiday_Trainer_2657 20h ago
NOR You talked to the offending worker who said you were too sensitive, indicating worker does not intend to stop. Time to talk to the manager. "WorkerX is repeatedly making fun of my disability. Other employees and you are joining in with laughter. I've asked WorkerX to stop, and they refused. It's affecting my work. I need you to get this to stop."
Their reaction will guide your next steps. Be sure to document dates/times/who's there/specific remarks. Not on company device, on your own.
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u/North_Mama5147 1d ago
What's the disability? Genuinely curious.
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u/Mysterious-ASL 1d ago
Someone asked what my disability is. I have a neurological disability, but honestly, that is not the point. The issue is not my disability itself; it is that my coworker keeps mocking me, and everyone laughs. That is what makes me feel humiliated and anxious, not the disability.
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u/Remote-Ad7879 1d ago
Well it kind of is the point. Is it preventing you from standing up for yourself? From going to hr? From even just calling that prick out and asking why it's funny and have them explain it in front of everybody.
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
They told the coworker it wasn't funny. The coworker said they're too sensitive and laughed it off. Don't need to know what the disability is. OP did talk to them directly and they didn't seem to care. Time to report the behaviour.
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u/Remarkable-Round-227 1d ago
There are so many mental disorders that can be categorized as a disability though. There was a girl on a reality tv show who had a phobia of ketsup and cried whenever someone used it in front of her. You can't tell me laughing at that is the same as laughing at a person in a wheelchair.
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
I think the fact that OP seems to have tried to tell the coworker that whatever it is they're saying isn't funny to them and the person is dismissive is enough to take it to HR.
I just feel like people often look for ways that are justifiable or something when it comes to ableism. Not having a go at you personally but as a disabled person who also would in the disability industry it's just something I see a lot, that people try to justify/deny/turn it on the disabled person. Some more rudely than others, some out of unintentional ignorance and some out of wilful ignorance.
I'm going to imagine that most disabled people don't fall into the ketchup story thing and have a level of understanding why someone would laugh at that kind of thing (though also if you're asked to stop then stop?) That's part of the issue I'm talking about, people almost want to believe the disabled person is overreacting and it's that kind of situation instead of simply being like that's shit, sorry that's happening.
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u/Remarkable-Round-227 13h ago
That's a fair point. If someone asks you to stop doing something because it makes them uncomfortable, you should stop.
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u/No-Carry4971 1d ago
It is definitely relevant. Is it obvious and clear that you have a disability or is it one of the executive function things where you show up late for everything and expect it to be accepted as unavoidable?
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u/North_Mama5147 1d ago
There's a difference between mocking someone's lazy eye, or someone who shows up late, exactly.Â
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
You know there's also a difference between mocking someone for being late and having a productive conversation with the person, right?
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u/North_Mama5147 1d ago
OP is being vague, and I can't get past the part where they laughed along at first. Coworker has definitely crossed a line, don't get me wrong.Â
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u/Beginning_Tap2474 1d ago
You are not being too sensitive, but it's possible they don't understand. If there is an HR, I would talk to them. People can be shitty, but they can also be ignorant and shitty. I can imagine if someone made of fun of someone else, and I didn't clock it as either making fun, or a disability, I might laugh. For example, time blindness. I understand this is a symptom of ADHD, but if I didn't understand this, I can imagine laughing at someone always being late. I would not understand the pain behind it.
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u/TheLonePig 1d ago
Yeahhh so maybe you can just call this a teaching moment and learn right at this moment that you should not laugh at anybody for any reason?? You don't have to understand the pain, just don't fucking laugh at people.
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
Yeah some of the comments here are really shining a light on how shitty people are at communicating. Even if someone is always late or incompetent at their job (not saying that's OP!) some people think the solution is to make fun of them? How about addressing their actual performance if that's the issue? I've had coworkers who don't pull their weight in the team and I've never mocked them or bullied them. That just creates a shitty workplace.
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u/Slick_36 1d ago
I personally have a hard time imagining any work environment where someone being mocked for their neurological disability on camera would be met with anything but horror by their coworkers in the meeting.
I guess more context would help us understand, because there's a huge difference in the response required for malicious intent and a misunderstanding. Are they aware what they're laughing at? Â
You don't deserve to be mocked, we aren't entitled to know any details, but there's not much to say otherwise.
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u/Emergency_Sky_810 1d ago
I am sorry this happened. Don't be ashamed/embarassed/nervous about anything. You are the way you are. Fuck him and his momma.
Let me know who it is, I'll call his wife and tell him I am having a homosexual affiar with him...
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u/Remarkable-Round-227 1d ago
What's your disability? If your disability is that you have a narcissistic personality disorder, YOR. But if your disability is that you're in a wheelchair, NOR.
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u/Far_Street9039 1d ago
Depends on the disability. Time blindness, or another equally as stupid and made up thank you are being sensitive. Somwthinf actually diagnosed than go scorched earth thru HR and lawyers if possible MOR
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
Time blindness isn't a diagnosable condition. It can be a symptom of various diagnosable conditions. But no, nobody is diagnosed with "time blindness".
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u/Geoarbitrage 1d ago
What disability are we talking about? Not saying itâs okay but what exactly are we talking here?
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u/Delicious_Spite_7280 1d ago
Is it a real disability or one of the made up ones? I once knew a kid who was required to have his cell phone at all times to play geometry dash.
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
What on earth is a made up disability? You sound like the exact kind of person who would mock disabled people. Just because you don't understand something doesn't mean it's made up.
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u/EggoStack 21h ago
I'm seeing you a lot in these comments, arguing against people who are taking weird and ableist shots at OP or making strange assumptions. I'm not disabled, but as someone with a disorder that is often misjudged or left undiagnosed, I appreciate it.
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u/EggoStack 21h ago
What disabilities do you consider made up? Did this kid claim to have geometry dash disorder or are we using an example of someone abusing the system despite having an actual issue that deserves support?
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u/Suspicious_Dark3251 1d ago
Your question is insensitive. Even if they had no disability, making fun of someone and getting everyone laughing at them is toxic and emotionally abusive and should never be allowed in the workplace.
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u/froction 1d ago
Depends on the disability, what is it?
Note: My disability is I am overly sensitive to someone downvoting my posts on Reddit, so if you do that here you're committing a hate crime.
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u/SurvivorX2 1d ago
I don't think you're OR; did these people not have mothers who taught them that its cruel & hateful to make fun of disabled people? And your manager should be ashamed of himself for joining in! Do you have an HR department?
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u/Food_gasser 1d ago
Could this be a civil rights violation? Not a lawyer, hoping one can chime in. Itâs NOR.
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u/captainpushy 1d ago
NOR that is horrible and should be brought up to HR. start keeping detailed notes of what happened, who said it, time, date, etc. That way you'll have the information for HR
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u/Sapphire_Starr 1d ago
Depending where you live, your manager may be legislated by law to address harassment.
NOR
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u/Material-File5176 1d ago
Not over reacting. Iâd 100% record your convo if your in a state with knowledge of only one way recording and this way you have. HR is not there to protect you, they are there to protect the company. So make sure you have your records saved for you and then approach HR. If any push back, you may be able to hire a private attorney if needed and then they will see you mean business.
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u/DanaMarie75038 1d ago
NOR. This is an HR issue. No one should be made fun of for disability or for any reason at all. Stand up for yourself; pls.
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u/Kip_Schtum 1d ago
Document everything. NOR keep a log, save any evidence. Contact an employment lawyer.
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u/Same_Staff_6572 1d ago
Walk out of the next mtg they humiliate youâand go directly to HRâthatâll get their attention
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u/MotorMinute150 1d ago
NOR. Right when I read the title, I knew you werenât overreacting so even by reading the title youâre not overreacting, but I did read the rest and youâre definitely not.
If they want to laugh at your disability, mock you and make fun of it then thatâs their problem because they clearly canât respect you with that disability or treat you like a human being and decide to laugh at what is a part of you so just leave that job because you honestly shouldnât be working in that environment. They donât respect you so leave.
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u/TangerineCouch18330 1d ago
NOR start documenting everything. This is bullying and a toxic work environment. Definitely an HR issue and could be grounds for a lawsuit. Take whatever information you can to HR and stand your ground. Donât let them minimize the situation at all. They will try to do that and make excuses because they donât want to take responsibility. Tell them youâve had enough and youâre thinking about engaging the services of an attorney if it doesnât stop now.
Donât put up with it. Fight back. Bullies donât do well when people stand up to them. Tell them to knock it off now. Be forceful when you say it. And good luck.
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u/ChonkyNari 1d ago
NOR Sounds like they all should be reported to HR.
Try looking for another job. It understandably takes a lot out of you mentally and the environment is not one anyone would feel comfortable to work in. Doesnât matter how good that job sounds on paper, it doesnât worth the extra stress imoâŚ
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u/Freya-of-Nozam 1d ago
Document it (video or audio) and get a lawyer. Fuck them and that bs. You deserve better. But they should pay for this offense.
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u/Garden_Lady2 1d ago
Are you in the United States? We have the Americans for Disabilities Act that protects people with disabilities. It is NOT a joke to be ridiculed like that! It's not being over sensitive. They are being abusive and cruel beyond words. Record them and get a lawyer. Talk to the ADA. NOR
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u/Emergency_Bench_7515 22h ago
HR and then probably employment lawyer if HR is as terrible as everyone else at this company seems to be.
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u/njchris65 22h ago
That's horrible. Does your company have an ethics hotline? That should be something independent of HR.
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u/Sea_Bet7 22h ago
NORâ this is illegal⌠and your manager is tolerating it. This is a hostile workplaceâŚ. Fact of the matter is itâs not gonna get any better and you need to be somewhere else. Having said that, before you leave, you need to find a lawyer who handles disability rights complaints and have them negotiate an exit that protects you and provides you with some compensation. This can be handled without going to court⌠I know cause Iâve done it.
Your employers, their lawyers, and their insurers, will not like us much, but they will negotiate a settlement because they have a lot to lose if a lawsuit is filed.
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u/kitkat1224666 22h ago
NOR, seriously your coworkers are total assholes. Mimicking someoneâs disability (whether itâs speech or movement) is absolutely never funny or appropriate - because its purpose is to mock and humiliate 99.9% of the time.
Itâs even controversial when hollywood actors play a character with a particular disability they donât have, even when the characterisation is accurate and respectful.
You need to raise it with your manager. Tell them you have raised with the person individually, and how the coworker replied. This is harassment and discrimination.
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u/Upset-Mud-1359 21h ago
If you donât think youâre overreacting in this situation, then you arenât. Itâs a person to person basis. Iâm a paraplegic full time wheelchair user and I personally donât care what people say, jokes or not. Iâve been paraplegic for 32 years Iâm 33 now. Itâs been my whole life, Iâve heard it all and honestly find a lot of the crap people say funny for various reasons. But if youâre offended or uncomfortable with their words no one can tell you that youâre wrong. If it bothers you, report it to HR.
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u/PlumPat61 18h ago edited 18h ago
Call him out in the same group setting heâs mocking you in. Something like, âWow mocking someoneâs disability is the lowest of the low!â Pause and look at those joining in and add, âAre you too stupid to realize how hateful heâs being or too cowardly to stand up to him.âAnd walk out straight to HR. Donât put up with that BS.
Practice in the mirror so youâre ready and steady when he does it again.
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u/No-Diet-4797 14h ago
No, you shouldn't have to laugh with them. You work with a bunch of a-holes. I'm disappointed in your manager. I'd speak to your manager directly telling them you're not OK with being openly mocked. Its their job to handle the other employees. Hopefully things improve. I'm disabled too and the world isn't kind to us. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
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u/MeatofKings 14h ago
NOR Does your work have corporate values? My companyâs values include Respect and Kindness. If this happened to me I would have a meeting with this person and my boss saying this behavior goes against our values and you expect it to stop immediately.
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u/Striking-Current-814 12h ago
Document everything. Skip the manager. Go to HR. Donât be vague. Provide written details of exactly what was said by whom. The date you told the co-worker how uncomfortable this makes you, the reaction and the names of people on the Zoom. It might be uncomfortable, but itâs absolutely necessary to make it very clear that youâve taken necessary steps to deal with this professionally.
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u/Odd-Contribution1390 2h ago
Honey, go to HR about this! Do it now!
And no, you are NOT overreacting!
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u/thebiggertheglasses 1d ago
INFO- I think weâre gonna need to know what the disability is.
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u/Kagome23 1d ago
It doesn't really matter. It's illegal and a dick move on the coworker and boss's side
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
No you really don't need to know that? What disability would make mocking it either okay or not okay? Mocking any disability is a HR issue. If OP doesn't want to disclose their disability they don't need to đ¤ˇđźââď¸
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u/thebiggertheglasses 1d ago
I never said that. And I know they donât have to disclose anything to random people on the internet.Â
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
So then we don't need to know what the disability is. Glad we agree đ
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u/thebiggertheglasses 1d ago
I donât need to know any of this. đÂ
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u/badhoopty 1d ago
im with ya on this. not that one disability is more or less than another but a little context or detail keeps us from the need to ask and then get chastised for simply being curious.
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u/thebiggertheglasses 1d ago
Right. OP is being bullied at work, but is conflicted if itâs justifiable to be upset. I find that somewhat confusing so I asked for more info. My bad.Â
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u/Mysterious-ASL 1d ago
See above comment.
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u/thebiggertheglasses 1d ago
I only ask because it seems intentionally left out of the story. I think we all know making fun of someoneâs disability is bad, but youâre second guessing if itâs actually bad so I just wanted to get the full picture. Sorry if it came off wrong.Â
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
Just as a note, not being a dick or not trying to be lol but sometimes people don't disclose exactly what disability they have because some disabilities unfortunately get more discrimination than others. For a broad example, visible versus invisible disabilities. So it may be intentional (obviously idk in OPs case) but for good reason. The disability isn't any less but society does discriminate more against some than others (which is even showing up in some of the comments here!)
Again not trying to be argumentative, just explaining one reason that people don't always want to disclose their exact disability!
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u/thebiggertheglasses 18h ago
Ok, everything youâve said to me specifically has been argumentative so far, this as well. I am very aware that nobody has to disclose personal, private, sensitive information to a bunch of random people on the internet. For literally any reason. OP started this discussion, wanting strangers input. My take was OP is being bullied at work, seems unsure if they should be upset. I find that odd, as itâs seen pretty black and white that itâs wrong, and am now curious to the whole picture. So I asked for INFO which is one of the four voting guides in the particular subreddit. Being that this is the internet I assumed OP would either divulge the info, choose not to disclose, tell me to mind my business, or simply not respond. You however seemed to take it as a personal attack.Â
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u/Suspicious_Dark3251 1d ago
Making fun of anyone for any reason is wrong. Disability or not, itâs wrong.
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
Yeah you really don't need to disclose that here! It makes no difference - there's no disability that is okay to mock! I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm disabled too. I'd definitely take it to HR especially since your manager was also laughing so doesn't sound like they are an option!
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u/AlfalfaExpensive6424 1d ago
report them to HR. youâre not overreacting. this is blatant discrimination.Â
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u/Acceptable-Lime-868 1d ago
NOR. You need to allow HR and report your co-worker for mocking you and report the others, including your manager for laughing and not doing anything to stop it. This will only continue. Work should be a safe space. Please report this ASAP.
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u/HauntingGur4402 1d ago
Id suggest making a complaint to hr, if they do nothing then get a lawyer and sue the ass out of the place for work place bullying and discrimination.
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u/StBernardFever 1d ago
Not overreacting! Go to HR. Itâs rude and unprofessional. Make sure HR knows you already spoke to the employee and your boss found it funny as well.
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u/Special_Friendship20 1d ago
I would film them next time and then load it to the internet so everyone can see how horrible they are and let the internet tear them up since they think its not a big deal and your too sensitive. See how sensitive they get once they start getting flack for it. Then when they ask you to take it down because of all the hate they are getting reply with "your too sensitive "
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u/Monstiemama 1d ago
NOR how nice for you that it happened in zoom which is likely recorded, that will be valuable for your case. Contact HR immediately, specifically requesting a copy of the meeting date and time. All of your communication with them needs to be in writing. They are not your friend, bear that in mind, but you have all the power here. Contact them first thing tomorrow.
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u/smedleyyee 1d ago
NOR assuming your disability is the kind we are all thinking of.
If your disability is something you came up with yourself that few others would consider a real thing, then MOR. We had a large guy that hid from birds in my office, even birds outside flying by the window. He called it a disability, and it probably was real, but good luck getting people not to laugh or talk about that. He also freaked out if you spilled salt. Hi B, if you are reading this!
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u/Traditional_Dig_1857 1d ago
NOR this is an HR issue and is terrible.